Have you had bad relationships in the past and maybe having trusting issues? That could contribute to the surrealness of the affair and that it cant possibly last without a flaw. Otherwise you may feel that you're falling into a trap and you dont want to get yourself hurt. Just keep yourself inreach of the relationship, but don't be totally available to him. Write down the pros and cons of the relationship and see if you and him are the real deal or indeed just a fling or affair.
By reading the part where you said I'm falling into a trap and don't want to get hurt, I can tell you that I have this thing where I lack self-disclosure. It's just once I feel like we've been getting too close, I'm like whoa okay I need to stop because I fear sharing my feelings will result into betrayal later on, like they can use my info to attack me. Because we're only seeing each other and nothing official, I don't want to get too close to him. But I don't know if that contributes to why I think of it being over. I haven't had real relationships in the past but have been involved with bad men before but I think the real thing here is I've seen it happen with friends or just people in general where the relationship goes wrong. So I have their flaws in my head to prevent that from happening to me.
Is it normal if I can't wait for my affair with this guy to be over?
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Have you had bad relationships in the past and maybe having trusting issues? That could contribute to the surrealness of the affair and that it cant possibly last without a flaw. Otherwise you may feel that you're falling into a trap and you dont want to get yourself hurt. Just keep yourself inreach of the relationship, but don't be totally available to him. Write down the pros and cons of the relationship and see if you and him are the real deal or indeed just a fling or affair.
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By reading the part where you said I'm falling into a trap and don't want to get hurt, I can tell you that I have this thing where I lack self-disclosure. It's just once I feel like we've been getting too close, I'm like whoa okay I need to stop because I fear sharing my feelings will result into betrayal later on, like they can use my info to attack me. Because we're only seeing each other and nothing official, I don't want to get too close to him. But I don't know if that contributes to why I think of it being over. I haven't had real relationships in the past but have been involved with bad men before but I think the real thing here is I've seen it happen with friends or just people in general where the relationship goes wrong. So I have their flaws in my head to prevent that from happening to me.