Is it normal if i feel like i will always be a virgin?

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My bf and I have been trying to have sex at least three times and not only do i wanna lose it to him already but I just wanna lose it already! Im a horny, sexually frustrated girl who can't get it in. When he tries to put it in, it hurts plus Im thinking it hurts even more once its in (in terms of the first few times) so Im just suffering in pain when I haven;t even felt the real pain. He's also a virgin but before I felt like great we both don't know what were doing, but now I have more confidence in him, so its just me now, I think. Rather than staying horny, the pain takes it all away. Therefore, once i feel the pain, I just don't wanna do it anymore. I feel like at this rate, I am never gonna lose my virginity. Ive tried asking for alternatives but regardless, they all say its going to hurt, its unavoidable, you just have to get through it. I feel that if I could stay horny which would overcome the pain, then yeah itd be no problem getting through the pain but because I'm not a good pain taker, I just lose my horniness. I don't wanna be a virgin anymore, or I just wanna know how it feels already because as said earlier, I am horny and can produce my own orgasms but something is still missing, literally. I need his D up in my V.

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  • TerryVie
    11 years ago

    Okay, do the following:

    Get lube(!) and your favorite liqueur or wine.

    Before trying the next time, drink just enough to feel slightly tipsy. Like, nowhere near drunk, just enough to "know" you have consumed alcohol.
    Small amounts of alcohol both lower inhibitions(not really needed, but together with the second effect may cause you to stay horny longer) and increase your pain treeshold a bit.

    Use a little bit of lube on you and a more generous amount on his member.
    NO, it does not matter that you're all wet and horny. Trust me on that. You can be dripping with natural lubrication, it's still a different world if you use "artificial" lube.
    Most likely, this addition to your attempts alone will allow him to slide in. Yep, there's your pain part etc...but you will get used to it.

    Alternatively(if it still didn't work), if he's hung like a horse and you built like a mouse, buy a small dildo. The vagina is quite stretchable(hello childbirth), and you can "train" with a tool to make it more "accomodating" for his member. Again, use lube, possibly have mutual sex play with it, you may even try during that to fit him in.

    Best of luck. Let us know after you tried...in most cases, lube is the magic ingredient...

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      11 years ago

      Omg I was going to drink too ! But everyone was saying how I'll miss the feeling but for me, I think I'll enjoy it more. I'm a good a tipsy person.
      And ok with the lube but I heard theres kinds I should use and shouldn't. What do you suggest?

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      • TerryVie
        11 years ago

        so, any updates on your situation? :)
        Kind of wanted to look this up again and see how you fared. :)

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          11 years ago

          Oh man we tried again and we tried more times this time but no ahhhh however we didn't go shopping for the lube and stuff, we're gonna go this week so hopefully all goes well. He says it's mostly in and for me it just doesn't feel like a hole ! He also said to try it without a condom it might be easier and I thought it made sense but I decided not to, I didn't feel right. We also tried in front of the mirror but no progress, it just hurts and worries me because what if hes doing it the wrong way, I don't wanna damage anything

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      • shade_ilmaendu
        11 years ago

        I don't think there's any sensation lost, tipsy drunky sex is fun shit. :D

        If you're using it with condoms I think you need to avoid certain kinds. One I reccomend that I know works and is awesome is KY his and hers. One goes on you, one on him, and it's even more intense when they mix. (So if you're using a condom and want to feel the effect, dribble a little of both into his condom, then put yours on and his on the outside :P

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        • Captain_Kegstand
          11 years ago

          I agree, sex is fun sober or drunk. The experience is different drunk, but no less awesome!

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          • TerryVie
            11 years ago

            yep, but on her FIRST time actually experiencing penetrative intercourse, she wants to stay sober enough to remember details -_-

            But yeah, drunk sex is fun too. Drugged sex is best, though :)
            I ♥ mushrooms...

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            • Captain_Kegstand
              11 years ago

              Hmmm, something tells me that you would be hella fun! lolz

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      • TerryVie
        11 years ago

        Hehe, well, i agree once it "works normally", its generally more "intense" sober(or more "fun" on certain hallucinogenic drugs), but slightly tipsy won't really make you miss out on anything :)
        Just careful you don't get yourself drunk ^_^

        As for the lube, hu-hum...i know i once read up on the difference between water-based ones and others, but i'm afraid i don't exactly remember by heart. Also there's often different brands in different nations...i've never seen KY Jelly(or what the name was) around here.

        There's also a difference to how LONG they stay "luby". Personally i use a brand named "Aquaglide" available from internet vendors and sex shops.
        I just checked and e.g. in the US amazon shop, i found nothing of the sort.
        So which one exactly, not sure...maybe read up a bit on the product comments and find one you like, you can still pick it up at a store if you made up your mind, no need to order online :)
        I tried different ones over time, and while they may taste/feel slightly different or have different behaviour over time, for your intended purpose basically all should "provide" :)

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  • doxies4life
    11 years ago

    Honestly get on top. Thats what me and my girlfriend did. it helped her greatly at first. also if the pain isn't bad just go at it.

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  • spazatikal
    11 years ago

    Astroglide.

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  • duckdynastygirl
    11 years ago

    This sounds like my friend...

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  • drbishop
    11 years ago

    Make him give oral to you before entering the field. You will be more 'relaxed' afterward, therefore, things are going to be much less painful.

    You may try to use lots of lube as well, for first time I recommend this one for example:
    http://www.edenfantasys.com/sex-lubricants/water-based/system-jo-h2o-lubricant#pcode-TTF

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      11 years ago

      That's all we do right now since the whole sex thing isn't working yet. He gives me oral and my V is wet enough I feel good ready but like I said it goes away when I feel pain
      Imma look at the website

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      • drbishop
        11 years ago

        Okay check out that lube on that website.
        Try to do it very very slowly after you feel ready. Tell your guy to be very gentle.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          11 years ago

          Thanks, this looks good! But Im guessing you can only get it online huh?

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          • drbishop
            11 years ago

            If you find a sex shop in your area maybe they have it there as well, but ordering it from the site is more convenient.

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