The only thing I'm noticing is that guys talk to you more than her, which is jealous worthy. Even her boyfriend couldn't help talking you up a storm. She probably wants to talk, but everyone seems more interested in what you have to say. Sounds like a perfectly good reason to be jealous, especially because you keep soaking up the attention. Going on and on like the life of the party. It's not that you have something and she doesn't, it's that you're taking something from her. She does fine talking to them alone (apparently- they talk to her), then you show up and she's on the backburner to them. I don't think you do it on purpose, but that's what happens.
I can't believe what I just read. Sounds like you're making me look like the bad one and like you can relate to her. Maybe you have some you're jealous of. It's okay that she's angry with herslf deep inside because she knows she doesn't know how to have a conversation cause she lacks knowledge? Wahh. I support her flaws until she does something stupid like this. Once she sees someone better than her, everyone has to have a bad time until shes happy again.
Exactly its not on purpose and its NOT MY FAULT that what I'm more interesting? okay. I probably am more interesting to talk to because she said it herself, she's boring to talk to and her bf got to let out a lot of conversation with me that he can't have with her. It's a low self-esteem issue she has and like I said, she needs to fix that in order to stop killing everyones time. Her issue not ours. She would always come talk to me about girls she thinks her bf is trying to get with and now me? her "best friend?" No. She needs more confidence in herself and I see her low self-esteem and still accept her. The problem I have here is she is not a true friend if she feels like she can only be my "friend" when SHE is happy. We're supposed to support each other on our way up not only on our way down. She sucks for this. That's why I said I hate most insecure/jealous people because they're the debbie downers because in reality, they don't dislike the other person, they dislike themselves and that's our fault? No.
So.. Did you come here to get people to side with you or to offer you perspective? It sounds like the former. Quite frankly, you're trying to make your friend look like a jerk so you can justify ending your friendship with her because you feel she's too needy. Just say she's too needy and end it. Don't further crush her self-esteem by ranting and raving, calling her a piece of shit.
You're just trying to turn everything onto her so you don't have to take responsibility for not being a great, supportive friend yourself.
You're the one saying she has low self-esteem and you're gonna make sure she knows that nobody wants her around on top of it. If me pointing that out makes you feel like a jerk, that's probably a sign for you to think about how insensitive you're being to her.
As for my own past, again I see how you like to turn things around on others. It couldn't possibly be that I'm a decent person, I must understand her because -gasp- I AM her! It's called compassion. Get some.
Lol wowzers again I can't believe what I just read. First of all, you CANNOT say I am not a supportive friend because you don't know us. So that was stupid.
The point is...it is unfair for everyone else to have a bad time just cause she is which leads me to feeling like she has been a fake friend this whole time. You're right, she is needy...that's another term I was missing to describe her. Thanks for that.
It looks like I'm talking major sh*t about her, but all I'm doing is venting because I'm frustrated since I thought she was a friend. If it was anyone else, I can care less. All of this though about her is completely true so it's not really talking sh*t. Basically everything I've said on here I'm going to tell her so I don't forget something. As a GOOD FRIEND, I want to talk to her and give her another chance rather than just walk away as annoying as sh*t she is being.
And insensitive? please...that's exactly what she wants from all of us as her bf even said...she wants everyone to baby her and chase her and make her feel better then once she does, pple can continue on.
It sucks after like two years of not seeing each other as much, she is still the same, jealous, insecure person I met. I thought she grew up like all of us did. Ive been there for her everytime she would feel like a piece of sh*t even that night of me and her bf. We stayed and talk and I was comforting her making her know that she's crazy to think we were flirting or something. Like I said, if her bf isn't going to leave her, I will if she is not going to change.
And I am not being a jerk, I am being honest, not a fake friend like she could possibly be.
IIN if I just hate jealousy?
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The only thing I'm noticing is that guys talk to you more than her, which is jealous worthy. Even her boyfriend couldn't help talking you up a storm. She probably wants to talk, but everyone seems more interested in what you have to say. Sounds like a perfectly good reason to be jealous, especially because you keep soaking up the attention. Going on and on like the life of the party. It's not that you have something and she doesn't, it's that you're taking something from her. She does fine talking to them alone (apparently- they talk to her), then you show up and she's on the backburner to them. I don't think you do it on purpose, but that's what happens.
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I can't believe what I just read. Sounds like you're making me look like the bad one and like you can relate to her. Maybe you have some you're jealous of. It's okay that she's angry with herslf deep inside because she knows she doesn't know how to have a conversation cause she lacks knowledge? Wahh. I support her flaws until she does something stupid like this. Once she sees someone better than her, everyone has to have a bad time until shes happy again.
Exactly its not on purpose and its NOT MY FAULT that what I'm more interesting? okay. I probably am more interesting to talk to because she said it herself, she's boring to talk to and her bf got to let out a lot of conversation with me that he can't have with her. It's a low self-esteem issue she has and like I said, she needs to fix that in order to stop killing everyones time. Her issue not ours. She would always come talk to me about girls she thinks her bf is trying to get with and now me? her "best friend?" No. She needs more confidence in herself and I see her low self-esteem and still accept her. The problem I have here is she is not a true friend if she feels like she can only be my "friend" when SHE is happy. We're supposed to support each other on our way up not only on our way down. She sucks for this. That's why I said I hate most insecure/jealous people because they're the debbie downers because in reality, they don't dislike the other person, they dislike themselves and that's our fault? No.
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So.. Did you come here to get people to side with you or to offer you perspective? It sounds like the former. Quite frankly, you're trying to make your friend look like a jerk so you can justify ending your friendship with her because you feel she's too needy. Just say she's too needy and end it. Don't further crush her self-esteem by ranting and raving, calling her a piece of shit.
You're just trying to turn everything onto her so you don't have to take responsibility for not being a great, supportive friend yourself.
You're the one saying she has low self-esteem and you're gonna make sure she knows that nobody wants her around on top of it. If me pointing that out makes you feel like a jerk, that's probably a sign for you to think about how insensitive you're being to her.
As for my own past, again I see how you like to turn things around on others. It couldn't possibly be that I'm a decent person, I must understand her because -gasp- I AM her! It's called compassion. Get some.
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Lol wowzers again I can't believe what I just read. First of all, you CANNOT say I am not a supportive friend because you don't know us. So that was stupid.
The point is...it is unfair for everyone else to have a bad time just cause she is which leads me to feeling like she has been a fake friend this whole time. You're right, she is needy...that's another term I was missing to describe her. Thanks for that.
It looks like I'm talking major sh*t about her, but all I'm doing is venting because I'm frustrated since I thought she was a friend. If it was anyone else, I can care less. All of this though about her is completely true so it's not really talking sh*t. Basically everything I've said on here I'm going to tell her so I don't forget something. As a GOOD FRIEND, I want to talk to her and give her another chance rather than just walk away as annoying as sh*t she is being.
And insensitive? please...that's exactly what she wants from all of us as her bf even said...she wants everyone to baby her and chase her and make her feel better then once she does, pple can continue on.
It sucks after like two years of not seeing each other as much, she is still the same, jealous, insecure person I met. I thought she grew up like all of us did. Ive been there for her everytime she would feel like a piece of sh*t even that night of me and her bf. We stayed and talk and I was comforting her making her know that she's crazy to think we were flirting or something. Like I said, if her bf isn't going to leave her, I will if she is not going to change.
And I am not being a jerk, I am being honest, not a fake friend like she could possibly be.
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Yeah, you're still coming off as a troublemaker. Sorry. You should end the friendship. She'd be better off.