I've always tried to put the kids first, even those not "mine". Fatherhood is about much more than 5 seconds of goofy grin and a sperm donation.
I've done some shitty things in my life, but I can say with pride I've always tried to do the right thing for all of my 9 assorted children/stepchildren. While the system is getting better, it is still geared very heavily towards the mother - even if that is unwritten. Sadly, at least in Australia, there is no recognition of a non-biological non-adoptive father, at least unless you want a lengthy and drawn out legal battle (and years of sending everyone broke through the Family Court doesn't help anyone apart from the lawyers).
My days of relationships are over, irrespective of if the woman has kids or not. I'm all-but confined to bed now, and totally dependant on a government pension. I have nothing to offer any woman, and I accept that. That being said, if by some miracle some lost woman appeared at my door to ask for directions, the question of "do you have kids" would be asked well before "would you like a coffee". ;)
IIN I won't date a woman who has kids?
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I've always tried to put the kids first, even those not "mine". Fatherhood is about much more than 5 seconds of goofy grin and a sperm donation.
I've done some shitty things in my life, but I can say with pride I've always tried to do the right thing for all of my 9 assorted children/stepchildren. While the system is getting better, it is still geared very heavily towards the mother - even if that is unwritten. Sadly, at least in Australia, there is no recognition of a non-biological non-adoptive father, at least unless you want a lengthy and drawn out legal battle (and years of sending everyone broke through the Family Court doesn't help anyone apart from the lawyers).
My days of relationships are over, irrespective of if the woman has kids or not. I'm all-but confined to bed now, and totally dependant on a government pension. I have nothing to offer any woman, and I accept that. That being said, if by some miracle some lost woman appeared at my door to ask for directions, the question of "do you have kids" would be asked well before "would you like a coffee". ;)