I think minor spanking incidents would be considered normal parenting discipline, but excessive spanking would fall into the abuse category , especially if the parent enjoys it and does not clearly articulate why the child needs a spanking...you sound as if the spanking had some abusive elements to it...and you are experiencing long term effects of abuse....which is recurrent thoughts,fear, confusion, pain,etc....also screaming is form of emotional abuse...a little is normal obviously but a lot is abusive..it is hard to reason with people who are abusive as they will justify their actions or say that you made them do it..often it is how they were raised....
even with normal disciplinary spanking, feelings can be hurt. It all depends on who does it, and who receives the punishment...
My dad is very scary and serious. I am a coward. Everything he said hurt me a lot. I remember that I once in first grade I brought home the class mascot, a teddy bear. Everybody was allowed to take turns keeping it for a weekend, and we had the option of writing a journal entry in a book about our weekend with him.
Being the airhead I am, I thought it was mandatory, and confessed to my dad on Monday morning that I had forgotten about it. He, of course, flew into a rage and started to kick me and say bad things to me, but it wasn't the hitting that hurt, it was the words.
Even today, I realise that i am kind of messed up from my dad always punishing me. But I think if I were a stronger person and he was a more soft spoken one it wouldn't be like this. My mom yells at me, but she somehow isn't as scary so I just act like a normal teen.
IIN I remember being spanked as a child , and it still bothers me?
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I think minor spanking incidents would be considered normal parenting discipline, but excessive spanking would fall into the abuse category , especially if the parent enjoys it and does not clearly articulate why the child needs a spanking...you sound as if the spanking had some abusive elements to it...and you are experiencing long term effects of abuse....which is recurrent thoughts,fear, confusion, pain,etc....also screaming is form of emotional abuse...a little is normal obviously but a lot is abusive..it is hard to reason with people who are abusive as they will justify their actions or say that you made them do it..often it is how they were raised....
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even with normal disciplinary spanking, feelings can be hurt. It all depends on who does it, and who receives the punishment...
My dad is very scary and serious. I am a coward. Everything he said hurt me a lot. I remember that I once in first grade I brought home the class mascot, a teddy bear. Everybody was allowed to take turns keeping it for a weekend, and we had the option of writing a journal entry in a book about our weekend with him.
Being the airhead I am, I thought it was mandatory, and confessed to my dad on Monday morning that I had forgotten about it. He, of course, flew into a rage and started to kick me and say bad things to me, but it wasn't the hitting that hurt, it was the words.
Even today, I realise that i am kind of messed up from my dad always punishing me. But I think if I were a stronger person and he was a more soft spoken one it wouldn't be like this. My mom yells at me, but she somehow isn't as scary so I just act like a normal teen.