Age does bring wisdom. I mean look at you at your youthful age of 25ish and she is 14.
When you get much older you do see things more clearly. Not only that but you have experienced much of what life has to offer. I can tell you now that I am much more experienced and more knowledgeable than some young person who has finalized their psychology degree.
Ironically I even went out with a girl who had completed a psychology degree, trust me, she had NO idea of life.
What you stated about her past does require a trusted source to help guide her through these present issues. I have read all your words, and guess what, you are not the trusted source.
The reasons why I say this is because you have other interests that may (and will) interfere with what she really needs and how to get back on top. Note: This is why I mentioned 'it is a 100% proven success rate in all conditions'. 'All' was implying even the bad times.
She does NOT need a male figure in her life at the moment. If I was speaking directly to her I'd even say maybe stay away from bf/gf relationships until you get yourself sorted out. Note these teenage issues can last a lifetime (or further as in future babies/children) if the young girl is not given the proper care.
Care for children is as follows:
A roof over their head and their own bed.
Education through normal educational institutions like a school.
Love and respect by a trusting carer who ONLY has her best interests at heart
Food and proper diet. This means a balanced diet to the best of your ability.
A trusted guardian/parent to provide this, otherwise they will be cared for by the government.
Health (Note this is the main area you fall down in, as for the others you likely do as well) Health means getting her the proper support. Removing abusers or even taking them to court. Seeking doctors/counselors (for physical and mental well being)
Confirming any present issues (even drugs or substance abuse) physical issues are taken care of. And on going support with a psychologist 'referred' by a doctor.
Also note, the police should be advised of her present living arrangements and safety. She can't live no where.
You are not in a position to do this as you have romantic feelings for her. By the way which I have already addressed in post1 These actions are wrong and unlawful no matter what. It actually shows your immaturity and unsafe habits to minors. Children should definitely not be left in your care atm.
Post2 I spoke about why she has 'mistakenly' gone for you. I even mentioned anyone could do this! The reason why we stop is because of 1. The law 2. Safety for the minor 3. Maturity of you (You address none of these)
Post3 (this one) is RE-advising you that YOU are NOT in the best position to look after a troubled 14yo girl. This shows clearly, by you not even understanding and taking in what I write to you.
You are not normal
Sadly the situation is.
This girl (hopefully if she is allowed to read here, unlikely of course!) should seek help immediately. The police can help refer you to safe trusted house and home, where you can grow and become a lady. Who knows, you could be a child helper yourself one day. I VERY much doubt you will say go to a 25yo who has immature sexual feelings for you!
Time to wake up. All things must end. It would be nice if YOU could be the mature one and make the first decent move.
Of course I'm not, we are basically friends over the internet who happen to give EACHOHTER something they need at the moment, understanding and compassion. I am open and honest with any girl I meet. I don't lie about my age and I share my face plainly, as I do here on my actual profile.
Obviously I cannot provide for her in the ways you stated at the moment. That doesn't mean I wouldn't be willing to.
These actions are NOT unlawful where I come from.
I have heard everything you said, certainly by now you know I'm my own man and can listen to your advice while still disagreeing, and dismissing most of it.
I'm of the opinion only she knows what's best for her. I'm not a fan of a law that says plainly you have to be 17 or 18 before you can THINK for yourself.
And if she could or does read here it wouldn't make bit of difference, because we've already discussed much of what I'm talking about here together. YES, believe it or not she is capable of understanding the age difference and the ramifications behind it.
Bottom line is, I will not turn her away, to me that would make me just another man in her life that let her down. She can make the decision to walk away on her own. I am not a danger to this girl, or any other, no matter how much you try to paint me as one.
Is it normal I make 14 year old girls fall in love with me?
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Age does bring wisdom. I mean look at you at your youthful age of 25ish and she is 14.
When you get much older you do see things more clearly. Not only that but you have experienced much of what life has to offer. I can tell you now that I am much more experienced and more knowledgeable than some young person who has finalized their psychology degree.
Ironically I even went out with a girl who had completed a psychology degree, trust me, she had NO idea of life.
What you stated about her past does require a trusted source to help guide her through these present issues. I have read all your words, and guess what, you are not the trusted source.
The reasons why I say this is because you have other interests that may (and will) interfere with what she really needs and how to get back on top. Note: This is why I mentioned 'it is a 100% proven success rate in all conditions'. 'All' was implying even the bad times.
She does NOT need a male figure in her life at the moment. If I was speaking directly to her I'd even say maybe stay away from bf/gf relationships until you get yourself sorted out. Note these teenage issues can last a lifetime (or further as in future babies/children) if the young girl is not given the proper care.
Care for children is as follows:
A roof over their head and their own bed.
Education through normal educational institutions like a school.
Love and respect by a trusting carer who ONLY has her best interests at heart
Food and proper diet. This means a balanced diet to the best of your ability.
A trusted guardian/parent to provide this, otherwise they will be cared for by the government.
Health (Note this is the main area you fall down in, as for the others you likely do as well) Health means getting her the proper support. Removing abusers or even taking them to court. Seeking doctors/counselors (for physical and mental well being)
Confirming any present issues (even drugs or substance abuse) physical issues are taken care of. And on going support with a psychologist 'referred' by a doctor.
Also note, the police should be advised of her present living arrangements and safety. She can't live no where.
You are not in a position to do this as you have romantic feelings for her. By the way which I have already addressed in post1 These actions are wrong and unlawful no matter what. It actually shows your immaturity and unsafe habits to minors. Children should definitely not be left in your care atm.
Post2 I spoke about why she has 'mistakenly' gone for you. I even mentioned anyone could do this! The reason why we stop is because of 1. The law 2. Safety for the minor 3. Maturity of you (You address none of these)
Post3 (this one) is RE-advising you that YOU are NOT in the best position to look after a troubled 14yo girl. This shows clearly, by you not even understanding and taking in what I write to you.
You are not normal
Sadly the situation is.
This girl (hopefully if she is allowed to read here, unlikely of course!) should seek help immediately. The police can help refer you to safe trusted house and home, where you can grow and become a lady. Who knows, you could be a child helper yourself one day. I VERY much doubt you will say go to a 25yo who has immature sexual feelings for you!
Time to wake up. All things must end. It would be nice if YOU could be the mature one and make the first decent move.
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Of course I'm not, we are basically friends over the internet who happen to give EACHOHTER something they need at the moment, understanding and compassion. I am open and honest with any girl I meet. I don't lie about my age and I share my face plainly, as I do here on my actual profile.
Obviously I cannot provide for her in the ways you stated at the moment. That doesn't mean I wouldn't be willing to.
These actions are NOT unlawful where I come from.
I have heard everything you said, certainly by now you know I'm my own man and can listen to your advice while still disagreeing, and dismissing most of it.
I'm of the opinion only she knows what's best for her. I'm not a fan of a law that says plainly you have to be 17 or 18 before you can THINK for yourself.
And if she could or does read here it wouldn't make bit of difference, because we've already discussed much of what I'm talking about here together. YES, believe it or not she is capable of understanding the age difference and the ramifications behind it.
Bottom line is, I will not turn her away, to me that would make me just another man in her life that let her down. She can make the decision to walk away on her own. I am not a danger to this girl, or any other, no matter how much you try to paint me as one.