I agree with you, and thank you for giving me a little insight.
I've tried becoming friends with women, but it feels awkward more than anything. Sometimes it's going great, but then there's this: I'm hanging out at the mall with a female friend, and guys keep talking to her, she complains and wish guys would stop, but then I looked her outfit... It's tight yoga pants and a small low cut blouse. Or when almost any female friend (even co-workers) are doing something that requires an outside opinion, I have to word everything carefully to avoid hurting feelings, because anything outside of this is great, you look nice automatically means you're shit.
With men nowadays, I can't tell if a man is trying to be my friend or just chating me up, and it's messing with my head and I don't want to assume all guys only talk to women for one thing, but it seems like it. Or while playing online games, I'm getting along great with a guy and then the question pops, "You're awesome. Are you a guy or girl," THIS right here decides how he'll think of me, not the many nights fighting monsters, surviving dungeons, and joking around. Nope. If I give an honest answer things gradually change. He's more polite, more careful of his words and jokes, giving me all the mats even though before the girl or boy thing, we agree that who ever gets it keeps it to craft their gear. It's just.... ugh. Then once I reveal I have a boyfriend, he becomes distant.
It's not just that either. Ever met the guy who has the perfect girl mapped out in his head? Or judge people based on music? If I unknowningly pass his expectations or he wants to see if my different from the other girls he met, I get questioned on music every fucking time, it's like a tie breaker. Top bands for many guys being ACDC, Rolling Stones, Queen, and Guns n Roses, and sometimes The Beatles, Pink Floyd, or Radiohead. I shit you not. If my taste in music doesn't match theirs, I'm neither worth talking to, nor taken seriously. Or if I do like something they're into, I get that surprise face, you know, that, "You're a girl, but like thiiiis??? What?!" expression. It's annoying as fuck, but a little funny too.
I'm not saying that the world should change for me, I just wish I could avoid all of that with guys. I watch my boyfriend get along with almost every guy he meets, and I'm stupidly envious at how he never has to go through this nonsense. Even when he disagrees on music, games, and more, they accept it. It's the same when I see other guys interact. It's nice. I want that.
IIN I want to be a guy sometimes?
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I agree with you, and thank you for giving me a little insight.
I've tried becoming friends with women, but it feels awkward more than anything. Sometimes it's going great, but then there's this: I'm hanging out at the mall with a female friend, and guys keep talking to her, she complains and wish guys would stop, but then I looked her outfit... It's tight yoga pants and a small low cut blouse. Or when almost any female friend (even co-workers) are doing something that requires an outside opinion, I have to word everything carefully to avoid hurting feelings, because anything outside of this is great, you look nice automatically means you're shit.
With men nowadays, I can't tell if a man is trying to be my friend or just chating me up, and it's messing with my head and I don't want to assume all guys only talk to women for one thing, but it seems like it. Or while playing online games, I'm getting along great with a guy and then the question pops, "You're awesome. Are you a guy or girl," THIS right here decides how he'll think of me, not the many nights fighting monsters, surviving dungeons, and joking around. Nope. If I give an honest answer things gradually change. He's more polite, more careful of his words and jokes, giving me all the mats even though before the girl or boy thing, we agree that who ever gets it keeps it to craft their gear. It's just.... ugh. Then once I reveal I have a boyfriend, he becomes distant.
It's not just that either. Ever met the guy who has the perfect girl mapped out in his head? Or judge people based on music? If I unknowningly pass his expectations or he wants to see if my different from the other girls he met, I get questioned on music every fucking time, it's like a tie breaker. Top bands for many guys being ACDC, Rolling Stones, Queen, and Guns n Roses, and sometimes The Beatles, Pink Floyd, or Radiohead. I shit you not. If my taste in music doesn't match theirs, I'm neither worth talking to, nor taken seriously. Or if I do like something they're into, I get that surprise face, you know, that, "You're a girl, but like thiiiis??? What?!" expression. It's annoying as fuck, but a little funny too.
I'm not saying that the world should change for me, I just wish I could avoid all of that with guys. I watch my boyfriend get along with almost every guy he meets, and I'm stupidly envious at how he never has to go through this nonsense. Even when he disagrees on music, games, and more, they accept it. It's the same when I see other guys interact. It's nice. I want that.