Is it normal i've given up on finding love?

I'm a 53 year old single man. I've never had a serious girlfriend. I've never had sex. I've only been on a handful of dates. People like me as a person, but women don't seem to like me romantically. I feel like if it hasn't happened by now, it's not going to happen, and I should just make best of it.

It kills me because I keep hearing about women being in abusive relationships. I have never abused a woman, physically or verbally, and I never would.

I'm a nice guy, people know it, but no one ever seems to be interested in me romantically.

It's been taking too long to find someone. I've given up.

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Based on 21 votes (18 yes)
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  • mauzi

    awesome, but don't go too into that "niceguy" side. a bit weird you bring up abusive relationships as though you think that's the reason people chose them. anyway, it doesn't sound like you've given up, but are asking for an explanation, so here goes. it's more likely that you're just boring. being nice shouldn't be a defining trait, it should be a basic human quality.

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    • I'm not saying that women purposely choose abusive relationships. I know they don't. I just hate seeing it happen so often. Thanks for the advice.

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  • Nikclaire

    I've always found that so called "nice" guys have unrealistic views of woman. They seem to think women don't want sex as much as men. They think women only want babies and relationships. They place unrealistic qualities on, and objectify idealized women.

    Try treating women as a person with wants and needs. Not something to be placed on a pedestal. We are humans too.

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    • Now that I'm reminded, I haven't seen you in a long time, if it is indeed you. Have a great day.

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      • Nikclaire

        Thanks you too and yes it is me, assuming me is me lol.

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  • LloydAsher

    Find yourself a nice place in Thailand, lots o beautiful women looking for love or a good time depends whatever it is it’s quite cheap. Sort out all your love stuff with that trip.

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    • Yeah OP, try some new “hunting grounds”

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  • Ummitsstillme

    I would recommending having sex with a prostitute. Go to Vegas where it is legal. Practice sex and then get on tinder. Meet women and have lots of sex. Don't fall i love with the hooker or the first tinder bitch. Meet a bunch of women.

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    • JustAHuman

      Prostitution is not legal in Vegas. It is legal in certain parts of Nevada, but not Las Vegas.

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  • Tealights

    It's hard to give this a solid answer, because none of us don't know you personally, so we can't really tell you why women avoid you.

    I dislike, "I'm a nice guy, why are women chasing these thugs!" Because my father says this a lot, and he's single at 50. Problem is he's misogynistic. He'll never hit a woman ever, but he is a product of his time. He doesn't expect much from women other than to cook, clean, praise, raise the children, and give him sex when asked. If a problem ever arise, then it's her fault. As in, she should have done this, she could have done that, or he would have done it this way. Instead of solutions, it becomes a lecture, a teaching moment for this incapable woman. Women who were interested in my father quickly lost interest after a few conversations with him, because of this air of superiority around him. Even with me, if I express knowledge he didn't expect for a woman to know, he'll be surprised and wonder if my boyfriend taught it to me or something (he's so ridiculous lol).

    Not saying this is something you do, because none of us know you. But really think of why you need a woman. No one needs a companion, because you have friends/pets. Loneliness is all in your head. Why is a relationship so important to you? What does it mean to have a partner?

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  • leggs91200

    I think most peoples' hormones have pretty much fizzled out by some point in their 40's. I doubt women in your dating age bracket are even wanting to date or have sex at this point. It is going to be an uphill battle.

    How though does someone make it even as far as age 30 without ever having had sex? Even if it's with someone they only did so because the bar was about to close.

    I know a lot of younger men and women feel like they NEED to have sex. Lack of it causes frustration, depression, and all other sort of bitter feelings. What usually happens though is once they end up pregnant and have to raise or pay for a child or both, suddenly those young folks realize that sex can come with a steep price tag.

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  • brutus

    Become an asshole, abusive assholes get all the girls.

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    • I can't do that.

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    • CureforAspergers

      He can’t do that. People are born with specific personalities.

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