IIN I let my boyfriend have sex with me even when I'm not in the mood?

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  • As long as you enjoy it sometimes I don't see the issue. I hate those women who use sex as a way to control their partner. Dont deprive your partner of sex just because you're mad at them. A friend once got into a heated debate with my husband and deprived him of sex on his birthday because he didn't jump to her defense. He wasn't even a part of the conversation. Now that's stupid.

    I don't always have to be in the mood to be willing to have sex. I am happy to please my husband even if I get nothing out of it. He usually returns the favor on another day. I see nothing degrading about it. Taking care of each other's needs is a sign of a healthy relationship. I too prefer a quicky over putting effort into a blow job. If I'm not in the mood for sex, I'm really not in the mood to give oral and to try would just be annoying. Unless I don't feel well, he can use my body as he wants. Also, it really isn't anyone's business.

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    • Thank you a lot for your supportative answer.
      Oh, and I definitely do enjoy it more often than not- ;) sometimes I even enjoy it "multiple" times, if you catch my drift.

      I am glad to hear you just about see things the same way I do, thereby fulfilling the true purpose of this website.
      *smile*(of making me not feel strange and alone)

      I really felt a bit weirded out since all the woman I usually hang around with were thinking along the lines written above.
      That the man only "gets it" when they are in the mood too. I think they don't even see it as a kind of control, only in a somewhat selfish way as sexuality is kind of a touchy subject for many people, and girls are taught(from parents and society) from a young age "not to give it up easily" or else they're sluts, or worse.(not that I agree with that, but it may affect the way they think about sex in general)

      One also said she did it seldomly in a past relationship when the guy had a way higher sexual appetite than she does, but it's just too revolting and inconvenient to endure.

      Now, i know we are not all "equal" down there. May i ask how that feels for you? Like, physically? Because i was considering that maybe that also plays into how people see it-
      With the lube, it's just a minor inconvenience to me, not painful or something.
      Rather akin to a slight itch on my nose that I can't scratch. Like, sure it would feel better without, but it's not so bad i have to throw a tantrum about it.

      Either way, again, thanks!

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    • I agree with this here.

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    • I've never wanted to thumb something a million times so badly. This was perfectly written and a really good stance on the issue.

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    • Exactly what I wanted to say. Sometimes I'm not in the mood but still have sex too.

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