Maybe people in general just need to learn to focus on the positives. Anyone can look around and see negatives everywhere, sometimes it takes some effort to look for the beauty in each day. But it's everywhere, you just need to learn to take it with the ugliness around it. Duality is something that people really seem to struggle with, I don't know how historical this is but at least in discussion with people my generation (and a bit above, I have friends ranging from 16 into their 30s and 40s @.@)there seems to be a prevalence of black and white thinking.
I try very hard not to censor myself but also to always be respectful, but I know in the future I'm going to be more careful with posting something extremely vulnerable. Most things I'm able to shrug off pretty easily, the meaner shit that was on my last post didn't get to me too badly (maybe just a little at first :P) but the post I deleted, the top comment was pretty much the most painful thing I could hear in that situation. It's so bad I won't even talk about it anymore and it's made me much more self conscious about the issue in real life as well as on here.
And people do love to make assumptions don't they? It happens to the best of us, earlier a user I like quite a bit mistakenly thought I was in high school, lived at home, and never had pets because I left that information out of my comment. It was easily enough amended, and that's how it is with the people who are worth it... have a misunderstanding? Clarify and fix it and be friends again. Yay.
I think you've basically answered your own post with the best advice you could give yourself:
"People in general just need to learn to focus on the positives. Anyone can look around and see negatives everywhere, sometimes it takes some effort to look for the beauty in each day. But it's everywhere, you just need to learn to take it with the ugliness around it."
Focus on the positives of IIN and accept the inevitable ugliness with the beauty, then you won't feel so upset or so victimised, and you won't need to post stories like this :)
Funny how that happens. Discussing the issues is a fantastic prompt for figuring shit out on your own XD I think a lot of times all you need is that internal dialouge, that's why talking really helps so much. A little bit of it is venting but I think far more of it is giving you time and focus to work out your own solutions.
And I was partly doing this for others as well, because I know I'm not the only one and some people get picked on way worse than me.
Is it normal I've apparently made some enemies here?
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Maybe people in general just need to learn to focus on the positives. Anyone can look around and see negatives everywhere, sometimes it takes some effort to look for the beauty in each day. But it's everywhere, you just need to learn to take it with the ugliness around it. Duality is something that people really seem to struggle with, I don't know how historical this is but at least in discussion with people my generation (and a bit above, I have friends ranging from 16 into their 30s and 40s @.@)there seems to be a prevalence of black and white thinking.
I try very hard not to censor myself but also to always be respectful, but I know in the future I'm going to be more careful with posting something extremely vulnerable. Most things I'm able to shrug off pretty easily, the meaner shit that was on my last post didn't get to me too badly (maybe just a little at first :P) but the post I deleted, the top comment was pretty much the most painful thing I could hear in that situation. It's so bad I won't even talk about it anymore and it's made me much more self conscious about the issue in real life as well as on here.
And people do love to make assumptions don't they? It happens to the best of us, earlier a user I like quite a bit mistakenly thought I was in high school, lived at home, and never had pets because I left that information out of my comment. It was easily enough amended, and that's how it is with the people who are worth it... have a misunderstanding? Clarify and fix it and be friends again. Yay.
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I think you've basically answered your own post with the best advice you could give yourself:
"People in general just need to learn to focus on the positives. Anyone can look around and see negatives everywhere, sometimes it takes some effort to look for the beauty in each day. But it's everywhere, you just need to learn to take it with the ugliness around it."
Focus on the positives of IIN and accept the inevitable ugliness with the beauty, then you won't feel so upset or so victimised, and you won't need to post stories like this :)
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Funny how that happens. Discussing the issues is a fantastic prompt for figuring shit out on your own XD I think a lot of times all you need is that internal dialouge, that's why talking really helps so much. A little bit of it is venting but I think far more of it is giving you time and focus to work out your own solutions.
And I was partly doing this for others as well, because I know I'm not the only one and some people get picked on way worse than me.