Is it normal i'm afraid people will realise i was a guy?

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Every time I go out and every time I go to a social event, I'm afraid someone will be able to tell that I wasn't born a girl and that I was a guy before transition. Before I go out, I make sure I'm wearing a decent amount of makeup and very feminine clothes, so that nobody will doubt, but regardless of what I do, I'm still nervous around others, I have this constant fear that someone will realise I was a man.
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  • SpookyPancake
    6 years ago

    The fear is normal and something that trans people, unfortunately, often live with.

    You are a very beautiful girl. I really love your hair.

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  • mandoorhandhookcardoor
    7 years ago

    You already posted this.

    being transgender is not about tricking people, right? so why would it matter if they found out the truth? you are not just a "woman" or "female", but a "transwoman" or "MtF".

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    • Rilley
      7 years ago

      It doesn't have anything to do with "tricking" someone, it's the fear of being verbally or physically abused if the wrong person finds out. There are a lot of people out there that are transphobic, and I've heard encounters where transgensders have been beaten/punched/etc. just because they are hated.

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      • factcheck
        7 years ago

        Exactly. Almost 20% of transgender people have been assaulted, and 70% have been victims of harassment. Those numbers are even higher for trans women like the OP. It's a very, very reasonable concern.

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      • mandoorhandhookcardoor
        7 years ago

        Interesting. are you the OP?

        Sorry I hadn't thought of that because it doesn't seem that likely in this age, but I guess that depends where you live. in my experience it'd be equally as likely as being beaten/punched/etc. for any other thing about you that people may disagree with; and just as likely as "the wrong person" verbally or physically abusing a born-female for any other reasons.

        Maybe take self-defense course, just like other women are recommended to. carry mace, etc.

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        • Rilley
          7 years ago

          Not the OP, though I am transgender, just opposite of the OP lol. Yeah I'd guess it would depend where you live, not saying being assaulted is common but it's always a slight fear in the back of your mind when going out in public since there have been cases of it.

          More common would be being looked down on or rudely spoken to, had that happen to me on occasion. I'd take that any day though instead of being punched.

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  • amyarmy
    6 years ago

    You're beautiful! If you're really worried, though, maybe you could do an androgynous look?

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  • nikkiclaire
    6 years ago

    First off you look really pretty and yes your fears are normal. I do have one thing to say tho. I always look at hands to determine sex tho and yours do give you away...other than that I can't tell.

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  • mx1998
    7 years ago

    UR REALLY CUTE AND I WAS ACTUALLY CONFUSED i thought u were mtf and not ftm so i was like oh?? are these before and after??? but no!!! youre just gorgeous

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  • Jellypop
    7 years ago

    You're sexy. I honestly can't tell at all.

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  • INSANE710
    7 years ago

    You look great!! no one can notice :) stay positive and who gives a fuck what anyone thinks

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  • Maid_in_Pink
    7 years ago

    It's a constant fear, no matter how good you look. When I was in college and I was first experimenting(cross-dressing) I accidentally crossed paths with a friend of mine and he didn't recognize me. Even knowing that I was still so terrified every time I went out that someone would notice, it never happened. Not without someone grabbing when they shouldn't have been and without permission.

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  • jethro
    7 years ago

    How do we know you aren't a girl pretending to be a transvestite? Before and after pics and maybe a "proof" of gender picture would help.

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  • factcheck
    7 years ago

    The fear is definitely understandable, but I think you look great.

    I'm not trans, so take my advice for what it's worth, but I think it might help to prepare for how you'll handle a situation where you're confronted by somebody who thinks you were born a man. It might alleviate your fears, and it might keep you safe if the situation ever arises.

    I was just talking to a trans woman friend about this the other day...she said, in that situation, she just acts like a cis woman would. She plays dumb and acts confused or offended.

    If you're worried that you're not a good liar or not sure what to say, practice with your friends, if you have any that know you're trans. Ask any cis woman friends how they would react if somebody accused them of being born a man. Have them pretend to confront you about it so you can practice how you'll react, they can help you get better at it. And, hopefully, being prepared will make you less nervous.

    Good luck!

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  • Rihyae
    7 years ago

    It's a reasonable fear, but I honestly can't tell.

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  • KeddersPrincess
    7 years ago

    I honestly would never be able to tell. You're actually very pretty. Nice dress in the first pic, btw.

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