I had my first kiss when I was 20 as well. I'm also 5 feet tall, and I have small boobs. Believe me, before my first kiss I thought it would NEVER happen, it just seemed like no one would ever be attracted to me. But then at some point, it just happens!! Try to socialize, go out and meet people. Don't get too focused on finding a guy, just on meeting new people and having fun, and I'm sure one day you'll connect with someone and it'll be awesome. Finding a real connection will be so much more important to the guy than your looks, at least if you're looking for somebody who's actually worth your time.
That's my first piece of advice, but I have a second one that might sound like the complete opposite. I feel like part of the reason it took me so long to have my first kiss was that I was SO excessively worried about it (like you) that in a way I kept guys away because I was really scared I would be a terrible kisser and I was embarrassed that they might figure out I had never been kissed before. So another option is this... just go to a party and get drunk (not gross drunk, just tipsy so you feel more bold and confident) and just flirt and kiss a random guy. I know I was just talking about connecting and everything, and I truly believe that, but kissing somebody just to "get it over with" could also help you boost your confidence and stop making a big deal out of it . Once you've got that out of the way, you won't have this huge FIRST that you haven't accomplished yet.
Hope this helps!! And just know you're not alone, so many of us can relate to what you're saying :)
Is it normal I'm 20 years old but I've never been asked out/kissed?
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I had my first kiss when I was 20 as well. I'm also 5 feet tall, and I have small boobs. Believe me, before my first kiss I thought it would NEVER happen, it just seemed like no one would ever be attracted to me. But then at some point, it just happens!! Try to socialize, go out and meet people. Don't get too focused on finding a guy, just on meeting new people and having fun, and I'm sure one day you'll connect with someone and it'll be awesome. Finding a real connection will be so much more important to the guy than your looks, at least if you're looking for somebody who's actually worth your time.
That's my first piece of advice, but I have a second one that might sound like the complete opposite. I feel like part of the reason it took me so long to have my first kiss was that I was SO excessively worried about it (like you) that in a way I kept guys away because I was really scared I would be a terrible kisser and I was embarrassed that they might figure out I had never been kissed before. So another option is this... just go to a party and get drunk (not gross drunk, just tipsy so you feel more bold and confident) and just flirt and kiss a random guy. I know I was just talking about connecting and everything, and I truly believe that, but kissing somebody just to "get it over with" could also help you boost your confidence and stop making a big deal out of it . Once you've got that out of the way, you won't have this huge FIRST that you haven't accomplished yet.
Hope this helps!! And just know you're not alone, so many of us can relate to what you're saying :)