I'm not saying that I blame you. I will say, though, that I have been left for "better" women, cheated on and had my heart stomped on multiple times. I would definitely say, as a result, it takes a lot more time and effort for a man to make me want to become loyal and faithful to him. Not STAY faithful. Become.
I've been burned by plenty of men in the past, so the whole "loyalty" thing is a lot harder to earn with me. I know I have broken a couple of hearts because of it. I don't feel bad because I have accepted hurting people and being hurt as a part of life.
I tell guys I date now... Trust me as much as you want but I won't actually be trustworthy until I trust YOU. You've gotta earn my trust. You'll know when you have it.
is it normal i'm scared to trust women?
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I'm not saying that I blame you. I will say, though, that I have been left for "better" women, cheated on and had my heart stomped on multiple times. I would definitely say, as a result, it takes a lot more time and effort for a man to make me want to become loyal and faithful to him. Not STAY faithful. Become.
I've been burned by plenty of men in the past, so the whole "loyalty" thing is a lot harder to earn with me. I know I have broken a couple of hearts because of it. I don't feel bad because I have accepted hurting people and being hurt as a part of life.
I tell guys I date now... Trust me as much as you want but I won't actually be trustworthy until I trust YOU. You've gotta earn my trust. You'll know when you have it.
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So you're unfaithful (honestly & openly at least?) until the guy proves you should be faithful to him?
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I do not see how it is unfaithful until we've both explicitly made a commitment.
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Fair point.
To be honest I only asked because you so strongly emphasized "becoming faithful, not staying faithful"