I concur with the first poster, you have not described a healthy relationship. A guy who puts you down can't have that much respect for you and he'll probably end up cheating or leaving you.
Your man is supposed to make you feel like you're the prettiest, most special, most amazing girl in the world. Not tell you your flaws so you can "better yourself". The fuck you want to better yourself for when you're meant to be in a relationship with someone who loves you the way you are?
My boyfriend always tells me I'm his whole world and he's never met a funnier, prettier girl and I adore him for that. Imagine what a low self esteem I'd have if my own boyfriend constantly pointed out my flaws?
If i might play devils advocate. She put it like he was calling her out on things she doesn't like about herself and knows are flaws. Idk...maybe he is trying to help her. But you shouldn't feel inferior or whatever. I don't think that's right.
I tried to emphasize that he does NOT tell me on purpose that Im not good enough. Its all me. Whether its all in my head or it really is the truth regardless him confronting me about my flaws or not, I feel the most of myself when I'm with him. I think at this point, we have come a longer way than I thought considering my flaws, that he likes me enough to accept them and look passed them. I mentioned that I am intimidated by him because for me, he's perfect from his personality to his outlook on life and his looks are just the icing on the cake. This intimidation is what makes me feel low and worthless but what I'm most concerned about is why do I feel most comfortable in a place where I feel the lowest value? I can become this popular celebrity and not feel like myself while when I am this piece of work, I feel more myself.
IIN if I only feel like myself around him?
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I concur with the first poster, you have not described a healthy relationship. A guy who puts you down can't have that much respect for you and he'll probably end up cheating or leaving you.
Your man is supposed to make you feel like you're the prettiest, most special, most amazing girl in the world. Not tell you your flaws so you can "better yourself". The fuck you want to better yourself for when you're meant to be in a relationship with someone who loves you the way you are?
My boyfriend always tells me I'm his whole world and he's never met a funnier, prettier girl and I adore him for that. Imagine what a low self esteem I'd have if my own boyfriend constantly pointed out my flaws?
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If i might play devils advocate. She put it like he was calling her out on things she doesn't like about herself and knows are flaws. Idk...maybe he is trying to help her. But you shouldn't feel inferior or whatever. I don't think that's right.
I tried to emphasize that he does NOT tell me on purpose that Im not good enough. Its all me. Whether its all in my head or it really is the truth regardless him confronting me about my flaws or not, I feel the most of myself when I'm with him. I think at this point, we have come a longer way than I thought considering my flaws, that he likes me enough to accept them and look passed them. I mentioned that I am intimidated by him because for me, he's perfect from his personality to his outlook on life and his looks are just the icing on the cake. This intimidation is what makes me feel low and worthless but what I'm most concerned about is why do I feel most comfortable in a place where I feel the lowest value? I can become this popular celebrity and not feel like myself while when I am this piece of work, I feel more myself.