Yeah I mean if he gets defensive it can go either way. He's either guilty or shocked and thinks I'm crazy for thinking such things. Also, for some reason which doesn't help, I can see him doing the second stuff more...like smiling and saying like "what? why?"
But you know he has jokingly accused me of liking his friend and cousin. He would say things like "so get with him" or "you want him to come I'll tell him to come if you want him to come so badly." It'll be funny if he feels the same way ; I'm more compatible with his friend and cousin than with him. And in my perspective, I wouldn't care if we are or not because in love my bf and he's it so I would hope he would feel the same way if I jokingly accused him of being compatible with her.
I would like to bring it up like that but like I said it would create more tension if he officially knows I am insecure about all of this so I rather keep it to myself
Jokingly accusing... that's not a good sign. The more you describe him, the more he's starting to sound emotionally manipulative.
I understand the feeling of love is a powerful thing, but it really sounds like you're sacrificing your self-respect for this guy and you don't seem completely happy in the relationship.
Maybe, thats what everyone says and I just don't believe he is being manipulative. The reason why is cause I think he isn't aware of the things he does. So in a way he's innocent? and he doesn't mean to manipulate me emotionally.
But at the same time, yeah I can admit I have sacrificed a lot of self-respect, if you wanna put it that way. Im usually not that way but like you said, love is a powerful thing and it makes you vulnerable. This is the first time Ive ever felt this way, where I lose my pride and guard especially for someone. I get insecure such as this whole thing with the other person and it drives me nuts. I remember when I used to not care about anything and things were a lot less stressful. Now I just naturally care but when it comes to anything that has to do with him.
But as I said before, he has jokingly accused me of that. Joking around for him has always been a way for him to get through something without real confrontation or stress. He just doesn't like confrontation or tension so in this case, he just joked about it like "oh want me to bring him over here?" Ill be like "um no" he's like "oh haha okay." If I confront him "do you think I have a thing for him? cause if you do I don't" and then he goes "what? no haha" Ugh and then he acts like he had nothing to do with me bringing that subject up when actually he did, he asked for it.
IIN if I feel like I brought my bf and sister together?
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Yeah I mean if he gets defensive it can go either way. He's either guilty or shocked and thinks I'm crazy for thinking such things. Also, for some reason which doesn't help, I can see him doing the second stuff more...like smiling and saying like "what? why?"
But you know he has jokingly accused me of liking his friend and cousin. He would say things like "so get with him" or "you want him to come I'll tell him to come if you want him to come so badly." It'll be funny if he feels the same way ; I'm more compatible with his friend and cousin than with him. And in my perspective, I wouldn't care if we are or not because in love my bf and he's it so I would hope he would feel the same way if I jokingly accused him of being compatible with her.
I would like to bring it up like that but like I said it would create more tension if he officially knows I am insecure about all of this so I rather keep it to myself
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Jokingly accusing... that's not a good sign. The more you describe him, the more he's starting to sound emotionally manipulative.
I understand the feeling of love is a powerful thing, but it really sounds like you're sacrificing your self-respect for this guy and you don't seem completely happy in the relationship.
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Maybe, thats what everyone says and I just don't believe he is being manipulative. The reason why is cause I think he isn't aware of the things he does. So in a way he's innocent? and he doesn't mean to manipulate me emotionally.
But at the same time, yeah I can admit I have sacrificed a lot of self-respect, if you wanna put it that way. Im usually not that way but like you said, love is a powerful thing and it makes you vulnerable. This is the first time Ive ever felt this way, where I lose my pride and guard especially for someone. I get insecure such as this whole thing with the other person and it drives me nuts. I remember when I used to not care about anything and things were a lot less stressful. Now I just naturally care but when it comes to anything that has to do with him.
But as I said before, he has jokingly accused me of that. Joking around for him has always been a way for him to get through something without real confrontation or stress. He just doesn't like confrontation or tension so in this case, he just joked about it like "oh want me to bring him over here?" Ill be like "um no" he's like "oh haha okay." If I confront him "do you think I have a thing for him? cause if you do I don't" and then he goes "what? no haha" Ugh and then he acts like he had nothing to do with me bringing that subject up when actually he did, he asked for it.
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There really aren't any excuses for him unless you allow them to be.