Is it normal: i'm a female who is polyamorous

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So recently I found out that I'm polyamorous. Right now I have a boyfriend and a lover. My boyfriend and I, have been dating for almost a year now, but he just can't seem to keep up with me sexually (and emotionally sometimes). I just feel like I need to give all this love and devotion to more than one person. My lover and I have been together for three months. He definitely helps out sexually and I'm able to talk to him about a lot of things that my boyfriend has no idea how to talk about. My lover is bisexual, and he understands females a lot better than my boyfriend. My boyfriend is completely okay with this relationship as well, which surprises me every day since he's not polyamorous. He says that just trying to keep up with me is hard enough, but to keep up with two girls would be insane. He's so sweet about it too. He understand my needs and desires. I think it even turns him on to see me with my lover. We've even had a threesome together. The guys didn't get it on with each other. They just fucked me simultaneously. Yes, it was wonderful. Do I feel like a slut? not in the least bit.

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  • howaminotmyself
    11 years ago | pl

    I know more woman who are polyamorous than men. I'm not sure why that is. So if you found a partner who is okay with being secondary, good for you.

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    • sYki
      10 years ago | pl

      It's because now a days the roles are being switched, women are encouraged to explore their sexuality after being repressed ("sluts") for so long and men are being made to feel guilty ("ALL men are "pigs", driven by sex") for wanting to have sex, and being repressed ("pigs").

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago | pl

    everytime i see polyamouras people theyre smiling

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  • Angel_in_a_Glass_Dress
    11 years ago | pl

    you're fine.

    if your boyfriend and your partner are fully knowing of this and accepting then have fun.

    and i'd recommend listing to "Polyamory weekly" - they have good relationship advice and a lot of their advice can easily apply to just couples in general

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  • lawabidingcitxen
    11 years ago | pl

    Maybe I am missing the definition of palyamorous or confusing it with something else but I think to be polyamorous you would both have to be in a relationship with the third party. On the other hand what you seem to be describing is an open relationship.

    While the two are closely related the root words have distinct meanings; poly means multiple and amore means love. So to be truly polyamorous you would have to all love the same multiples together. Or otherwise put a three (or more) way relationship not a three (or more) way experience.

    All that boring technical linguistics BS aside if you guys are ok with it who care what anybody else thinks have fun and be happy! But also understand it is not (from your description) a truly polyamorous relationship.

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    • acidlor
      11 years ago | pl

      I'm not in love with him... yet. It's still very early in the relationship. I think I could love him, but not so soon. Or maybe I do love him, but it doesn't feel like as much as I love Jack. It's all very confusing since this is my first poly thing.

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