It seems like your emotional investment in and dependence on these fictional characters is a means of compensating for your lack of real-world relationships. You yourself say you have no real friends and are distant from your family.
Most humans have an inherent desire to be part of a social group, to have emotional bonds, to interact and communicate with others. So I think it's normal that, in the absence of these, you have become so involved in the characters of these soaps.
However, having no friends and no bonds with your family is not so normal. I think if you desperately seek these kind of platonic relationships, it would be healthy to try and form some with real people. Join a hobby group, an extra-curricular club, see who you can meet and connect with. You could even use your obsession with this soap as a means of connecting with people; interact with other fans on forums, share your fan art and talk to like-minded artists.
Remember, these characters are written by writers, they're temporary, they aren't substitutes for real people, they can't offer you the emotional or material support and comfort real people could. That's why I recommend you seek friendship.
I think you are completely wrong.
I am a fan of many tv shows and movies and I love writing about my favorite characters and stories.
There is nothing wrong with being obsessed with a fictional character, and it does not mean you are not able to make real life friendships/relationships. I have many friends and I have MADE many friends by sharing my "obsessions".
The fact that we love these fictional characters so much is because we can relate to them a lot. In fact, we tend to exclude people who look down at us because of our obsessions. The real beauty of a story, even if it's fictional, is that we can escape this damned world and let our imagination take us to places we love and cherish.
When we cry over these stories, or things that have happened in the fictional world, is because we let that fiction part of our life slip into the real part of our life. And i believe there is nothing wrong with letting your imagination run wild. There is no extent and no boundaries to these things. Don't ever think that if you are so addicted to these stories, you need to get "real friends".
"I have no real friends, I'm distance from my family because all I want is them[the fictional people]. I want to listen and watch them 24/7."
Sacrificing real life relationships and substituting them for fictional characters you are obsessed with is not normal - in my experience of the world anyway.
I think it's great that people can become emotionally invested in the stories and characters others invent; much of our greatest art relies upon this ability. But there is a degree of emotional investment beyond which it starts to become unhealthy and indicative of mental health problems.
Is it normal I'm obsessed with fictional people?
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It seems like your emotional investment in and dependence on these fictional characters is a means of compensating for your lack of real-world relationships. You yourself say you have no real friends and are distant from your family.
Most humans have an inherent desire to be part of a social group, to have emotional bonds, to interact and communicate with others. So I think it's normal that, in the absence of these, you have become so involved in the characters of these soaps.
However, having no friends and no bonds with your family is not so normal. I think if you desperately seek these kind of platonic relationships, it would be healthy to try and form some with real people. Join a hobby group, an extra-curricular club, see who you can meet and connect with. You could even use your obsession with this soap as a means of connecting with people; interact with other fans on forums, share your fan art and talk to like-minded artists.
Remember, these characters are written by writers, they're temporary, they aren't substitutes for real people, they can't offer you the emotional or material support and comfort real people could. That's why I recommend you seek friendship.
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Nicely said.
I think you are completely wrong.
I am a fan of many tv shows and movies and I love writing about my favorite characters and stories.
There is nothing wrong with being obsessed with a fictional character, and it does not mean you are not able to make real life friendships/relationships. I have many friends and I have MADE many friends by sharing my "obsessions".
The fact that we love these fictional characters so much is because we can relate to them a lot. In fact, we tend to exclude people who look down at us because of our obsessions. The real beauty of a story, even if it's fictional, is that we can escape this damned world and let our imagination take us to places we love and cherish.
When we cry over these stories, or things that have happened in the fictional world, is because we let that fiction part of our life slip into the real part of our life. And i believe there is nothing wrong with letting your imagination run wild. There is no extent and no boundaries to these things. Don't ever think that if you are so addicted to these stories, you need to get "real friends".
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OP said:
"I have no real friends, I'm distance from my family because all I want is them[the fictional people]. I want to listen and watch them 24/7."
Sacrificing real life relationships and substituting them for fictional characters you are obsessed with is not normal - in my experience of the world anyway.
I think it's great that people can become emotionally invested in the stories and characters others invent; much of our greatest art relies upon this ability. But there is a degree of emotional investment beyond which it starts to become unhealthy and indicative of mental health problems.
So I suppose we'll have to agree to disagree.