Young girls ARE attractive, they are fun and everything is pure and wonderful.
Why only a few thousand years ago around 14 was the normal relationship stage.
I've seen many attractive teenagers, even people comment at times. What a beautiful girl you are etc etc etc.
What guys and our entire society, do these days is NOT act on such things.
We have confirmed that young teenagers (as awkward as they generally are, both physically and emotionally) are just not ready for a relationship with an older man. They may say they love or like you or even want to get to know you, but give it a few years and they'll also be taking you to court! Basically their mind is still developing. How they feel now is NOT how they will feel in 6months or a year or two.
It is not safe for YOU (let alone the girl, but I'll leave her out of this) to be forming any type of relationship with a young teenager online. Definitely this is an area that police monitor, plus everything you do online is logged and kept. Its safe to say, stop immediately and probably go offline for a while!
Guys look at attractive teenagers all the time (as per the above comments, most won't admit it) You cannot act on this.
NO game relationship building
NO messaging or emailing
NO meeting ever (and do note you could be quite possibly building a relationship with a cop and not a girl!)
These feelings of yours should be redirected from admiring innocent beauty, to trying to get into a normal relationship. You know you're 25ish, having an 18yo gf most won't freak out! BEST to find a legal older girl (really meaning 18, 19, 20, 21 area) before you get too old and DO look strange with them too. Actually you are very lucky that you are 25 and can meet young (adult) ladies
Don't waste your life on pics, movies and 'Internet' girls. Go out and actually find a real young adult girl that you can hold and kiss, even in public!
By the way, an 18,19,20,21 yo girls are already VERY young. Yes they are legal, but seriously don't miss this chance with them. Oh and grow with them in a relationship.
To answer some of what you said. I don't care who is monitoring me or what is being logged. I've never propositioned a minor for sex, or naked pictures, nor do I intend to, so I'm pretty sure I'm in legal territory.
I am not some internet nerd that wastes his life having online relationships. I am actually on the rebound from a recent real life relationship. I don't feel like 'getting involved' again at the moment.
I do like younger girls I say it proudly, that doesn't mean it's exclusive. It's just semi-erotic hobby of mine right now that usually lasts less than an hour out of my whole day. Other than that I'm an average mid 20s single working joe.
I understand the 'fun' involved. But since you brought up why are they even attracted to you to begin with (your other replies), I may as well tell you.
The reason is because you are older, you know what they want (through conversation, emotional support and even physical contact)
It all seems quite simple when you're older. Its true to say that any older guy could easily do what you are doing. When a 14yo girl says: 'I hate that bitch face friend of mine' The 'normal' response from any other 14yo would be, 'Why, what's wrong? Are you ok?' This is just all too normal girl talk.
But you (in the picture) could address the specific issue and resolve it in minutes!
I mean seriously the girl would think you are her hero.
Basically its giving the girl exactly what she wants/needs (to hear, or feel, or even a shoulder to lean on) Kinda like a spoilt brat would get.
Generally many girls miss out on this around the 14, 15, 16 age from their parents. Either the parents are sick to death of her attitude! Or they have had a moments lapse, or the 'girl' herself just won't open up to her parents any longer. Since other 14yo girls/boys have no idea how to handle the situation, along comes you.
Here's the concern. And note, we (society in general) fully respect the following.
An adult (other than parent) should NOT interfere with a young girl's life. EVEN if you could easily help, or make them even more happier. The girl needs to grow up with her friends and age group, it is a 100% proven success rate in all conditions.
When you throw a spanner into the works (ie you) then anything could happen.
The girl may not grow in maturity.
She may miss out on her own age group friends and fun times.
She may decide to take her own life. ie Not fitting in anywhere now!
She may even have early pregnancy (and note, it may not even be from you, YOU just made her feel its ok to be with older men!)
It is a CRITICAL time. Just ask any parent. These girls are extremely sensitive. They are still learning right from wrong, good from bad. I mean seriously they only started menstrual cycle not long before that! They are still getting use to their own body.
They may still be in the I love Justin Bieber stage, they have NO idea what love is at all, But they are learning with their friends. (oh, same age group friends)
Its up to you to make a mature and responsible decision (even if you enjoy their company, or even if you are attracted to them, or even if anything you can think of!) To NOT be a part of their life.
Their life consists of other friends their age. Their parents (by the way, do not get involved with others 'parenting' techniques, they have been with her since birth!) And probably their loving pets. Let alone schoolwork, and house duties etc.
You need to be strong and let go.
Agree that you like them. But you MUST let go for them, think of it as saving their lives.
Oh, and I don't think you truly picked up my point earlier. 18 is young. Seriously you WILL enjoy this age group (and higher) and being 25 you are missing out on all the real fun. Note: Sleep overs at 18 is VERY normal, since its up to them only!
Please re-read before commenting back. If you comment back.
My ex as 19 and she was a bitch and totally boring in the sack, just goes to show age has no indication of how a person will be.
Unless you have a degree in psychology I can't buy anything you just said, and even if you did, I'd still be skeptical.
The main girl I'm speaking with has already confessed to me she has been raped by her uncle, started smoking crystal meth at 11, quit at 13, and her parents didn't want her.
I think the exact opposite of what you're suggesting. She needs a positive adult male figure to show her that men aren't all bad, and she needs an adult to care for her.
Now you may be saying, why make it romantic? Well, that's a simple answer as any. It's what we both wanted. I would never take advantage of a young girl (sexually.) I am simply there to listen to her and encourage her.
Suffice it to say, I resent that you're suggesting the "harm" I could cause her psyche in the future.
The beautiful mixed girl who is overly developed for her age? Tell me who her uncle is and I'll find out if she was raped. This girl wouldn't smoke meth , she doesn't even like weed all that much. Her mother had her at a young age and her dad was ¤ get this ¤ 15 years older than her mother. If this sounds like your girl please do her a favor and ease yourself out of her life. I know enough about you and I know my way around the system enough to make sure you never hurt her. If fate deems you worthy of her companionship later in life, so be it, but LET HER GROW UP.
Age does bring wisdom. I mean look at you at your youthful age of 25ish and she is 14.
When you get much older you do see things more clearly. Not only that but you have experienced much of what life has to offer. I can tell you now that I am much more experienced and more knowledgeable than some young person who has finalized their psychology degree.
Ironically I even went out with a girl who had completed a psychology degree, trust me, she had NO idea of life.
What you stated about her past does require a trusted source to help guide her through these present issues. I have read all your words, and guess what, you are not the trusted source.
The reasons why I say this is because you have other interests that may (and will) interfere with what she really needs and how to get back on top. Note: This is why I mentioned 'it is a 100% proven success rate in all conditions'. 'All' was implying even the bad times.
She does NOT need a male figure in her life at the moment. If I was speaking directly to her I'd even say maybe stay away from bf/gf relationships until you get yourself sorted out. Note these teenage issues can last a lifetime (or further as in future babies/children) if the young girl is not given the proper care.
Care for children is as follows:
A roof over their head and their own bed.
Education through normal educational institutions like a school.
Love and respect by a trusting carer who ONLY has her best interests at heart
Food and proper diet. This means a balanced diet to the best of your ability.
A trusted guardian/parent to provide this, otherwise they will be cared for by the government.
Health (Note this is the main area you fall down in, as for the others you likely do as well) Health means getting her the proper support. Removing abusers or even taking them to court. Seeking doctors/counselors (for physical and mental well being)
Confirming any present issues (even drugs or substance abuse) physical issues are taken care of. And on going support with a psychologist 'referred' by a doctor.
Also note, the police should be advised of her present living arrangements and safety. She can't live no where.
You are not in a position to do this as you have romantic feelings for her. By the way which I have already addressed in post1 These actions are wrong and unlawful no matter what. It actually shows your immaturity and unsafe habits to minors. Children should definitely not be left in your care atm.
Post2 I spoke about why she has 'mistakenly' gone for you. I even mentioned anyone could do this! The reason why we stop is because of 1. The law 2. Safety for the minor 3. Maturity of you (You address none of these)
Post3 (this one) is RE-advising you that YOU are NOT in the best position to look after a troubled 14yo girl. This shows clearly, by you not even understanding and taking in what I write to you.
You are not normal
Sadly the situation is.
This girl (hopefully if she is allowed to read here, unlikely of course!) should seek help immediately. The police can help refer you to safe trusted house and home, where you can grow and become a lady. Who knows, you could be a child helper yourself one day. I VERY much doubt you will say go to a 25yo who has immature sexual feelings for you!
Time to wake up. All things must end. It would be nice if YOU could be the mature one and make the first decent move.
Of course I'm not, we are basically friends over the internet who happen to give EACHOHTER something they need at the moment, understanding and compassion. I am open and honest with any girl I meet. I don't lie about my age and I share my face plainly, as I do here on my actual profile.
Obviously I cannot provide for her in the ways you stated at the moment. That doesn't mean I wouldn't be willing to.
These actions are NOT unlawful where I come from.
I have heard everything you said, certainly by now you know I'm my own man and can listen to your advice while still disagreeing, and dismissing most of it.
I'm of the opinion only she knows what's best for her. I'm not a fan of a law that says plainly you have to be 17 or 18 before you can THINK for yourself.
And if she could or does read here it wouldn't make bit of difference, because we've already discussed much of what I'm talking about here together. YES, believe it or not she is capable of understanding the age difference and the ramifications behind it.
Bottom line is, I will not turn her away, to me that would make me just another man in her life that let her down. She can make the decision to walk away on her own. I am not a danger to this girl, or any other, no matter how much you try to paint me as one.
Regarding what your "main girl" told you, I think you should take that as a hint. I think her story is rather typical for young females who develop an infatuation with older men; daddy issues, basically.
I do take it as a hint. Which is why I choose to be a man to listen instead of a man who shuns her.
Somebody in this thread called me a "predator." Well I don't agree with that. I didn't go to this site thinking I was going to meet young girls or pursue any sort of relationship with them. I actually just went there to try the games.
Come to find out, many of the girls were interested in talking to me, without any provocation besides a friendly initial chat, they still pursued flirting with me and the like, even after they come to find out my age.
I don't think anything I'm doing or saying to them is damaging. They may be naive but they aren't stupid, and I'm not going to treat them like they are because they are just "kids" to some of you. To me, they are young adults.
I disagree with "Dad." Nothing is wrong with having friendships with, and even loving, young girls--as long as that's what it really is. If it's an honest like and respect for each other, then you will still feel the same way 6 months later, even if both people change as people. As with any human beings, it must be mutual--and not just seductive or whatever.
Is it normal I make 14 year old girls fall in love with me?
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Of course its normal.
Young girls ARE attractive, they are fun and everything is pure and wonderful.
Why only a few thousand years ago around 14 was the normal relationship stage.
I've seen many attractive teenagers, even people comment at times. What a beautiful girl you are etc etc etc.
What guys and our entire society, do these days is NOT act on such things.
We have confirmed that young teenagers (as awkward as they generally are, both physically and emotionally) are just not ready for a relationship with an older man. They may say they love or like you or even want to get to know you, but give it a few years and they'll also be taking you to court! Basically their mind is still developing. How they feel now is NOT how they will feel in 6months or a year or two.
It is not safe for YOU (let alone the girl, but I'll leave her out of this) to be forming any type of relationship with a young teenager online. Definitely this is an area that police monitor, plus everything you do online is logged and kept. Its safe to say, stop immediately and probably go offline for a while!
Guys look at attractive teenagers all the time (as per the above comments, most won't admit it) You cannot act on this.
NO game relationship building
NO messaging or emailing
NO meeting ever (and do note you could be quite possibly building a relationship with a cop and not a girl!)
These feelings of yours should be redirected from admiring innocent beauty, to trying to get into a normal relationship. You know you're 25ish, having an 18yo gf most won't freak out! BEST to find a legal older girl (really meaning 18, 19, 20, 21 area) before you get too old and DO look strange with them too. Actually you are very lucky that you are 25 and can meet young (adult) ladies
Don't waste your life on pics, movies and 'Internet' girls. Go out and actually find a real young adult girl that you can hold and kiss, even in public!
By the way, an 18,19,20,21 yo girls are already VERY young. Yes they are legal, but seriously don't miss this chance with them. Oh and grow with them in a relationship.
Goodluck :)
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Wow you really do sound like a dad.
To answer some of what you said. I don't care who is monitoring me or what is being logged. I've never propositioned a minor for sex, or naked pictures, nor do I intend to, so I'm pretty sure I'm in legal territory.
I am not some internet nerd that wastes his life having online relationships. I am actually on the rebound from a recent real life relationship. I don't feel like 'getting involved' again at the moment.
I do like younger girls I say it proudly, that doesn't mean it's exclusive. It's just semi-erotic hobby of mine right now that usually lasts less than an hour out of my whole day. Other than that I'm an average mid 20s single working joe.
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Thanks for the reply.
I understand the 'fun' involved. But since you brought up why are they even attracted to you to begin with (your other replies), I may as well tell you.
The reason is because you are older, you know what they want (through conversation, emotional support and even physical contact)
It all seems quite simple when you're older. Its true to say that any older guy could easily do what you are doing. When a 14yo girl says: 'I hate that bitch face friend of mine' The 'normal' response from any other 14yo would be, 'Why, what's wrong? Are you ok?' This is just all too normal girl talk.
But you (in the picture) could address the specific issue and resolve it in minutes!
I mean seriously the girl would think you are her hero.
Basically its giving the girl exactly what she wants/needs (to hear, or feel, or even a shoulder to lean on) Kinda like a spoilt brat would get.
Generally many girls miss out on this around the 14, 15, 16 age from their parents. Either the parents are sick to death of her attitude! Or they have had a moments lapse, or the 'girl' herself just won't open up to her parents any longer. Since other 14yo girls/boys have no idea how to handle the situation, along comes you.
Here's the concern. And note, we (society in general) fully respect the following.
An adult (other than parent) should NOT interfere with a young girl's life. EVEN if you could easily help, or make them even more happier. The girl needs to grow up with her friends and age group, it is a 100% proven success rate in all conditions.
When you throw a spanner into the works (ie you) then anything could happen.
The girl may not grow in maturity.
She may miss out on her own age group friends and fun times.
She may decide to take her own life. ie Not fitting in anywhere now!
She may even have early pregnancy (and note, it may not even be from you, YOU just made her feel its ok to be with older men!)
It is a CRITICAL time. Just ask any parent. These girls are extremely sensitive. They are still learning right from wrong, good from bad. I mean seriously they only started menstrual cycle not long before that! They are still getting use to their own body.
They may still be in the I love Justin Bieber stage, they have NO idea what love is at all, But they are learning with their friends. (oh, same age group friends)
Its up to you to make a mature and responsible decision (even if you enjoy their company, or even if you are attracted to them, or even if anything you can think of!) To NOT be a part of their life.
Their life consists of other friends their age. Their parents (by the way, do not get involved with others 'parenting' techniques, they have been with her since birth!) And probably their loving pets. Let alone schoolwork, and house duties etc.
You need to be strong and let go.
Agree that you like them. But you MUST let go for them, think of it as saving their lives.
Oh, and I don't think you truly picked up my point earlier. 18 is young. Seriously you WILL enjoy this age group (and higher) and being 25 you are missing out on all the real fun. Note: Sleep overs at 18 is VERY normal, since its up to them only!
Please re-read before commenting back. If you comment back.
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My ex as 19 and she was a bitch and totally boring in the sack, just goes to show age has no indication of how a person will be.
Unless you have a degree in psychology I can't buy anything you just said, and even if you did, I'd still be skeptical.
The main girl I'm speaking with has already confessed to me she has been raped by her uncle, started smoking crystal meth at 11, quit at 13, and her parents didn't want her.
I think the exact opposite of what you're suggesting. She needs a positive adult male figure to show her that men aren't all bad, and she needs an adult to care for her.
Now you may be saying, why make it romantic? Well, that's a simple answer as any. It's what we both wanted. I would never take advantage of a young girl (sexually.) I am simply there to listen to her and encourage her.
Suffice it to say, I resent that you're suggesting the "harm" I could cause her psyche in the future.
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The beautiful mixed girl who is overly developed for her age? Tell me who her uncle is and I'll find out if she was raped. This girl wouldn't smoke meth , she doesn't even like weed all that much. Her mother had her at a young age and her dad was ¤ get this ¤ 15 years older than her mother. If this sounds like your girl please do her a favor and ease yourself out of her life. I know enough about you and I know my way around the system enough to make sure you never hurt her. If fate deems you worthy of her companionship later in life, so be it, but LET HER GROW UP.
Age does bring wisdom. I mean look at you at your youthful age of 25ish and she is 14.
When you get much older you do see things more clearly. Not only that but you have experienced much of what life has to offer. I can tell you now that I am much more experienced and more knowledgeable than some young person who has finalized their psychology degree.
Ironically I even went out with a girl who had completed a psychology degree, trust me, she had NO idea of life.
What you stated about her past does require a trusted source to help guide her through these present issues. I have read all your words, and guess what, you are not the trusted source.
The reasons why I say this is because you have other interests that may (and will) interfere with what she really needs and how to get back on top. Note: This is why I mentioned 'it is a 100% proven success rate in all conditions'. 'All' was implying even the bad times.
She does NOT need a male figure in her life at the moment. If I was speaking directly to her I'd even say maybe stay away from bf/gf relationships until you get yourself sorted out. Note these teenage issues can last a lifetime (or further as in future babies/children) if the young girl is not given the proper care.
Care for children is as follows:
A roof over their head and their own bed.
Education through normal educational institutions like a school.
Love and respect by a trusting carer who ONLY has her best interests at heart
Food and proper diet. This means a balanced diet to the best of your ability.
A trusted guardian/parent to provide this, otherwise they will be cared for by the government.
Health (Note this is the main area you fall down in, as for the others you likely do as well) Health means getting her the proper support. Removing abusers or even taking them to court. Seeking doctors/counselors (for physical and mental well being)
Confirming any present issues (even drugs or substance abuse) physical issues are taken care of. And on going support with a psychologist 'referred' by a doctor.
Also note, the police should be advised of her present living arrangements and safety. She can't live no where.
You are not in a position to do this as you have romantic feelings for her. By the way which I have already addressed in post1 These actions are wrong and unlawful no matter what. It actually shows your immaturity and unsafe habits to minors. Children should definitely not be left in your care atm.
Post2 I spoke about why she has 'mistakenly' gone for you. I even mentioned anyone could do this! The reason why we stop is because of 1. The law 2. Safety for the minor 3. Maturity of you (You address none of these)
Post3 (this one) is RE-advising you that YOU are NOT in the best position to look after a troubled 14yo girl. This shows clearly, by you not even understanding and taking in what I write to you.
You are not normal
Sadly the situation is.
This girl (hopefully if she is allowed to read here, unlikely of course!) should seek help immediately. The police can help refer you to safe trusted house and home, where you can grow and become a lady. Who knows, you could be a child helper yourself one day. I VERY much doubt you will say go to a 25yo who has immature sexual feelings for you!
Time to wake up. All things must end. It would be nice if YOU could be the mature one and make the first decent move.
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Of course I'm not, we are basically friends over the internet who happen to give EACHOHTER something they need at the moment, understanding and compassion. I am open and honest with any girl I meet. I don't lie about my age and I share my face plainly, as I do here on my actual profile.
Obviously I cannot provide for her in the ways you stated at the moment. That doesn't mean I wouldn't be willing to.
These actions are NOT unlawful where I come from.
I have heard everything you said, certainly by now you know I'm my own man and can listen to your advice while still disagreeing, and dismissing most of it.
I'm of the opinion only she knows what's best for her. I'm not a fan of a law that says plainly you have to be 17 or 18 before you can THINK for yourself.
And if she could or does read here it wouldn't make bit of difference, because we've already discussed much of what I'm talking about here together. YES, believe it or not she is capable of understanding the age difference and the ramifications behind it.
Bottom line is, I will not turn her away, to me that would make me just another man in her life that let her down. She can make the decision to walk away on her own. I am not a danger to this girl, or any other, no matter how much you try to paint me as one.
Regarding what your "main girl" told you, I think you should take that as a hint. I think her story is rather typical for young females who develop an infatuation with older men; daddy issues, basically.
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I do take it as a hint. Which is why I choose to be a man to listen instead of a man who shuns her.
Somebody in this thread called me a "predator." Well I don't agree with that. I didn't go to this site thinking I was going to meet young girls or pursue any sort of relationship with them. I actually just went there to try the games.
Come to find out, many of the girls were interested in talking to me, without any provocation besides a friendly initial chat, they still pursued flirting with me and the like, even after they come to find out my age.
I don't think anything I'm doing or saying to them is damaging. They may be naive but they aren't stupid, and I'm not going to treat them like they are because they are just "kids" to some of you. To me, they are young adults.
I disagree with "Dad." Nothing is wrong with having friendships with, and even loving, young girls--as long as that's what it really is. If it's an honest like and respect for each other, then you will still feel the same way 6 months later, even if both people change as people. As with any human beings, it must be mutual--and not just seductive or whatever.