You are not a person that I would have thought could have any enemies here: you have legendary awesomeness. You give rational insightful advice that people need to read, especially sex-advice. I may not have ever said so before but your one of my favourite users here - it bugs me that you've been made to feel this way.
Maybe everyone goes through this though because there seems to be a story like this every few weeks. I understand how you feel, I experienced something similar a few months back. It was horrible; not only was I harassed, I also found out that there were people spreading nasty lies about me. Back then, I was going through some heavy shit in my real life, so being ostracised on my favourite website was just another turd in the shit-bucket and I ended up quitting IIN for a while. Yeah, it's "just the internet" but we are all still *real* people in a social community and when you get treated like dirt by people in that community it kind of hurts.
Luckily, there were several terrific people that stuck by me during that crappy time and convinced me to come back--to ignore the haters. They were right and I'm glad I took their advice. You should too: Ignore the haters, Shade; there are people here who think you're pretty freakin' snazzy.
I'm one of them. :D
I know I've had it better than some people, I haven't wanted to name names but I've seen it happen to other users with controversial opinions as well. I just think it's kind of silly really, we should be using our words if we disagree with someone, not just pushing a button to make what they said go away.
And the judgement really needs to stop, I don't know how this place got so judgemental. Even in the cases of some of the more fucked up posts (though if you go way back in my history I was... more emotional when I started here. Long story XD) isn't tolerance and understanding a better catalyst for change than judgement and insults could ever be? Disrespect a person, and they're less likely to want to listen to you cause they're just gonna be pissed and discredit whatever you say as being an asshole at that point.
We're all so hard on each other, and I don't know if it's self righteousness or all false bravado, because we all tend to judge ourselves more harshly than we do others.
It's funny, we have so much technology and means of communication now, but I feel like we've never been more disconnected from each other..
Is it normal I've apparently made some enemies here?
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Oh man, that really sucks and it's surprising. :o
You are not a person that I would have thought could have any enemies here: you have legendary awesomeness. You give rational insightful advice that people need to read, especially sex-advice. I may not have ever said so before but your one of my favourite users here - it bugs me that you've been made to feel this way.
Maybe everyone goes through this though because there seems to be a story like this every few weeks. I understand how you feel, I experienced something similar a few months back. It was horrible; not only was I harassed, I also found out that there were people spreading nasty lies about me. Back then, I was going through some heavy shit in my real life, so being ostracised on my favourite website was just another turd in the shit-bucket and I ended up quitting IIN for a while. Yeah, it's "just the internet" but we are all still *real* people in a social community and when you get treated like dirt by people in that community it kind of hurts.
Luckily, there were several terrific people that stuck by me during that crappy time and convinced me to come back--to ignore the haters. They were right and I'm glad I took their advice. You should too: Ignore the haters, Shade; there are people here who think you're pretty freakin' snazzy.
I'm one of them. :D
Hang in there.
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I know I've had it better than some people, I haven't wanted to name names but I've seen it happen to other users with controversial opinions as well. I just think it's kind of silly really, we should be using our words if we disagree with someone, not just pushing a button to make what they said go away.
And the judgement really needs to stop, I don't know how this place got so judgemental. Even in the cases of some of the more fucked up posts (though if you go way back in my history I was... more emotional when I started here. Long story XD) isn't tolerance and understanding a better catalyst for change than judgement and insults could ever be? Disrespect a person, and they're less likely to want to listen to you cause they're just gonna be pissed and discredit whatever you say as being an asshole at that point.
We're all so hard on each other, and I don't know if it's self righteousness or all false bravado, because we all tend to judge ourselves more harshly than we do others.
It's funny, we have so much technology and means of communication now, but I feel like we've never been more disconnected from each other..