I can understand why your colleagues said that you're "degrading" yourself. I'm sure you must be aware of the sexual attention that girls get. And you must also be aware that this attention is for sex only, that many men see women as only good enough to fuck, not good enough to work with or study with or anything on the same intellectual level.
Women have to fight for even an equal footing in life, let alone be respected as better at some things. Women have literally died for that. You can look up 'suffrage' and the suffragettes on google. You can read about how women died and were tortured so that they could have just one of the same rights that men have.
Women have trouble being rewarded for the same work as men. Women are paid less and limited in promotion opportunities. And all the rest. So, some women feel that whatever power they might have over men, they should keep and use.
But the context is king here.
You are doing this for your guy. For one guy. He gives as well as takes. And what you're doing is compromising. That's normal in a relationship. A relationship can only last if both people compromise.
I thing there's something about this situation that makes some girls uneasy, and makes some guys see you as fuck meat. I have to admit, one thought that entered my mind was 'I wish I could use a girl (or two) like that'.
And that's where the type of relationship you have with your guy is important, I think. I think it's difficult to judge whether he really respects you. That's something only you know. And if you really know that he respects you (even if you do him some sexual favours sometimes), then what you're doing is ok.
Then it's really only about who you tell.
I hope that helps. It's just. well, it's a complicated situation, and not one that everybody can understand. But I really think the only way you can judge if this is ok, is if you know that he respects you.
However, I have to say that in my eyes many relationships will end up asymetric due to differing needs.
For example, we talk a lot. But mostly about stuff I bring up. If there was some problem at work, or some interesting gossip about mutual friends, whatever. He hears me out, he laughs with me, he comforts me.
I know it's not always easy for him at work either, but it's just not in his personality to come complain about it.
So in general terms, he's serving as a kind of "emotional ashtray" for me, and I'll gladly serve as a kind of "fuck meat" for him.
Operative keywords "for him", not as a general idea.
I'm pretty certain he respects me, if not, I could not love him so much. Matter of fact, I doubt I could be in a happy relationship with a guy who's respect for me depends on my limited sexual willingness, rather than on my personality.
IIN I let my boyfriend have sex with me even when I'm not in the mood?
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I can understand why your colleagues said that you're "degrading" yourself. I'm sure you must be aware of the sexual attention that girls get. And you must also be aware that this attention is for sex only, that many men see women as only good enough to fuck, not good enough to work with or study with or anything on the same intellectual level.
Women have to fight for even an equal footing in life, let alone be respected as better at some things. Women have literally died for that. You can look up 'suffrage' and the suffragettes on google. You can read about how women died and were tortured so that they could have just one of the same rights that men have.
Women have trouble being rewarded for the same work as men. Women are paid less and limited in promotion opportunities. And all the rest. So, some women feel that whatever power they might have over men, they should keep and use.
But the context is king here.
You are doing this for your guy. For one guy. He gives as well as takes. And what you're doing is compromising. That's normal in a relationship. A relationship can only last if both people compromise.
I thing there's something about this situation that makes some girls uneasy, and makes some guys see you as fuck meat. I have to admit, one thought that entered my mind was 'I wish I could use a girl (or two) like that'.
And that's where the type of relationship you have with your guy is important, I think. I think it's difficult to judge whether he really respects you. That's something only you know. And if you really know that he respects you (even if you do him some sexual favours sometimes), then what you're doing is ok.
Then it's really only about who you tell.
I hope that helps. It's just. well, it's a complicated situation, and not one that everybody can understand. But I really think the only way you can judge if this is ok, is if you know that he respects you.
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Thank you for that elaborate answer.
However, I have to say that in my eyes many relationships will end up asymetric due to differing needs.
For example, we talk a lot. But mostly about stuff I bring up. If there was some problem at work, or some interesting gossip about mutual friends, whatever. He hears me out, he laughs with me, he comforts me.
I know it's not always easy for him at work either, but it's just not in his personality to come complain about it.
So in general terms, he's serving as a kind of "emotional ashtray" for me, and I'll gladly serve as a kind of "fuck meat" for him.
Operative keywords "for him", not as a general idea.
I'm pretty certain he respects me, if not, I could not love him so much. Matter of fact, I doubt I could be in a happy relationship with a guy who's respect for me depends on my limited sexual willingness, rather than on my personality.
^ Bravo!! ^