I disagree. The eye contact symptom is the clue. Narcissism is not the problem at all. Subliminal shame is culprit, and it can be really insidious. There are videos on YouTube about how to feel comfortable In your skin. They would be a good start.
People with a deeply rooted sense of shame can be highly functional but they will never experience a full sense of happiness and well being.
Shame I have. Shame for action, reaction, or instinctual movement I make happen. A sneeze, a cough, itching, tapping my finger or foot, if I look at a noise, I all see these as behavioral flaws. It brings me constant discomfort to have my mind running fifty different things at once, while also cracking down on just a shiver or shift of my foot if it isn't beneficial to me or the situation. The dark clothing may help not bring too much attention to my behavioral upsets.
I haven't studied my skin recently, as it turns me off drastically, and as I always shower in the dark. But I have ingrained in my mind that any freckle, two hairs coming from one pore, simple scar, or temporary red mark from pressure or a scratch,will disgust those around me and upset an entire room. So I prevent that, in an odd way.
I feel shame towards any mannerism I have, any time I tap my fingers from anxiousness, or itch my arm, fix a wringle in my clothing. All of that brings me embarrassment. But all of my actions feel subliminal, I don't know why I wear all blacks and greys, it may be that I don't bring attention to myself when I have to adjust my behavior, I'm not sure. I haven't really studied my skin in a while, I shower in the dark, but I know it's impossible for it to be perfect. I may have a scar, a freckle, an ingrown hair, those white or pink marks after you scratch or put pressure on your skin. All of that makes me sick.
Is it normal I have a problem with people seeing my skin?
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I disagree. The eye contact symptom is the clue. Narcissism is not the problem at all. Subliminal shame is culprit, and it can be really insidious. There are videos on YouTube about how to feel comfortable In your skin. They would be a good start.
People with a deeply rooted sense of shame can be highly functional but they will never experience a full sense of happiness and well being.
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Shame I have. Shame for action, reaction, or instinctual movement I make happen. A sneeze, a cough, itching, tapping my finger or foot, if I look at a noise, I all see these as behavioral flaws. It brings me constant discomfort to have my mind running fifty different things at once, while also cracking down on just a shiver or shift of my foot if it isn't beneficial to me or the situation. The dark clothing may help not bring too much attention to my behavioral upsets.
I haven't studied my skin recently, as it turns me off drastically, and as I always shower in the dark. But I have ingrained in my mind that any freckle, two hairs coming from one pore, simple scar, or temporary red mark from pressure or a scratch,will disgust those around me and upset an entire room. So I prevent that, in an odd way.
I feel shame towards any mannerism I have, any time I tap my fingers from anxiousness, or itch my arm, fix a wringle in my clothing. All of that brings me embarrassment. But all of my actions feel subliminal, I don't know why I wear all blacks and greys, it may be that I don't bring attention to myself when I have to adjust my behavior, I'm not sure. I haven't really studied my skin in a while, I shower in the dark, but I know it's impossible for it to be perfect. I may have a scar, a freckle, an ingrown hair, those white or pink marks after you scratch or put pressure on your skin. All of that makes me sick.