Is it normal i still consider myself a virgin?

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Even though I'm technically not? I have never had a boyfriend, the only boy I've ever loved and kissed is my son. I was sedated and made pregnant at a party by a man in his late 20s two years ago when i was 15, I dont think its counts because i think having sex means that both people are participating in it. I think he just selfishly used my body. I didnt realize what he did until a couple months later when I felt sick and the doctor told me i was pregnant w/ my son.

is it wrong i consider myself a virgin? it upsets me when people assume i have all this experience when really i have none, ive just made peace with the situation and try to be the best mother to my son that i can be. it hurts when people assume things about my reputation.

thanx,
cheryl xx

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  • Short4Words
    10 years ago | pl

    Yea me too. Your virginity is a gift and I believe you still have it.

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  • dappled
    10 years ago | pl

    Medically, you're obviously not a virgin but I could understand why you see yourself as a virgin psychologically. It would take someone very hard-hearted to force you to include your experiences as part of your sex life.

    I think this is normal.

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  • AquaTurtle
    10 years ago | pl

    I was forced into sex the first time when I didn't want it. It took me quite awhile to come to terms with it. It's complicated, and saying I was raped didn't feel right. I also felt like a virgin, though I knew I 'wasn't.'

    I finally came to the conclusion that emotionally, I still was a virgin. Virginity for me wasn't just physical. It was emotional, a connection that I missed out on, a lot of things I missed out on. So I think it's perfectly acceptable.

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  • ccjigsaw
    10 years ago | pl

    You didn't really experience sex, so I'd say so.

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  • q25t
    10 years ago | pl

    I'll agree with you here. I think losing your virginity comes when you engage in sexual activity and since you weren't engaged in it at all, then you're still virgin.

    That said, I think people that judge you as having experience that you don't have does make sense, even if it's unjustified. For 99% of people in your situation, that would be a valid assumption.

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