My brain is trying to formulate a coherent response to these two comments.
I agree that this woman sounds as though she really does think that nobody would sleep with her. Now we do not know her circumstances and it could be that where she lives there is not enough people for her to see much possibility for sex. Maybe she only wants casual sex and she is afraid of how she will be judged for that. We just do not know, so it is hard to decide if her self esteem is the true cause for her actions.
Yes, thr, I do think that if a guy had his self-esteem as the cause for paying for sex that he is treating himself badly. In fact, I know a guy who did exactly that. I think it is sad because he is quite a nice guy and his most unattractive quality is his fears and paranoia about himself. So Avant-Garde's advice is exactly the same as what I have said to my male friend.
Yet I hold the opinion that it is totally okay if a person of either gender is paying for sex because they wish to circumvent the usual social means of acquiring a sex partner, and all parts are aware of the situation, and nobody gets hurt. However, such persons should be aware of the consequences. It breaches the moral code of a lot of people. So my advice keep it to yourself, be at ease with the decision you made and your reasons for doing so and keep it private.
You make some excellent points here. In general, I think that paying for sex and/or casual sex really cheapens the concept of "love". I realize that this is probably not what these sorts of people are looking for, but still. The Mainstream acceptance of this really goes to show just how much society has changed. Before Sex became commonplace in the media and society became obsessed with it, this was completely unheard of. There were many taboos associated with this. The only exception I can think of is the "tradition" where American fathers would take their young sons to prostitutes, who in turn, would show them the ropes. Afterwards, they would no longer be boys, they would be men. Of course, this is outlawed today, but that was the mentality back then. There probably are still some fathers who have this mentality and have passed it on to their sons. Who in turn, probably act on it when they become of legal age.
It depends on how you look at it. In general, society seems to view this as being normal. I think that it has roots in my country's past where in which, when a boy reached a certain age, their fathers would take them to prostitutes. These prostitutes would show them the ways of the world and then after the session, when they came back to their fathers, they ceased to be boys because, now they were men. Anyway, this practice is now outlawed and rightly so, but I believe that these father's who had this mentality passed it on to their sons who in turn, also did the same with their sons. And so on. (etc)
Let's say that a man is prostituting himself, his is then treating himself with very little to no respect. His clients aren't going see him like a person or treat him like one. They are going to treat him like a fucking object.
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I'm curious: If it had been a guy who had paid a female friend for some sex, had he then treated himself like some worthless object?
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My brain is trying to formulate a coherent response to these two comments.
I agree that this woman sounds as though she really does think that nobody would sleep with her. Now we do not know her circumstances and it could be that where she lives there is not enough people for her to see much possibility for sex. Maybe she only wants casual sex and she is afraid of how she will be judged for that. We just do not know, so it is hard to decide if her self esteem is the true cause for her actions.
Yes, thr, I do think that if a guy had his self-esteem as the cause for paying for sex that he is treating himself badly. In fact, I know a guy who did exactly that. I think it is sad because he is quite a nice guy and his most unattractive quality is his fears and paranoia about himself. So Avant-Garde's advice is exactly the same as what I have said to my male friend.
Yet I hold the opinion that it is totally okay if a person of either gender is paying for sex because they wish to circumvent the usual social means of acquiring a sex partner, and all parts are aware of the situation, and nobody gets hurt. However, such persons should be aware of the consequences. It breaches the moral code of a lot of people. So my advice keep it to yourself, be at ease with the decision you made and your reasons for doing so and keep it private.
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You make some excellent points here. In general, I think that paying for sex and/or casual sex really cheapens the concept of "love". I realize that this is probably not what these sorts of people are looking for, but still. The Mainstream acceptance of this really goes to show just how much society has changed. Before Sex became commonplace in the media and society became obsessed with it, this was completely unheard of. There were many taboos associated with this. The only exception I can think of is the "tradition" where American fathers would take their young sons to prostitutes, who in turn, would show them the ropes. Afterwards, they would no longer be boys, they would be men. Of course, this is outlawed today, but that was the mentality back then. There probably are still some fathers who have this mentality and have passed it on to their sons. Who in turn, probably act on it when they become of legal age.
It depends on how you look at it. In general, society seems to view this as being normal. I think that it has roots in my country's past where in which, when a boy reached a certain age, their fathers would take them to prostitutes. These prostitutes would show them the ways of the world and then after the session, when they came back to their fathers, they ceased to be boys because, now they were men. Anyway, this practice is now outlawed and rightly so, but I believe that these father's who had this mentality passed it on to their sons who in turn, also did the same with their sons. And so on. (etc)
Let's say that a man is prostituting himself, his is then treating himself with very little to no respect. His clients aren't going see him like a person or treat him like one. They are going to treat him like a fucking object.