Is it normal i want to be pregnant but don't want a baby?

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I can't explain, because I really don't know why myself, but I just really want to be pregnant. So badly!
The thing is I do not want a baby though. I have been very hands on with raising my nephew, now two years old, and he has made me realise that I may not even want children ever. It is so hard looking after him just for one day and it freaks me out thinking I would have to do it all day, every day for years.
I just want to be pregnant. It's just a massive desire. I was even thinking about getting pregnant with my partner but I am on a long term contraceptive and won't be able to conceive up until a long time after I come off it. I know it's for the best and in the long run will be happier without a baby but it actually makes me quite upset when I think about it.
Is this normal?

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Based on 82 votes (40 yes)
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  • NorthernStar
    11 years ago

    Why would you want to get pregnant? Do you want to have sagging boobs, a pouch, hemorrhoids, varicose veins and get fat? All that comes with pregnancy and regardless of what some women will tell you, you'll never the same after giving birth.

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    • lalcina
      11 years ago

      that doesnt happen to every pregnant women, it didnt to me

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  • Lynxikat
    11 years ago

    If you really want to be pregnant but not have a kid, why not be a surrogate?

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    • Nathan11
      11 years ago

      Wow! You came up with the only good answer I think.
      I'd love to see whet the asker got to say about it now.

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      • Anonymous Post Author
        11 years ago

        Surrogacy is not an option for me. I am a young person and a full time student. If I was to get pregnant then I suppose I would keep the baby.

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        • Lynxikat
          11 years ago

          How would being a surrogate not be an option? That doesn't make any sense. Wouldn't being being pregnant and keeping the baby be more of an interference to you being a full time student than being pregnant and giving the baby back to its biological parents when it's born?

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          • Anonymous Post Author
            11 years ago

            Surrogacy is a job and will turn into a full time one when I can no longer turn up to class. My professors aren't exactly going to believe my heart is in my course since im taking on full time jobs. I would probably be kicked out.
            Secondly its the fact I will be judged for being pregnant and then without the baby. I am an extremely young person, like I said before. Many girls have babies around here, but are definitely not surrogates. In fact, I know a few girls who have babies and still are full time students getting top grades.
            I do not know the legal side of surrogacy, but I am sure I am too young to do such a thing.

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            • Lynxikat
              11 years ago

              But that... still doesn't make any sense. I don't really know that much about surrogacy, but I don't see how living your life being pregnant with another couple's child is any different than being pregnant with your own; so how is that considered a full time job when being pregnant with your own child isn't?

              And if you're a surrogate, I have no idea on earth why people would judge you for being pregnant and NOT keeping the baby; surrogates don't keep the baby. That's kind of what a surrogate does; they give the child back to the couple once it's born. And those girls you know who have kids? Being a mother is a full time job. It's a full time job that they have until those kids grow up and get out of the house. Do the professors think that their heart isn't in their studies because they have full time jobs?

              If you don't want to be a surrogate, that's fine, but your logic just doesn't make any sense to me.

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  • ccjigsaw
    11 years ago

    It's probably that your maternal clock is ticking, so you physically want to have children but mentally don't because your nephew is so much trouble. You shouldn't let it stop you from having kids, just save it for the future.

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  • Abby13
    11 years ago

    I feel that way sometimes. I am very curious as what it would be like. Sometimes I try to imagine it, but I don't want children so I guess we'll never know.

    Or maybe we could be surrogates...

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  • myownopinions
    11 years ago

    You could always be a surrogate (unless you don't want to birth the baby and have to deal with all the hormonal changes). I think wanting a kid instinctively, but logically not wanting a kid is normal, but I voted not normal because I don't think actually wanting to be pregnant is normal.

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  • NeuroNeptunian
    11 years ago

    Most women have an innate biological desire to reproduce. As you have discovered, children are very difficult to raise and demanding on your body both during and after pregnancy and let's be honest, if women didn't have said desire, they'd probably never fucking reproduce BECAUSE children are such a pain in the ass. I am talking about decades ago when women were more social and spent enough time around other Mothers to know how difficult it was. Girls my age, now (at 20) tend to spend less time with their elders and more time with girls their age so they have little conception of how Motherhood is.

    My Mom didn't have daycare service for my brother until he was 1, so *I* was the daycare and trust me, I know exactly what you are talking about. It is a shame seeing girls with less experience with children than me jump into Motherhood without a clue and then receive that massive shock when they realize that it wasn't the cute, lovable, roses and maternal bliss lifestyle that the television set, which is what parents most of our generation now, made them believe that it is.

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  • dappled
    11 years ago

    A full day with a kid is a shock to the system for me. I think parents discover coping strategies and also have a permanently raised game but, even with that, it's still damned hard work.

    I wish more people had your understanding of how hard it is before diving in themselves.

    As for pregnancy, though, have you ever considered offering to be a surrogate mother? You'd be spreading a lot of joy to people who can't get pregnant and also you'll be the eternal Godmother of a baby you carried but don't have to look after.

    Be aware, though, that the bonding chemicals that flood your system straight after birth may make it painful to give a baby away, even one that isn't yours to begin with.

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  • robbieforgotpw
    11 years ago

    Please don't get pregnant just to abort the baby, that's very selfish. Find a hobby to entertain yourself.

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  • alexandriavaqueraqqwwqoou
    11 years ago

    Become a surrogate ...u can become pregnat but it wouldn't be your child....problem solved:)

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