I think it is WAY more important to have kids when you have the maturity and income to be able to properly support and take care of them. Sure, you can think of it like "oh, if I have kids at X age I will be Y age when they are finally on their own!", but that completely ignores all of the pieces that need to fall into place for a good environment for children to thrive (have a good career started, owning a house, in a stable and committed relationship, etc.)
There is a major problem in this country of people having kids when they're unable to support them. Children born to parents who were careless, who don't love (or can't stand each other), have no idea about their own responsibilities, and are in and out of halfway houses grow up having such horrible and broken lives. I would much rather have a mom and dad that are 8 years older and properly raised / supported me than younger parents that couldn't do shit for me.
I have a few friends whose wives pushed them into having more kids than they wanted because she was like "I told myself I would have all the kids I was going to have by the time I'm 30"... even though the first few kids were out of wedlock and they were behind on the bills. A few years down the road, they would've gotten ahead on their down payment on a house, paid off their student loans and debt on cars, and been much better off.
Is it normal I think anyone who has kids at 28+ is mean?
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I think it is WAY more important to have kids when you have the maturity and income to be able to properly support and take care of them. Sure, you can think of it like "oh, if I have kids at X age I will be Y age when they are finally on their own!", but that completely ignores all of the pieces that need to fall into place for a good environment for children to thrive (have a good career started, owning a house, in a stable and committed relationship, etc.)
There is a major problem in this country of people having kids when they're unable to support them. Children born to parents who were careless, who don't love (or can't stand each other), have no idea about their own responsibilities, and are in and out of halfway houses grow up having such horrible and broken lives. I would much rather have a mom and dad that are 8 years older and properly raised / supported me than younger parents that couldn't do shit for me.
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Shackleford96
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I think you hit the nail on the head with that one. I wish more people understood this. I feel like people where I'm at don't get it.
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I have a few friends whose wives pushed them into having more kids than they wanted because she was like "I told myself I would have all the kids I was going to have by the time I'm 30"... even though the first few kids were out of wedlock and they were behind on the bills. A few years down the road, they would've gotten ahead on their down payment on a house, paid off their student loans and debt on cars, and been much better off.
I just don't understand the mentality.