I'm sure you'd know me if I decided to come out of hiding, I'm wondering if I really *need* to be anonymous on this one or not. Considering the topic.... mayyybe I'll unclick anonymous on this one, haha.
I will admit to joking around from time to time, but I don't think I've ever done it on a post that was actually serious. If I did, oops. :x
I kind of do feel like this should be a better place for support, considering it is essentially an advice site. But judgement and self inflation seem to be all the rage these days.
I know a lot of people get it worse than me. There's one user on here whom I regret saying something harsh to, because an aspect of their person is something I'm very much against, but even to those with the most controversial opinions I am making an effort to always be respectful. There are a few people I know of who get way too much crap just for believing a certain way or holding certain views, and it really isn't fair.
What does bother me more than anything is the post I made that I had to delete a couple months back. It was a more controversial issue (one that I no longer feel comfortable to discuss openly) but something that had been troubling me for a long time, and the responses I got were exactly what would make me feel the most guilty about it. That still bothers me even now, and it bothers me when I see other users being attacked or mocked for something that, to them, is a very big deal.
And it is really annoying to see helpful, informative content buried. I know yet another user who had to deal with that all the time, I always thumb his shit up when I see people doing it inappropriately.
Yeah, I know who you are:P. You're one of the best users here, in my opinion. I'm not surprised this is your post, because to me, you seem like one of the most honest users and they are the ones who tend to get abuse.
I would say ignore it, but that's not really the best advice. There are supportive members here, and I tend to value the opinions of those users more than someone who finds fun in thumbing people down.
I have a lot of respect for people who are honest, especially when it means they are open about things which are personal to them. I'd hate for anyone to feel like they can't be like that here just because some twat with issues abuses them just because they're miserable and feel the need to drag everyone else down. I say keep up the great comments (because they *really* aren't worthy of thumbs down) and you do have people here to support you:)!
Ignoring it really is the best thing to do in a lot of circumstances, there was just that one post I made that I really truly couldn't, without explaining it was kind of a heavy thing the person said to me and they were a more respected user on this site.
And it is funny how that works. Maybe it really scares people that badly, that some of us are so open to showing vulnerability and them knowing they want to and are too afraid. Because honestly who doesn't want to be able to open up and let all the things they lock away spill out. It's so cathartic, but it's such a dangerous thing to do because you're basically just rolling over and giving people a chance to kick you.
I try to give useful advice most of the time, but occasionally(seldom) I'll troll if I feel the OP deserves it.
Sometimes I get pissed off when my serious comments get thumbed down and the troll/hateful ones not.
My most likely comments to get thumbed down seem to be those discouraging destructive/self-destructive behaviour.
I also sometimes delete posts and comments when they get too much hate.
I do thumb other people's comments back up when I feel they were wrongly thumbed down, but sometimes there's just too many haters.
I was thinking of making a post like yours but I was too lazy, so thanks for saving me the effort, you've outlined how I too feel about this site quite closely.
Yeah, that does bother me too. I'll troll if I think it's a troll post, but I generally try not to. There've been a few times I've cracked a stupid joke expecting it to get buried and it ends up near the top. XD
And that is really strange... you would think people would *want* to discourage destructive behavior. O.o
Hah, I know some people get really annoyed and cry drama when you delete a post due to controversy. Isn't that kind of backwards though? By deleting it you're just avoiding the drama altogether, that's how I see it.
^^ this is why I'm more active on EP now. Nothing but a kind ear, open discussion and respect for others views. Well that's how I have found it to be.
Sometimes I regret buying gold here, there seems to be a clique that I just cannot break into.
I think that's just because people aren't on here all the time, we don't always comment on the same posts as the people we would best get along with, and some of it is it just takes time for people to notice. You've only been here a little while, it took me over a year to really become ingrained in the community here.
I've definitely noticed you, I just don't always take enough initiative to start up conversations, but I'm sure if I have other people have too. :)
I highly suggest you remain anonymous and only reply to your post incognito if you want an honest opinion. Also make sure every aspect of the question is contained within the anonymous post.
I actually agreed w someone's comment, but they had a problem with how I expressed myself. It bugged them so much they private messaged me letting me know they didn't like me and told me to f*** off. I don't know that psycho from Adam. He's obviously taking this site and himself too seriously. But I''ll gladly set a punk straight if they want to start something.
Is it normal I've apparently made some enemies here?
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I'm sure you'd know me if I decided to come out of hiding, I'm wondering if I really *need* to be anonymous on this one or not. Considering the topic.... mayyybe I'll unclick anonymous on this one, haha.
I will admit to joking around from time to time, but I don't think I've ever done it on a post that was actually serious. If I did, oops. :x
I kind of do feel like this should be a better place for support, considering it is essentially an advice site. But judgement and self inflation seem to be all the rage these days.
I know a lot of people get it worse than me. There's one user on here whom I regret saying something harsh to, because an aspect of their person is something I'm very much against, but even to those with the most controversial opinions I am making an effort to always be respectful. There are a few people I know of who get way too much crap just for believing a certain way or holding certain views, and it really isn't fair.
What does bother me more than anything is the post I made that I had to delete a couple months back. It was a more controversial issue (one that I no longer feel comfortable to discuss openly) but something that had been troubling me for a long time, and the responses I got were exactly what would make me feel the most guilty about it. That still bothers me even now, and it bothers me when I see other users being attacked or mocked for something that, to them, is a very big deal.
And it is really annoying to see helpful, informative content buried. I know yet another user who had to deal with that all the time, I always thumb his shit up when I see people doing it inappropriately.
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Yeah, I know who you are:P. You're one of the best users here, in my opinion. I'm not surprised this is your post, because to me, you seem like one of the most honest users and they are the ones who tend to get abuse.
I would say ignore it, but that's not really the best advice. There are supportive members here, and I tend to value the opinions of those users more than someone who finds fun in thumbing people down.
I have a lot of respect for people who are honest, especially when it means they are open about things which are personal to them. I'd hate for anyone to feel like they can't be like that here just because some twat with issues abuses them just because they're miserable and feel the need to drag everyone else down. I say keep up the great comments (because they *really* aren't worthy of thumbs down) and you do have people here to support you:)!
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Ignoring it really is the best thing to do in a lot of circumstances, there was just that one post I made that I really truly couldn't, without explaining it was kind of a heavy thing the person said to me and they were a more respected user on this site.
And it is funny how that works. Maybe it really scares people that badly, that some of us are so open to showing vulnerability and them knowing they want to and are too afraid. Because honestly who doesn't want to be able to open up and let all the things they lock away spill out. It's so cathartic, but it's such a dangerous thing to do because you're basically just rolling over and giving people a chance to kick you.
I try to give useful advice most of the time, but occasionally(seldom) I'll troll if I feel the OP deserves it.
Sometimes I get pissed off when my serious comments get thumbed down and the troll/hateful ones not.
My most likely comments to get thumbed down seem to be those discouraging destructive/self-destructive behaviour.
I also sometimes delete posts and comments when they get too much hate.
I do thumb other people's comments back up when I feel they were wrongly thumbed down, but sometimes there's just too many haters.
I was thinking of making a post like yours but I was too lazy, so thanks for saving me the effort, you've outlined how I too feel about this site quite closely.
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Yeah, that does bother me too. I'll troll if I think it's a troll post, but I generally try not to. There've been a few times I've cracked a stupid joke expecting it to get buried and it ends up near the top. XD
And that is really strange... you would think people would *want* to discourage destructive behavior. O.o
Hah, I know some people get really annoyed and cry drama when you delete a post due to controversy. Isn't that kind of backwards though? By deleting it you're just avoiding the drama altogether, that's how I see it.
You're ok.
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So here's a hug. You are still #1. (For today Herr Tomcat)
And if you tell anyone of this, besides IIN, I will kill you :)
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Indeed I do.
^^ this is why I'm more active on EP now. Nothing but a kind ear, open discussion and respect for others views. Well that's how I have found it to be.
Sometimes I regret buying gold here, there seems to be a clique that I just cannot break into.
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I think that's just because people aren't on here all the time, we don't always comment on the same posts as the people we would best get along with, and some of it is it just takes time for people to notice. You've only been here a little while, it took me over a year to really become ingrained in the community here.
I've definitely noticed you, I just don't always take enough initiative to start up conversations, but I'm sure if I have other people have too. :)
I highly suggest you remain anonymous and only reply to your post incognito if you want an honest opinion. Also make sure every aspect of the question is contained within the anonymous post.
I actually agreed w someone's comment, but they had a problem with how I expressed myself. It bugged them so much they private messaged me letting me know they didn't like me and told me to f*** off. I don't know that psycho from Adam. He's obviously taking this site and himself too seriously. But I''ll gladly set a punk straight if they want to start something.