I think perhaps you misinterpreted my comment. Or maybe I wasn't clear. I met my husband on an online dating website so I definitely am not against them. You don't need to defend them to me.
I was just suggesting that the OP speaks to people in real life to gain confidence, because that is necessary even when using online dating because at some point you have to meet up in real life.
Ahhh yes it appears I did. Maybe it's because the last two comments on this post I read said online dating was shit. So when I saw "you have to meet people in real life" in your comment I thought oh boy here we go again.
Omg you met your husband online? Which site?
Tinder is the only site I have gotten sex from but others seem better for long term more serious shit based on what I've heard.
And yeah I agree with the last bit. Meet people irl to develop social skills and hey if you meet girls, cool! But cold approaching women is really tough and online dating is a great alternative. One thing I really like about online dating is it's easy to show your intention. By the time I see my tinder dates in real life they already know I like them so it takes out the mystery and having to drop hints and all that shallow shit. Gets right down to business.
I think it was eHarmony, back when it first launched. Or maybe Match.com? This was a loooong time ago haha. I may have to check with my husband.
It worked well for us because we both had the sort of jobs that take over your life so we didn't have time to meet people in real life. But I do think we benefited from being part of a society where people usually met in real life, simply because it meant we both had confidence with the opposite sex. The downside to that was that there was a HUGE stigma against online dating. Back then people thought it was just for losers and weirdos. When I told my friends I was meeting a man I met online they all immediately starting panicking and warned me I was going to end up in pieces in somebody's basement. My husband said he was told that I was probably a disgusting freak who looked nothing like my picture.
I think it's nice that this stigma has been lifted. I do also think that people may be too reliant on these sites now and that the social arts are not what they once were, but it's normal for these things to change over time. Different doesn't mean worse. I'm sure my granny's generation would have told you that telephones were destroying the art of face to face conversation.
eharmony and match are two of the biggest more serious ones so yeah probably on of them. eharmony is my guess because that site is older.
Yeah the stigma of online dating use to be huge. I feel like it's still there though honestly. Half my mates who know I use tinder think I'm some thirsty creeper. I also bugs me how like guys think tinder is just hoes looking for one night stands and shit when that is 100% wrong. I haven't had a single ONS off there and every girl I saw at least twice. Add to that how many girls were hardcore commitment and got turned off just when they knew I was dating other people. That doesn't sound like hoe behavior to me.
Anyways, its definently possible to be too reliant on tinder but to me it's pretty difficult. I'm meeting women in person enough on there and I have enough friends to where I get enough face to face already in my opinion. Some might call meeting all my women ok tinder "cheating" but hey I'm not breaking any rules and it's always going to be available to me so imma keep doing it.
Is it normal I think about having sex everyday?
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I think perhaps you misinterpreted my comment. Or maybe I wasn't clear. I met my husband on an online dating website so I definitely am not against them. You don't need to defend them to me.
I was just suggesting that the OP speaks to people in real life to gain confidence, because that is necessary even when using online dating because at some point you have to meet up in real life.
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Ahhh yes it appears I did. Maybe it's because the last two comments on this post I read said online dating was shit. So when I saw "you have to meet people in real life" in your comment I thought oh boy here we go again.
Omg you met your husband online? Which site?
Tinder is the only site I have gotten sex from but others seem better for long term more serious shit based on what I've heard.
And yeah I agree with the last bit. Meet people irl to develop social skills and hey if you meet girls, cool! But cold approaching women is really tough and online dating is a great alternative. One thing I really like about online dating is it's easy to show your intention. By the time I see my tinder dates in real life they already know I like them so it takes out the mystery and having to drop hints and all that shallow shit. Gets right down to business.
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I think it was eHarmony, back when it first launched. Or maybe Match.com? This was a loooong time ago haha. I may have to check with my husband.
It worked well for us because we both had the sort of jobs that take over your life so we didn't have time to meet people in real life. But I do think we benefited from being part of a society where people usually met in real life, simply because it meant we both had confidence with the opposite sex. The downside to that was that there was a HUGE stigma against online dating. Back then people thought it was just for losers and weirdos. When I told my friends I was meeting a man I met online they all immediately starting panicking and warned me I was going to end up in pieces in somebody's basement. My husband said he was told that I was probably a disgusting freak who looked nothing like my picture.
I think it's nice that this stigma has been lifted. I do also think that people may be too reliant on these sites now and that the social arts are not what they once were, but it's normal for these things to change over time. Different doesn't mean worse. I'm sure my granny's generation would have told you that telephones were destroying the art of face to face conversation.
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eharmony and match are two of the biggest more serious ones so yeah probably on of them. eharmony is my guess because that site is older.
Yeah the stigma of online dating use to be huge. I feel like it's still there though honestly. Half my mates who know I use tinder think I'm some thirsty creeper. I also bugs me how like guys think tinder is just hoes looking for one night stands and shit when that is 100% wrong. I haven't had a single ONS off there and every girl I saw at least twice. Add to that how many girls were hardcore commitment and got turned off just when they knew I was dating other people. That doesn't sound like hoe behavior to me.
Anyways, its definently possible to be too reliant on tinder but to me it's pretty difficult. I'm meeting women in person enough on there and I have enough friends to where I get enough face to face already in my opinion. Some might call meeting all my women ok tinder "cheating" but hey I'm not breaking any rules and it's always going to be available to me so imma keep doing it.