What do you mean by frigid? If you mean that you never or rarely become sexually aroused or that you can't or have difficulty reaching orgasm by yourself, those feelings need to be sorted out before you even consider having sex with someone else.
To have sex for the first time because of any "shoulds" is going to be a disaster, or almost certainly so.
Pain isn't always an issue with the physical breaking of the hymen and in any event many women have either no hymen or not one that obstructs the vagina at all. I didn't notice a thing the first time I had sex, either pleasure (it was a teenager like myself) or any pain, it was a total non-event. It did get better later though!
I think it's a mistake to focus on losing your virginity as such and it would be healthier to focus on discovering your own sexuality and then keeping an eye out for someone you'd like to be in a sexual relationship with, someone patient and respectful but with some sexual experience of his or her own.
I don't recommend a dildo or anything similar at this stage: your own fingers will tell you what you enjoy without having to worry about pain or embarrassment.
IIN I'm terrified of having sex for the first time ?
← View full post
What do you mean by frigid? If you mean that you never or rarely become sexually aroused or that you can't or have difficulty reaching orgasm by yourself, those feelings need to be sorted out before you even consider having sex with someone else.
To have sex for the first time because of any "shoulds" is going to be a disaster, or almost certainly so.
Pain isn't always an issue with the physical breaking of the hymen and in any event many women have either no hymen or not one that obstructs the vagina at all. I didn't notice a thing the first time I had sex, either pleasure (it was a teenager like myself) or any pain, it was a total non-event. It did get better later though!
I think it's a mistake to focus on losing your virginity as such and it would be healthier to focus on discovering your own sexuality and then keeping an eye out for someone you'd like to be in a sexual relationship with, someone patient and respectful but with some sexual experience of his or her own.
I don't recommend a dildo or anything similar at this stage: your own fingers will tell you what you enjoy without having to worry about pain or embarrassment.
Good luck!