Is it normal i'm scared to leave my place because of my face and body?

I just feel like such a joke compared to all the other men... It seems every other guy is taller, more muscular, better skin, and a full head of hair.

I'm a twenty year old male, have big close set eyes, a tiny underdeveloped jaw, a clearly receded hairline and baldspot (I tried shaving my head, but my parents told me that looked even worse, aunts and uncles of my family that I only see once a year pretty treated me like a ghoul), a disgusting long and thin neck which I try and workout atleast once a week, have the body of a 14 y/o even though I've been working out for 3 years now using protein and creatine thinking maybe I could offset my face...

I look so bizzare... When I was a kid, I actually remember feeling incredibly confident about what I saw in the mirror. Even on bad days, I still felt like a normal human being... I just don't know what happened to me, I look like a f**king creeper. I'm so afraid to leave the house because of how humiliated I am over what I look like, whether it be simply to get food of go to class. I've already flunked two semesters because I couldn't deal with walking to and from class in front of all those people looking like a complete joke of a life form.

I can't continue to live like this. I really don't like the idea of killing myself, but I really don't know what else to do anymore. I've been dealing with this (incredibly optimistically, I'll add) for about two years now, and the future's only looking bleaker. I want to talk to someone about it, but I have no idea how, and for that matter don't really have anyone I could confide in.

Is It Normal?
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  • Just a lack of self confidence, perfectly normal

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  • I agree with the posters who said its all about confidence, nothing turns a girl on more. Don't be so down on yourself, I am sure you are not nearly as bad looking as you feel you are. Also, if you really want to put on muscle, you may want to seek out a good personal trainer if you haven't already. Putting on muscle is not as easy as working out at least once a week. There is a bit of science to it that a good personal trainer should be able to help you with.

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  • You need some therapy, and you can focus on building up your body. Women like a well muscled body no matter how a guy face is. Look at most male models, most don't actually have a nice face, just a "killer" body.

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  • its definetly a simple psychological problem more than anything else. if youre in college take good advantage of those free counselling services. and try not to look at things you think are ugly, just find things you like. it might be hard, but start making a list or something and remind yourself all the time of what you like.
    also, maybe go out and find some stylish clothes you feel really good in, that always helps. and (if youre white xD) buy some tanning moisturizer! god knows hot staying inside has made your skin look!
    last but not least, of you dont eat healthy now, you must. a healthy diet improves the way you feel AND look. it could help your bald spot too.
    hope this helped! ;D

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  • Vertigos right. It's about confidence. I am pretty damn sure you're not near as bad as YOU think you are. Your body and appearance will continue to change and grow as you get older. Just get some confidence. Strut around town like you're somebody!!!

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  • Muscles are good. Find some clothes you like, and a haircut that YOU think suits you.

    It's all about confidence. Can't tell you how much more the girls like a guy who's confident than one that's self-conscious.

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  • and its really easy

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  • seriously there was this guy who had a massive whole in the front of his face and he had one eye and i reckend he was brave for living with it

    i didn't feel any urge to poke fun at him or assalt him

    i cant say you would be safe out there but atleast be confident in your ability
    just teach yourself to fight
    and work out
    muscle can be a substitute for asthetics
    and it will help your confidence

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  • dont get so down man. it doesnt matter at all how you look. what are you good at? there has to be something. concentrate on that. practice something. it will give you confidence. there are many people out there who are considered to be good looking but still feel like shit about themselves.

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  • Talk to someone. You're in college right? So they should have some free counseling services on campus if money is an issue. You are in a prime position right now to help yourself cuz you are recognizing a growing problem. You will always be able to make changes to your appearance throughout your life but please protect your mind first! You don't wanna look back at your life two years from now and realized you were slowly closing yourself up, holing yourself in and physically changing the way your brain works and thinks cuz all that will be a lot harder to get thru than it is now. So, keep gettin sun ;) and actively find someone to talk to.

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  • this advice is awful xD
    if you're ugly now, you're gonna be ugly later, sounds like you're ACTUALLY ugly, not just u'no, fat or something... so i dunno if it's changable or not...

    HOWEVER, plastic surgery is your only bet i think, just being honest, so yeah... that's always better than death? and if it turns out badly, THEN you can kill yourself

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