Fine. But if I let them know that I appreciate them and "care," and that makes them start bombarding me with love and affection for several days, I'm going to find you and strangle you with a rubber band.
Not at all. I love cats. I also like kids, am good with them, and could happily spend an entire day with a kid. I enjoy giving and receiving affection with girlfriends but with boundaries. Certain levels of affection freak me out.
Example: The lights were on. Me and gf were in bed. She decided to get on top of me, grab some lotion, and give me a chest/shoulder massage, all while looking at me dead straight in the eyes. We've had sex and had physical intimacy many times but this moment felt the most intimate and on a "real" level and freaked the hell out of me. I remember telling her to stop for some made-up reason.
IIN I'm waiting for when my parents pass away so I can love them?
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Fine. But if I let them know that I appreciate them and "care," and that makes them start bombarding me with love and affection for several days, I'm going to find you and strangle you with a rubber band.
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why do you hate affection so much? jeesh you must hate dogs and girlfriends and kids and love in general.
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Not at all. I love cats. I also like kids, am good with them, and could happily spend an entire day with a kid. I enjoy giving and receiving affection with girlfriends but with boundaries. Certain levels of affection freak me out.
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what made you feel so uncomfortable with affection like that?
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You got me.
Example: The lights were on. Me and gf were in bed. She decided to get on top of me, grab some lotion, and give me a chest/shoulder massage, all while looking at me dead straight in the eyes. We've had sex and had physical intimacy many times but this moment felt the most intimate and on a "real" level and freaked the hell out of me. I remember telling her to stop for some made-up reason.
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hmm.. i would think you need to figure this out. Else your emotional bonds with people will suffer.
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It's quite okay I think. I prefer keeping people at an arm's length. Allows more control. Emotional investment just clouds the logical mind.
Emotional bonds can suffer or sever. Not a big deal. I've developed to function without them :). Good chat though. Take care <3