From my experience, some sort of resolution will normally help. Even if she rejects you, would you rather have that finite answer than the constant nagging what-ifs? So, my suggestion would be to ask her casually if she would like to go out sometime. It doesn't have to be something big, candle light dinner or anything. But make your feelings obvious to her, so she can make hers obvious to you.
well.. my question is should I ever ask her as in tell her? or should I just move on. I once was going to tell her that I really like her. but, I got nervous and... talked about other things... I told her I'm gonna change myself and try to be someone else. I wanted to know if she'd stop me, which could also mean she wants me to stay the same or not(which could also mean she likes me). well, it didn't work out that well..
as you already know many things about it. and I'd love it if you can help me with little more about the this situaion with more specific details.
this girl is really different from others. she's really nice, bright, and innocent. I consider her personality as the best personality to have; I love how she is. And she's always happy and she's never really mad. she doesn't drink, smoke, or doesn't party either. and she's nice to everyone, take care of herself and caring. I really like the fact that her and I have so many common interests. those are the reasons that I really like her, and reason i can't forget about her either. anything I do reminds me of her... what do you think..?
Let me answer your question with a question, so I can better advise you...
What do you want out of your relationship with her? Close friendship? A date? Love? Monogamy? General closeness and understanding? Explain what it is you feel that you are missing in your current relationship with her, what you want it to be.
well... I'd love to be her anything more than a friend. but as what I see, I think I don't know what I can be with her. so I started to think that I'd be happy just as a friend, if I can just move on and not held on to this...
I'm really depressed nowadays. when we're hanging out together and all, and she only gives other people attention but i'm treated like no one. she always says "one minute" when I talk to her while she's doing something, but then she would quit her work and talk to others when they're talking to each other, not her..
I get really really happy when I'm with her and when she gives me attention. so I just want to be her friend, if I can make her like her, I'd love to date her, and in a worst case scenario, I just want myself away from the hurtful feelings.
1. I doubt she is intentionally treating you like no one. We rarely do that, & you said yourself she is nice & innocent, so do you really think she is ACTUALLY treating you like no one? She may be being a little stupid, but unlikely outright mean.
2. You'll have to learn, you cannot "make" anyone like you. You can't convince them, either. You can change their perspective of you, but you can't train someone to like that perspective.
3. I think the cause of #1 is why you are so sad. So... QUIT READING STUFF FOR ANYTHING MORE THAN WHAT IT IS! ;-) Girls can be stupid, but we're rarely outright mean... and you won't have any doubts about when we're actually mean.
Is it normal i'm going through all this mental stuff?
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From my experience, some sort of resolution will normally help. Even if she rejects you, would you rather have that finite answer than the constant nagging what-ifs? So, my suggestion would be to ask her casually if she would like to go out sometime. It doesn't have to be something big, candle light dinner or anything. But make your feelings obvious to her, so she can make hers obvious to you.
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well.. my question is should I ever ask her as in tell her? or should I just move on. I once was going to tell her that I really like her. but, I got nervous and... talked about other things... I told her I'm gonna change myself and try to be someone else. I wanted to know if she'd stop me, which could also mean she wants me to stay the same or not(which could also mean she likes me). well, it didn't work out that well..
as you already know many things about it. and I'd love it if you can help me with little more about the this situaion with more specific details.
this girl is really different from others. she's really nice, bright, and innocent. I consider her personality as the best personality to have; I love how she is. And she's always happy and she's never really mad. she doesn't drink, smoke, or doesn't party either. and she's nice to everyone, take care of herself and caring. I really like the fact that her and I have so many common interests. those are the reasons that I really like her, and reason i can't forget about her either. anything I do reminds me of her... what do you think..?
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Let me answer your question with a question, so I can better advise you...
What do you want out of your relationship with her? Close friendship? A date? Love? Monogamy? General closeness and understanding? Explain what it is you feel that you are missing in your current relationship with her, what you want it to be.
As for what I think: I think you're smitten :)
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well... I'd love to be her anything more than a friend. but as what I see, I think I don't know what I can be with her. so I started to think that I'd be happy just as a friend, if I can just move on and not held on to this...
I'm really depressed nowadays. when we're hanging out together and all, and she only gives other people attention but i'm treated like no one. she always says "one minute" when I talk to her while she's doing something, but then she would quit her work and talk to others when they're talking to each other, not her..
I get really really happy when I'm with her and when she gives me attention. so I just want to be her friend, if I can make her like her, I'd love to date her, and in a worst case scenario, I just want myself away from the hurtful feelings.
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A couple pointers...
1. I doubt she is intentionally treating you like no one. We rarely do that, & you said yourself she is nice & innocent, so do you really think she is ACTUALLY treating you like no one? She may be being a little stupid, but unlikely outright mean.
2. You'll have to learn, you cannot "make" anyone like you. You can't convince them, either. You can change their perspective of you, but you can't train someone to like that perspective.
3. I think the cause of #1 is why you are so sad. So... QUIT READING STUFF FOR ANYTHING MORE THAN WHAT IT IS! ;-) Girls can be stupid, but we're rarely outright mean... and you won't have any doubts about when we're actually mean.