Yeah, I think the key is to not engage with people once I get those red flags about personality traits and character flaws. Also I'm trying to really take my time to get to know people. I don't need to hear someone's whole life story the first time I meet them nor do I need to share mine and the same goes for sharing dark personal secrets. I feel like over sharing with the wrong people creates weird bonds between people who are probably otherwise incompatible for friendship. I can have a lot in common with a person on a surface level but be incompatible because the level of boundaries I have to keep with the person are not conducive to friendship. I feel like I've been growing emotionally and mentally a lot within the past year and certain types of people I would have befriended in the past and related to I now find I can't seem to get far enough away from.
Is it normal if I cut off people and I'm fine with that?
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Yeah, I think the key is to not engage with people once I get those red flags about personality traits and character flaws. Also I'm trying to really take my time to get to know people. I don't need to hear someone's whole life story the first time I meet them nor do I need to share mine and the same goes for sharing dark personal secrets. I feel like over sharing with the wrong people creates weird bonds between people who are probably otherwise incompatible for friendship. I can have a lot in common with a person on a surface level but be incompatible because the level of boundaries I have to keep with the person are not conducive to friendship. I feel like I've been growing emotionally and mentally a lot within the past year and certain types of people I would have befriended in the past and related to I now find I can't seem to get far enough away from.