and also, I stated that she treat me like no one, because when I compare me and other friends, she really doesn't give me "any" attention. like I wrote earlier, she says "one minute" most of the time when I talk to her, while she doesn't to others. and she'd be "listening" to my stories, until someone, just do anything. she doesn't treat me as nice as she used to, I'm guessing she's treating me worse than anyone and my friends have also told her how she treat me badly. I know, why do I like her? all I can see is how she's treating me harshly, but I still can't get out of it. and the fact that she's doing those things to me, I get more depressed and leads me to be quiet around people. yet, she really never ask me what's wrong, while she always do when some others are even a little bit different.... Talking is probably the best thing. But when I talk to her privately, I'm the only one who talks, she just "agrees" with me and say some nice things to make me feel better... I just miss how she used to treat me and her smile she gave me. Thanks again for giving me advice
Well, if you truly feel that you are being rejected, you should act based on that. You could
A) tell her how you feel anyways (it.may be a relief to you even if she says she doesnt feel the same), then either stay friends or part ways if you cant stand it,
B) hide it, get over it & stay friends (not always the most emotionally healthy option), or
C) cut your ties from her completely.
I'm actually thinking to tell her, let her know how I feel and explain some things. I'd rather be rejected than regret it all my life. I should tell her as soon as possible, too. So then I have chance to make it up if it gets awkward.. I'll ask. Thank you so much for your advice. I'll let you know how it goes (:
Hi, it's been about a week since i promised that i will tell her. I am here to tell you that I just did. in person. yes, very awkward. but i wasn't telling her that to see if anything happens, i told her to get it out of my mind; i think i'm kinda relieved haha.. well she didn't really have anything to say, and i let her go to her room as she was about to go to sleep when i told her this. I couldn't really tell her everything I was thinking. maybe that's good, maybe that's bad. thank you for letting me realize things thou. i looked at myself over the week and noticed a lot of things of me and her. it was obvious that she didn't like me. i was below her friend level. probably just an annoying guy who happens to be living in her dorm. As i told her this, i think i'm free from it now. we probably will be just "friends" like we are now.... or maybe just be awkward everytime we see each other.
the point is that i did something i haven't done before and i feel good. i'm not worried about what will happen between her. I saw her reactions when I told her; i ccould tell she didn't have anything to say, she was shocked. she told me i'm an "awesome friend" while i feel like she's not even my friend....... which i knew was gonna happen. well, i'm only a freshmen experienceing what is going on.
ugh i can't organize anything! i'm still frozen from the moment i told her. sorry if this whole thing doesn't mean anything. I... was convincing myself everything is okay... thank you very much for your advice.
Good to hear you feel better. It is always a little awkward for a bit, but it goes away. At least you're not worrying anymore :-D Good luck and enjoy school.
Is it normal i'm going through all this mental stuff?
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and also, I stated that she treat me like no one, because when I compare me and other friends, she really doesn't give me "any" attention. like I wrote earlier, she says "one minute" most of the time when I talk to her, while she doesn't to others. and she'd be "listening" to my stories, until someone, just do anything. she doesn't treat me as nice as she used to, I'm guessing she's treating me worse than anyone and my friends have also told her how she treat me badly. I know, why do I like her? all I can see is how she's treating me harshly, but I still can't get out of it. and the fact that she's doing those things to me, I get more depressed and leads me to be quiet around people. yet, she really never ask me what's wrong, while she always do when some others are even a little bit different.... Talking is probably the best thing. But when I talk to her privately, I'm the only one who talks, she just "agrees" with me and say some nice things to make me feel better... I just miss how she used to treat me and her smile she gave me. Thanks again for giving me advice
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Well, if you truly feel that you are being rejected, you should act based on that. You could
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C) cut your ties from her completely.
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I'm actually thinking to tell her, let her know how I feel and explain some things. I'd rather be rejected than regret it all my life. I should tell her as soon as possible, too. So then I have chance to make it up if it gets awkward.. I'll ask. Thank you so much for your advice. I'll let you know how it goes (:
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Hi, it's been about a week since i promised that i will tell her. I am here to tell you that I just did. in person. yes, very awkward. but i wasn't telling her that to see if anything happens, i told her to get it out of my mind; i think i'm kinda relieved haha.. well she didn't really have anything to say, and i let her go to her room as she was about to go to sleep when i told her this. I couldn't really tell her everything I was thinking. maybe that's good, maybe that's bad. thank you for letting me realize things thou. i looked at myself over the week and noticed a lot of things of me and her. it was obvious that she didn't like me. i was below her friend level. probably just an annoying guy who happens to be living in her dorm. As i told her this, i think i'm free from it now. we probably will be just "friends" like we are now.... or maybe just be awkward everytime we see each other.
the point is that i did something i haven't done before and i feel good. i'm not worried about what will happen between her. I saw her reactions when I told her; i ccould tell she didn't have anything to say, she was shocked. she told me i'm an "awesome friend" while i feel like she's not even my friend....... which i knew was gonna happen. well, i'm only a freshmen experienceing what is going on.
ugh i can't organize anything! i'm still frozen from the moment i told her. sorry if this whole thing doesn't mean anything. I... was convincing myself everything is okay... thank you very much for your advice.
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Good to hear you feel better. It is always a little awkward for a bit, but it goes away. At least you're not worrying anymore :-D Good luck and enjoy school.