Is it normal i lashed out?

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Basically my mum passed away about 2 months ago and pretty much everyone at work thought I was a psychopath or something because I didn't cry every time someone brought it up. A lot of people were really bitchy to me and would treat me like I was stupid.

About 3 weeks ago I kinda lashed out at one of the managers. He told me I always seemed to be frowning at him so I cold him it was because I didn't like him very much and then I ignored him for a couple of shifts.

About 2 weeks ago I told a few people I do care about stuff, I just don't really cry about it. Everyone was nice to me for a shift after that. But I think that manager must have said something about what I said to him because everyone's being kinda bitchy again.

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  • Boojum
    6 years ago

    You dealt with your mother's death in the way that was right for you. Nobody has the right to tell you how you should cope with that loss. Nobody has the right to expect you to put on a show of soap-opera, super-dramatic grieving.

    The world is full of stupid, petty people. One of the most important life-skills is learning how to ignore them, and just get on with your own life as best you can.

    Having said that, telling a manager that you think he's a dick (or words to that effect) is not very wise. Another important life-skill is learning how to lie convincingly to people who can make your life difficult, if they so choose.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      6 years ago

      So what should I say to apologize to him then?

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      • JSYK27
        6 years ago

        First off sorry to hear about you mum..

        I would approach your manager when you feel calm and say that you apologise for how you made your point (ie calling him a dick), but that he caught you off guard with his comment at a time when you are still working through a bereavement.

        Any manager worth their weight shouldn't take that kind of thing personally but be sensitive to the ups and downs in their employee's lives, and offering their support - whether it's wanted or not.

        Hope you get sorted!

        *For the record though I would have called him a dick too ! The cheek of him.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          6 years ago

          Do you think it looks bad that I ignored him for a few days afterwards?

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  • YamaMayaNyaa
    6 years ago

    you should apologise for your own benefit...you don't really have to mean it, just convince everyone you mean it.

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  • Anonymous Post Author
    6 years ago

    So what should I say to apologize to him then?

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    • Murun
      6 years ago

      Tell him what you've told us! He should understand if he knows about your bereavement.

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      • Anonymous Post Author
        6 years ago

        Everyone knows about my mum.

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