This is a two-sided question, so I'll try to break it down and answer both parts.
Am I sexually attracted to men?
Think of the hottest woman possible being extremely horny. If you feel a tingle in your pants, you like women. Now do the same thing for men, if you got that tingle then you know you like men. This will tell you where your sexual attractions lie, but it won't really answer your sexuality. If you can't get it up to a guy then it's probably just admiration.
Am I emotionally attracted to men?
This could be a hard one to answer, especially if you've never had a close guy friend where the friendship line got a little blurred. You could try dating a guy if you wanted to find out I guess, but if you're deathly afraid of the possibility it'll void the test.
Being a gay man myself, I'll give you my opinion and a little background, hopefully it helps you. I was pretty much always different, but my views were kind of like yours. I had occasional sex with men once in a great while and I did feel attracted to some, but it was nothing more than physical. I could never see myself with a guy, I wanted a wife and kids. There was a friend I had who I used to occasionally talk to but would never hang out with. He was always attractive to me, but I could never see myself with him. Anyways, we started hanging out more and I became extremely attached, to the point I loved him and could spend the rest of my life with him without ever being bothered. He's straight so that'll never happen, but without trying at all I became emotionally attached to him. I also tried the sexual attraction test and couldn't get it up to a hot woman, so that was when I realized I was gay.
Self-labeling's a bitch so I wouldn't worry about it too much. From the outside I look as straight as any other man and I don't feel the least bit attracted to people who don't act like men. Being gay doesn't make you less of a man either, you just like penis instead of vagina. I can't read your mind, so I can't tell you what you are. Just be honest with yourself when you try to figure this out, otherwise you'll get nowhere.
Oh and that ideal life you described doesn't really have to change just because it's a man and not a woman. You could always find a surrogate mother if you wanted genetic children and if that's not important to you then there's plenty of children out there who wouldn't mind being adopted. Everything else you talked about goes both ways (sexuality pun intended).
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This is a two-sided question, so I'll try to break it down and answer both parts.
Am I sexually attracted to men?
Think of the hottest woman possible being extremely horny. If you feel a tingle in your pants, you like women. Now do the same thing for men, if you got that tingle then you know you like men. This will tell you where your sexual attractions lie, but it won't really answer your sexuality. If you can't get it up to a guy then it's probably just admiration.
Am I emotionally attracted to men?
This could be a hard one to answer, especially if you've never had a close guy friend where the friendship line got a little blurred. You could try dating a guy if you wanted to find out I guess, but if you're deathly afraid of the possibility it'll void the test.
Being a gay man myself, I'll give you my opinion and a little background, hopefully it helps you. I was pretty much always different, but my views were kind of like yours. I had occasional sex with men once in a great while and I did feel attracted to some, but it was nothing more than physical. I could never see myself with a guy, I wanted a wife and kids. There was a friend I had who I used to occasionally talk to but would never hang out with. He was always attractive to me, but I could never see myself with him. Anyways, we started hanging out more and I became extremely attached, to the point I loved him and could spend the rest of my life with him without ever being bothered. He's straight so that'll never happen, but without trying at all I became emotionally attached to him. I also tried the sexual attraction test and couldn't get it up to a hot woman, so that was when I realized I was gay.
Self-labeling's a bitch so I wouldn't worry about it too much. From the outside I look as straight as any other man and I don't feel the least bit attracted to people who don't act like men. Being gay doesn't make you less of a man either, you just like penis instead of vagina. I can't read your mind, so I can't tell you what you are. Just be honest with yourself when you try to figure this out, otherwise you'll get nowhere.
Oh and that ideal life you described doesn't really have to change just because it's a man and not a woman. You could always find a surrogate mother if you wanted genetic children and if that's not important to you then there's plenty of children out there who wouldn't mind being adopted. Everything else you talked about goes both ways (sexuality pun intended).