Thanks for you comment :) It's not going so well so far. I've been out 3 days in a row and drunk for all of them, but they were all situations that everyone was drinking so I don't think it's tooo bad. I've been getting pretty severe depression recently, and it's partly to do with the social anxiety. So it's kinda turning into a vicious cycle of being down, going to socialize (partly to cheer myself up), but feeling the need to be drunk to have fun I guess.
That's alright. Yeah, if drinking was involved then it's not so bad. Although, three days in a row is heavy going... you must have way more of a social life than me lol. Just keep an eye on how much you're consuming. I understand what it's like to suffer with anxiety and depression, trust me. I can completely understand why people sometimes turn to substances as it can just feeling like you're fighting a losing battle. With persistence, respect for yourself and some kind of willingness to get to a better situation, you CAN beat it without drinking. You have realised you're in a 'vicious circle' thank goodness, so you have control of the reigns when it comes to breaking it. A lot of people spend years in vicious circles and don't even realise. : /
Very good comments :) I also think that the fact that the poster himself realizes that he might be heading in the wrong direction regarding his alcohol consumption is already a huge help :)
I myself also tend to get the urge to get drunk every single time I go out. I personally see it as a result of having a stressfull and demanding job, which increases the need to "let loose" when going out.
Anyway, I think that when a person realizes that he might be doing something which is not considered normal he has the ability to keep it from escalating..
I think that being able to sustain a combination of having at least a bit of self-control combined with having an appropriate amount of self-awareness regarding your behaviour and feelings will automatically give a person the instinct to avoid such situations.. However, i do believe these abilities are skills that grow over time and will require a person to make several social and emotional mistakes before really being able to apply properly..
Also, and I have said this before. You as a person strikes me as an individual who has an over-developed ability to be able to separate 'wrong' from 'right'..
See what you're saying. Also, when you say over-developed ability etc.... do you mean that's a good thing?! A lot of things have a lot more grey scale to them. So I don't want to give off an impression of saying something is wrong or right as such, in a lot of cases.
an over developed ability is just a result of practice combined with a bit of talent I guess. I think this can become apparent in both positive and negative situations. Like you said in a lot of cases there is a huge grey-zone, in which case I believe that if you yourself think that something is moving in the wrong direction it probably is.
IIN I'm kinda scared of becoming an alcoholic
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Thanks for you comment :) It's not going so well so far. I've been out 3 days in a row and drunk for all of them, but they were all situations that everyone was drinking so I don't think it's tooo bad. I've been getting pretty severe depression recently, and it's partly to do with the social anxiety. So it's kinda turning into a vicious cycle of being down, going to socialize (partly to cheer myself up), but feeling the need to be drunk to have fun I guess.
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That's alright. Yeah, if drinking was involved then it's not so bad. Although, three days in a row is heavy going... you must have way more of a social life than me lol. Just keep an eye on how much you're consuming. I understand what it's like to suffer with anxiety and depression, trust me. I can completely understand why people sometimes turn to substances as it can just feeling like you're fighting a losing battle. With persistence, respect for yourself and some kind of willingness to get to a better situation, you CAN beat it without drinking. You have realised you're in a 'vicious circle' thank goodness, so you have control of the reigns when it comes to breaking it. A lot of people spend years in vicious circles and don't even realise. : /
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Very good comments :) I also think that the fact that the poster himself realizes that he might be heading in the wrong direction regarding his alcohol consumption is already a huge help :)
I myself also tend to get the urge to get drunk every single time I go out. I personally see it as a result of having a stressfull and demanding job, which increases the need to "let loose" when going out.
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I agree - to have the awareness can give the person a healthy control. And it's difficult for denial to set in. That's always a very slippery slope.
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I think that being able to sustain a combination of having at least a bit of self-control combined with having an appropriate amount of self-awareness regarding your behaviour and feelings will automatically give a person the instinct to avoid such situations.. However, i do believe these abilities are skills that grow over time and will require a person to make several social and emotional mistakes before really being able to apply properly..
Also, and I have said this before. You as a person strikes me as an individual who has an over-developed ability to be able to separate 'wrong' from 'right'..
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See what you're saying. Also, when you say over-developed ability etc.... do you mean that's a good thing?! A lot of things have a lot more grey scale to them. So I don't want to give off an impression of saying something is wrong or right as such, in a lot of cases.
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an over developed ability is just a result of practice combined with a bit of talent I guess. I think this can become apparent in both positive and negative situations. Like you said in a lot of cases there is a huge grey-zone, in which case I believe that if you yourself think that something is moving in the wrong direction it probably is.