No. It hurts to know that someone I love and look up to looks down on me like that. If it was someone I didn't care that much about then yeah fuck it. But in this case, it hurts that the person you love can't see that.
Yeah I do because he's confident, he's got his shit together, he's street smart and book smart, and other stuff.
The love part is a little difficult cause I so love him but love is like this unexplainable thing that happens to you. You can't really jot down why you love that person but I just do, I think of him I see his name my heart beats...I feel alive again when I hear from him... its just this emotional slingshot
You still dont tell us what he did to cause it so all we have to go on is his accusation. Unless you tell us what he did we really cant judge. Sometimes people become assholes since they perceive normal behavior as an attack on them "Like my mother". While others become jerks because they are treated like jerks for so long. However without any kind of idea what he did we really cant judge, we just know he thinks you are a crazy bitch(His words yes?). If he wants to break up since he thinks you are crazy well yes that makes sense, if you truly are one has yet to be determined but if you want to know that you need to give us more details.
It doesn't seem like he wants to break up or leave me cause I'm a bitch but its more like I want to leave him cause he thinks that of me. Why would I want to be w someone who thinks something wrong of me? I want him to seee me as someone who lifts him up higher , someone friendly he can always come to cause that's what I genuinely do for him but he doesn't see it or appreciates it.
What has he done to bring that side of me? I think I did mention it somewhere here but I'll do it again ...
He doesn't present or show that I'm his Gf in public, he doesn't take me seriously when I talk about the same things he talks to me about, every time I just want have a conversation bout something he thinks I want to argue but he's just jumping to conclusions, he can be rough w me and disrespectful and inconsiderate of me in public, hell be nice to others but not me, and more. I get irritated at the end of the day but I don't think its to the point of a "bitch". I'll show him a real bitch and hell miss me being sweet to him.
And you still say you love this arsehole? There's nothing much there to even like, let alone love: you deserve better but you won't get it from him.
What form does the being "rough" with you in public take? If you mean physical roughness, it's time you got out of there fast. The rest of his behaviour is evidence he knows he can get away with anything with you because you "love" him and if his obvious contempt for you is also expressed physically, it's time you got away from him.
The part of you that's justifiably angry with him and wants to end it is healthy: listen to it!
Thanks for clarification: however I still think he's treating you really badly both in public and in private and it's entirely normal for you to be upset about that and to want to end it. I can't see any future for this relationship except more of the same so I'm still wondering why you're still in it.
You can't change anyone else, but you can change your response to the situation by either accepting he treats you badly and you love him so much you'll go on putting up with it, or get out.... I recommend the latter
Yep, Ive given him enough chances and every time felt right. Now, I think my ego has come back and if I give him another chance, I'll feel disgusted by myself. So basically I'm going to let him know that I am not a bitch or psycho first of all because of how I feel for him, that what I told whitestallion that my intentions are only to love him and trust me he is a good guy to where he will understannd me. But if he doesn't believe me and is stubborn about his opnion of me being a bitch, then I am out...especially on top WHY I might be acting like a bitch, all the reasons he gives me. He treats me basically like I don't deserve but he thinks I do deserve it cause I'm a bitch. If I were really a bitch then okay I understand I don't deserve the world, but knowing that theres no reason why he should look at me that way and therefore treat me accordingly without thinking twice, thats just frustrating and someone else will get the love from me and see it and appreciate it.
Yeah its like I love talking about him to my friends and family and I just have a feeling he doesn't do the same. Its irritating that he doesn't see how much I like being w him but he makes it seem like I'm a bitch so therefore, why would he want to talk about his girl when she's a bitch? But I'm not and idk how to make him think otherwise. I've already told him "I'm not crazy" and he goes "pple who say they're not crazy are crazy." Then hell see I'm upset and he goes "OK ur not crazy I'll leave it at that" just so I can shut up
Yep, relationships and breakups hurt sometimes, still not a reason to stay in a relationship that makes you unhappy with a person that makes you feel that way.
I honestly don't know what this comment means. I didn't realize we were arguing a point. I just gave my opinions on the facts you presented. I was not agreeing or disagreeing with you, or anyone else, that I was aware of.
But if that were the case, since I told you from the beginning to break up with him, and that is what you have decided, wouldn't be that you agreeing with me?
Well maybe i read it wrong but first you said "grow up and break up with him" but its not about "growing up" its what I responded that makes it hard to decide what to do.
Then you said I shouldn't stay with someone who makes me feel that way so again thats why I responded with yeah thats what I want to do. He makes me feel like shit cause I love him. It's not about being immature or growing up. It's about how he makes me unhappy.
You are taking that completely out of context. The growing up part was in reference to you saying that you were concerned about him saying things behind your back if you broke up, as if that would be a reason not to break up. That is what my entire first post was about. I don't know how you could have missed that, pretty much the entire post was me giving examples of other things he could say behind your back and then saying who gives a fuck what he says.
Not breaking up with someone who treats you poorly just because they may say something bad about you after is in my opinion childish. So if that is holding you back than you need to "grow up" as in "stop worrying about what he might say about you", and break up with him.
Actually him saying things behind her back is a perfectly good reason not to break up, not saying she should stay but people have done this before. Reputation is a very important thing.
If someone is going to go and slander your name since they believe you wronged them you could get bad publicity, you can lose friends, it could ruin your love life in the future, your career even. Once someone has tarnished your reputation its often hard to come back from it.
You obviously have no perspective and have never seen this done on a large scale to ruin a persons life, relationships, careers. So of course you dont understand how bad this could truly get. The mean words are not the issue, the giant sham campaign is.
My father ruined my reputation to his half of the family. I can no longer speak to them. the reasons was I did not call my mother a bitch. Yes silly me! So he had a mental break down, Told me to kill him, and freaked out kicking me out of the house. Then got harassed by my mother since she thought he committed suicide after lying saying she didn't care about him anymore.
Well I never did say I was going to stay w him because I don't want him to say anything bad about me. In fact, I just said I want to break up with him but its harder because of how I feel about him. I didn't say the possibility of him saying something bad about me is holding me back from breaking-up with him, it's how I feel about him thats holding me back.
So I think when you basically said to just "break up with him" and I said "yeah thats what Ive been saying I want to do," made me think you thought I was doing the opposite (staying with him) of what you were saying.
IIN if I want to break up with him because he thinks I'm a bitch?
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No. It hurts to know that someone I love and look up to looks down on me like that. If it was someone I didn't care that much about then yeah fuck it. But in this case, it hurts that the person you love can't see that.
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Yeah I do because he's confident, he's got his shit together, he's street smart and book smart, and other stuff.
The love part is a little difficult cause I so love him but love is like this unexplainable thing that happens to you. You can't really jot down why you love that person but I just do, I think of him I see his name my heart beats...I feel alive again when I hear from him... its just this emotional slingshot
You still dont tell us what he did to cause it so all we have to go on is his accusation. Unless you tell us what he did we really cant judge. Sometimes people become assholes since they perceive normal behavior as an attack on them "Like my mother". While others become jerks because they are treated like jerks for so long. However without any kind of idea what he did we really cant judge, we just know he thinks you are a crazy bitch(His words yes?). If he wants to break up since he thinks you are crazy well yes that makes sense, if you truly are one has yet to be determined but if you want to know that you need to give us more details.
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It doesn't seem like he wants to break up or leave me cause I'm a bitch but its more like I want to leave him cause he thinks that of me. Why would I want to be w someone who thinks something wrong of me? I want him to seee me as someone who lifts him up higher , someone friendly he can always come to cause that's what I genuinely do for him but he doesn't see it or appreciates it.
What has he done to bring that side of me? I think I did mention it somewhere here but I'll do it again ...
He doesn't present or show that I'm his Gf in public, he doesn't take me seriously when I talk about the same things he talks to me about, every time I just want have a conversation bout something he thinks I want to argue but he's just jumping to conclusions, he can be rough w me and disrespectful and inconsiderate of me in public, hell be nice to others but not me, and more. I get irritated at the end of the day but I don't think its to the point of a "bitch". I'll show him a real bitch and hell miss me being sweet to him.
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And you still say you love this arsehole? There's nothing much there to even like, let alone love: you deserve better but you won't get it from him.
What form does the being "rough" with you in public take? If you mean physical roughness, it's time you got out of there fast. The rest of his behaviour is evidence he knows he can get away with anything with you because you "love" him and if his obvious contempt for you is also expressed physically, it's time you got away from him.
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Maybe rough was the wrong term but more like careless, nothing physical. More like w words I guess.
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Thanks for clarification: however I still think he's treating you really badly both in public and in private and it's entirely normal for you to be upset about that and to want to end it. I can't see any future for this relationship except more of the same so I'm still wondering why you're still in it.
You can't change anyone else, but you can change your response to the situation by either accepting he treats you badly and you love him so much you'll go on putting up with it, or get out.... I recommend the latter
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Yep, Ive given him enough chances and every time felt right. Now, I think my ego has come back and if I give him another chance, I'll feel disgusted by myself. So basically I'm going to let him know that I am not a bitch or psycho first of all because of how I feel for him, that what I told whitestallion that my intentions are only to love him and trust me he is a good guy to where he will understannd me. But if he doesn't believe me and is stubborn about his opnion of me being a bitch, then I am out...especially on top WHY I might be acting like a bitch, all the reasons he gives me. He treats me basically like I don't deserve but he thinks I do deserve it cause I'm a bitch. If I were really a bitch then okay I understand I don't deserve the world, but knowing that theres no reason why he should look at me that way and therefore treat me accordingly without thinking twice, thats just frustrating and someone else will get the love from me and see it and appreciate it.
Well honestly who wants to stay when you think so little of them? I would not want to stay either.
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Yeah its like I love talking about him to my friends and family and I just have a feeling he doesn't do the same. Its irritating that he doesn't see how much I like being w him but he makes it seem like I'm a bitch so therefore, why would he want to talk about his girl when she's a bitch? But I'm not and idk how to make him think otherwise. I've already told him "I'm not crazy" and he goes "pple who say they're not crazy are crazy." Then hell see I'm upset and he goes "OK ur not crazy I'll leave it at that" just so I can shut up
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OP, you CAN'T change anyone else, stop trying and get a life for yourself away from this arsehole
Yep, relationships and breakups hurt sometimes, still not a reason to stay in a relationship that makes you unhappy with a person that makes you feel that way.
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Yeah thats why I'm going to break up with him lol so in the end you agree.
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I honestly don't know what this comment means. I didn't realize we were arguing a point. I just gave my opinions on the facts you presented. I was not agreeing or disagreeing with you, or anyone else, that I was aware of.
But if that were the case, since I told you from the beginning to break up with him, and that is what you have decided, wouldn't be that you agreeing with me?
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Well maybe i read it wrong but first you said "grow up and break up with him" but its not about "growing up" its what I responded that makes it hard to decide what to do.
Then you said I shouldn't stay with someone who makes me feel that way so again thats why I responded with yeah thats what I want to do. He makes me feel like shit cause I love him. It's not about being immature or growing up. It's about how he makes me unhappy.
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You are taking that completely out of context. The growing up part was in reference to you saying that you were concerned about him saying things behind your back if you broke up, as if that would be a reason not to break up. That is what my entire first post was about. I don't know how you could have missed that, pretty much the entire post was me giving examples of other things he could say behind your back and then saying who gives a fuck what he says.
Not breaking up with someone who treats you poorly just because they may say something bad about you after is in my opinion childish. So if that is holding you back than you need to "grow up" as in "stop worrying about what he might say about you", and break up with him.
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Actually him saying things behind her back is a perfectly good reason not to break up, not saying she should stay but people have done this before. Reputation is a very important thing.
If someone is going to go and slander your name since they believe you wronged them you could get bad publicity, you can lose friends, it could ruin your love life in the future, your career even. Once someone has tarnished your reputation its often hard to come back from it.
You obviously have no perspective and have never seen this done on a large scale to ruin a persons life, relationships, careers. So of course you dont understand how bad this could truly get. The mean words are not the issue, the giant sham campaign is.
My father ruined my reputation to his half of the family. I can no longer speak to them. the reasons was I did not call my mother a bitch. Yes silly me! So he had a mental break down, Told me to kill him, and freaked out kicking me out of the house. Then got harassed by my mother since she thought he committed suicide after lying saying she didn't care about him anymore.
Well I never did say I was going to stay w him because I don't want him to say anything bad about me. In fact, I just said I want to break up with him but its harder because of how I feel about him. I didn't say the possibility of him saying something bad about me is holding me back from breaking-up with him, it's how I feel about him thats holding me back.
So I think when you basically said to just "break up with him" and I said "yeah thats what Ive been saying I want to do," made me think you thought I was doing the opposite (staying with him) of what you were saying.
He makes you feel like shit and you love him?
That's not love!