You are unlikely to find the sort of women you're looking for on dating apps. Look at the polls and charts, in particular google the frankly terrifying OKCupid charts, and you will see that hypergamy is in full swing in online dating. Put simply, a large majority of average women would rather be passed around by high value men, than to date meaningfully at their own level of attractiveness.
There is nothing to be done here except to avoid online dating entirely, not because there is anything innately wrong with it but because women who are serious about relationships also avoid it.
Go out!
Yes, you will have trouble getting into bars, but cafes that are set up like bars tend to encourage socializing rather than the "invisible cubicle" thing you see at Starbucks or other laptop cafes. Depending on where you live you can probably also hang out in beer & wine places so long as you don't sit at the bar. I made a lot of friends at one of these cafes, including the staff, and I never once saw a regular carded at the bar. (Don't put them in that position, wait for them to offer.) I wasn't too young to go to bars at the time, but I was too socially awkward, and the time I spent at that restaurant and among its regulars made me confident to start frequenting good bars.
At which point just make sure you don't show up to the bar looking for pussy. In fact avoid entirely bars that have a reputation for being a meat market. Have something interesting going on in your life, get to know the regulars, hang out with the bartender on a slow night, go to people's shows and events. The best way to find yourself a quality woman is through her friends, so put yourself in a position where whoever the right girl for you is, you just so happen to know her friends, and they all love you.
I am going to disagree that dating sites are worthless. This year I have had sex with six women and EVERY SINGLE ONE I met on tinder with the free version. If you have the looks to get the swipes and good converstaion skills you can get connected very easily. I used to approach women at my cafeteria and a few in my classes as well but could not get shit! Few "meh" dates at best but no sex.
It's true that if someone's looks are very poor they should not bother with tinder, but an average guy with good photos and conversation skills can get good results on tinder, especially in a big city. However, I still would not say it's the BEST way to meet women, just the easiest.
Nope. I am in one open-relationship and have one fuck buddy at the moment. Then I have actually a date with a new girl tommorow off tinder. Constantly looking for more quality casual.
Is it normal I think about having sex everyday?
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You are unlikely to find the sort of women you're looking for on dating apps. Look at the polls and charts, in particular google the frankly terrifying OKCupid charts, and you will see that hypergamy is in full swing in online dating. Put simply, a large majority of average women would rather be passed around by high value men, than to date meaningfully at their own level of attractiveness.
There is nothing to be done here except to avoid online dating entirely, not because there is anything innately wrong with it but because women who are serious about relationships also avoid it.
Go out!
Yes, you will have trouble getting into bars, but cafes that are set up like bars tend to encourage socializing rather than the "invisible cubicle" thing you see at Starbucks or other laptop cafes. Depending on where you live you can probably also hang out in beer & wine places so long as you don't sit at the bar. I made a lot of friends at one of these cafes, including the staff, and I never once saw a regular carded at the bar. (Don't put them in that position, wait for them to offer.) I wasn't too young to go to bars at the time, but I was too socially awkward, and the time I spent at that restaurant and among its regulars made me confident to start frequenting good bars.
At which point just make sure you don't show up to the bar looking for pussy. In fact avoid entirely bars that have a reputation for being a meat market. Have something interesting going on in your life, get to know the regulars, hang out with the bartender on a slow night, go to people's shows and events. The best way to find yourself a quality woman is through her friends, so put yourself in a position where whoever the right girl for you is, you just so happen to know her friends, and they all love you.
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I am going to disagree that dating sites are worthless. This year I have had sex with six women and EVERY SINGLE ONE I met on tinder with the free version. If you have the looks to get the swipes and good converstaion skills you can get connected very easily. I used to approach women at my cafeteria and a few in my classes as well but could not get shit! Few "meh" dates at best but no sex.
It's true that if someone's looks are very poor they should not bother with tinder, but an average guy with good photos and conversation skills can get good results on tinder, especially in a big city. However, I still would not say it's the BEST way to meet women, just the easiest.
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Aren’t you married?
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Nope. I am in one open-relationship and have one fuck buddy at the moment. Then I have actually a date with a new girl tommorow off tinder. Constantly looking for more quality casual.