So what about me? I love him and I want to be friends with him. I want to keep him around, be there for him, and I'd put my feelings away when another girl comes along. I guess it depends on the person and their perspective on love.
But I still hate the fact that I didn't meet him later in the future. I've kind of come to the conclusion that I don't know what I want because one day I am so sure about settling down and the next its like omg I'm so glad I'm single and free what was I thinking. when I'm feeling happy about being free, that's when I get frustrated about why didn't I meet him later. I haven't contacted him since that time I texted him and he didn't respond cause I'm seeing if he'll get to me. Plus my bday is next week so that'll be interesting if he wishes me a happy birthday or not.
I know it's difficult, but break ups are difficult. There's no magic bullet way of making them easy for anyone, you or him. I'm sorry. It takes two people to make a friendship happen and if he doesn't want one you'll just have to live with that, even though it hurts. That's what I mean when I say "you can't have your cake and eat it"; you can't get rid of the relationship but hang onto the friendship because those two things might be inseparable to him. That is the risk of breaking up; that you'll lose more than you anticipated.
This is difficult for him too. Sometimes break ups hurt us very very deeply. Maybe you hurt him very very deeply, and you've got to understand that when you hurt someone very very deeply they might not want to be friends with you ever again. The upshot of it all is that he ends up hurt by losing a girlfriend and you end up hurt by losing a friend. What can I say? That's what love does; it hurts. It seems lovely and perfect when you're in the middle of it but when you lose it you realise how painful it can be.
Who knows, maybe this will all work out and he'll be fine being friends with you. Or it might be that he won't, and all you can do is learn from this. You'll either have to play the waiting game and see if he contacts you or confront him face to face and make him give you closure (I'd recommend the latter).
Me too :) I don't want to lose him and because of how I feel about him, I won't let it happen. But I'm going to let it cool off a bit, maybe wait until summer when we're both not that busy.
I told him a while ago that I wanted to tell him something (which was getting back together) but only in person which I was gonna do this past spring break but we know how that turned out. Then he hit me with a bomb. He messaged me this quote saying it reminded him of me. It went something like "you can date a bad girl but you can't marry her" then he replies "that's you." I was pretty much speechless especially after asking "so what did you wanna tell me?" I told him "its gonna be awkward now that you told me that." But idc, I'm over it. I find it funny actually. He said he liked me being a bad girl though because I was a challenge for him and he enjoyed it. So he was kind of saying "thanks for that okay bye."
I don't know if its cause I have faith, but none of that stops me from confronting him and expressing myself. I just hope we can be face to face again regardless of it being awkward or not. So for now the waiting game until summer.
Is it normal if I feel this way about my last relationship?
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So what about me? I love him and I want to be friends with him. I want to keep him around, be there for him, and I'd put my feelings away when another girl comes along. I guess it depends on the person and their perspective on love.
But I still hate the fact that I didn't meet him later in the future. I've kind of come to the conclusion that I don't know what I want because one day I am so sure about settling down and the next its like omg I'm so glad I'm single and free what was I thinking. when I'm feeling happy about being free, that's when I get frustrated about why didn't I meet him later. I haven't contacted him since that time I texted him and he didn't respond cause I'm seeing if he'll get to me. Plus my bday is next week so that'll be interesting if he wishes me a happy birthday or not.
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I know it's difficult, but break ups are difficult. There's no magic bullet way of making them easy for anyone, you or him. I'm sorry. It takes two people to make a friendship happen and if he doesn't want one you'll just have to live with that, even though it hurts. That's what I mean when I say "you can't have your cake and eat it"; you can't get rid of the relationship but hang onto the friendship because those two things might be inseparable to him. That is the risk of breaking up; that you'll lose more than you anticipated.
This is difficult for him too. Sometimes break ups hurt us very very deeply. Maybe you hurt him very very deeply, and you've got to understand that when you hurt someone very very deeply they might not want to be friends with you ever again. The upshot of it all is that he ends up hurt by losing a girlfriend and you end up hurt by losing a friend. What can I say? That's what love does; it hurts. It seems lovely and perfect when you're in the middle of it but when you lose it you realise how painful it can be.
Who knows, maybe this will all work out and he'll be fine being friends with you. Or it might be that he won't, and all you can do is learn from this. You'll either have to play the waiting game and see if he contacts you or confront him face to face and make him give you closure (I'd recommend the latter).
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Me too :) I don't want to lose him and because of how I feel about him, I won't let it happen. But I'm going to let it cool off a bit, maybe wait until summer when we're both not that busy.
I told him a while ago that I wanted to tell him something (which was getting back together) but only in person which I was gonna do this past spring break but we know how that turned out. Then he hit me with a bomb. He messaged me this quote saying it reminded him of me. It went something like "you can date a bad girl but you can't marry her" then he replies "that's you." I was pretty much speechless especially after asking "so what did you wanna tell me?" I told him "its gonna be awkward now that you told me that." But idc, I'm over it. I find it funny actually. He said he liked me being a bad girl though because I was a challenge for him and he enjoyed it. So he was kind of saying "thanks for that okay bye."
I don't know if its cause I have faith, but none of that stops me from confronting him and expressing myself. I just hope we can be face to face again regardless of it being awkward or not. So for now the waiting game until summer.