By perusing this site one could easily get the idea that it's normal. Then again, I think it depends on how you define "normal."
The bottom line is that just so long as it's nonsexual, then there's not anything inherently wrong with it. And it's indeed my opinion that if pedophiles truly "love" kids (look up the etymology of the word "pedophile"), then they would do what they can to focus that energy into a positive force for the mutual benefit of all parties involved.
What I'm saying is that I'm pretty sure kids don't need, or want, to be sexually approached by adults. What they DO need is friendship and guidance. Every self-described "child lover" should bare that in mind. You can't choose your orientation. You CAN choose what you do with it.
On a side note, what I find striking is the fact that seemingly all admitted pedophiles on this site express an affinity for girls - and girls exclusively. It kind of makes one wonder about all these stories we hear about groups like "NAMbLA," Catholic priests, and the like. Because wherever those types are, they sure as hell aren't here.
There's this girl that I've sort of developed feelings for recently. Our families have been friends for a long time, but I've never really thought of her as like any thing other than a little sister until recently. She's going through puberty right now, and has gotten very pretty lately. She was always really mature, nice, and smart and really the type of girl that I like, but there's a big age gap between us- I'm 20 and she's 12. I feel really really bad for feeling about her that way, but I can't stop thinking about her lately.
To be honest I'm just a regular guy, most people would say I'm decently attractive, and pretty easy going, but I've honestly never had a girlfriend. I've always been too busy or just never meet the right girl. Throughout middle school and high school many of the girls I knew were really mean and would often tease,spread rumors ,etc... Now in college its still similar- many of the girls I meet are pretty shallow. It's always either the girls I meet have a good personality but not physically attractive to me (guess that makes me shallow too) or vice versa. I know nothing would ever happen between me and her, and she probably doesn't feel the same way, but I still can't help but imagine what it would have been like if I were her age going to the same school as her, or just taking her somewhere on a date like to the movies or carnival or something. I'm not sure, I usually don't feel this way about people and feel really bad that I feel this way about her but I can't stop thinking about her.
There seems to be a couple of us in similar situations...You can find my question by searching "Is it normal to like younger girls?" and read all the responses and details on the post after finding it, I'm curious as to what you think..
It's difficult to discern at which point a sexual or romantic interest goes from being abnormal to normal; we mustn't forget that a great deal of our views on this issue are shapes largely by societal norms and legislation. Regardless, the overwhelming majority of people, including myself, agree that a certain line must be distinctly drawn. So long as you're not sexually approaching kids, it would be quite the stretch to assume that you're doing anything wrong.
However, it must be kept in mind that my view on this subject is merely a rational one - one that is NOT held by a large percentage of society. In fact, I can tell you from firsthand experience that merely having a major soft-spot for kids is often enough to make you a target, even if you never provide any indication that your interest is anything other than completely innocent.
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By perusing this site one could easily get the idea that it's normal. Then again, I think it depends on how you define "normal."
The bottom line is that just so long as it's nonsexual, then there's not anything inherently wrong with it. And it's indeed my opinion that if pedophiles truly "love" kids (look up the etymology of the word "pedophile"), then they would do what they can to focus that energy into a positive force for the mutual benefit of all parties involved.
What I'm saying is that I'm pretty sure kids don't need, or want, to be sexually approached by adults. What they DO need is friendship and guidance. Every self-described "child lover" should bare that in mind. You can't choose your orientation. You CAN choose what you do with it.
On a side note, what I find striking is the fact that seemingly all admitted pedophiles on this site express an affinity for girls - and girls exclusively. It kind of makes one wonder about all these stories we hear about groups like "NAMbLA," Catholic priests, and the like. Because wherever those types are, they sure as hell aren't here.
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Really mature reply.
Check out my question:
There's this girl that I've sort of developed feelings for recently. Our families have been friends for a long time, but I've never really thought of her as like any thing other than a little sister until recently. She's going through puberty right now, and has gotten very pretty lately. She was always really mature, nice, and smart and really the type of girl that I like, but there's a big age gap between us- I'm 20 and she's 12. I feel really really bad for feeling about her that way, but I can't stop thinking about her lately.
To be honest I'm just a regular guy, most people would say I'm decently attractive, and pretty easy going, but I've honestly never had a girlfriend. I've always been too busy or just never meet the right girl. Throughout middle school and high school many of the girls I knew were really mean and would often tease,spread rumors ,etc... Now in college its still similar- many of the girls I meet are pretty shallow. It's always either the girls I meet have a good personality but not physically attractive to me (guess that makes me shallow too) or vice versa. I know nothing would ever happen between me and her, and she probably doesn't feel the same way, but I still can't help but imagine what it would have been like if I were her age going to the same school as her, or just taking her somewhere on a date like to the movies or carnival or something. I'm not sure, I usually don't feel this way about people and feel really bad that I feel this way about her but I can't stop thinking about her.
There seems to be a couple of us in similar situations...You can find my question by searching "Is it normal to like younger girls?" and read all the responses and details on the post after finding it, I'm curious as to what you think..
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It's difficult to discern at which point a sexual or romantic interest goes from being abnormal to normal; we mustn't forget that a great deal of our views on this issue are shapes largely by societal norms and legislation. Regardless, the overwhelming majority of people, including myself, agree that a certain line must be distinctly drawn. So long as you're not sexually approaching kids, it would be quite the stretch to assume that you're doing anything wrong.
However, it must be kept in mind that my view on this subject is merely a rational one - one that is NOT held by a large percentage of society. In fact, I can tell you from firsthand experience that merely having a major soft-spot for kids is often enough to make you a target, even if you never provide any indication that your interest is anything other than completely innocent.