Your real problem is that your alone.You have adopted a narcicists view point.Is no man good enough for you?Deep down you think you are ugly,and are in denial,
using this as a distraction thereby lying to your self.None of us think we are what we think we should be,and sometimes lie to ourselves,not really knowing that we are unique and beautiful in our own way.Once we accept ourselves as we are,we find others accepting us as well .Loseing all doubts we may of had in the past.Quit being so insecure,be that brave beautiful woman I and everyone else see before us.
I disagree. The eye contact symptom is the clue. Narcissism is not the problem at all. Subliminal shame is culprit, and it can be really insidious. There are videos on YouTube about how to feel comfortable In your skin. They would be a good start.
People with a deeply rooted sense of shame can be highly functional but they will never experience a full sense of happiness and well being.
Shame I have. Shame for action, reaction, or instinctual movement I make happen. A sneeze, a cough, itching, tapping my finger or foot, if I look at a noise, I all see these as behavioral flaws. It brings me constant discomfort to have my mind running fifty different things at once, while also cracking down on just a shiver or shift of my foot if it isn't beneficial to me or the situation. The dark clothing may help not bring too much attention to my behavioral upsets.
I haven't studied my skin recently, as it turns me off drastically, and as I always shower in the dark. But I have ingrained in my mind that any freckle, two hairs coming from one pore, simple scar, or temporary red mark from pressure or a scratch,will disgust those around me and upset an entire room. So I prevent that, in an odd way.
I feel shame towards any mannerism I have, any time I tap my fingers from anxiousness, or itch my arm, fix a wringle in my clothing. All of that brings me embarrassment. But all of my actions feel subliminal, I don't know why I wear all blacks and greys, it may be that I don't bring attention to myself when I have to adjust my behavior, I'm not sure. I haven't really studied my skin in a while, I shower in the dark, but I know it's impossible for it to be perfect. I may have a scar, a freckle, an ingrown hair, those white or pink marks after you scratch or put pressure on your skin. All of that makes me sick.
Self acceptance I know I have problems with, I've created such an ideal, though impossible, person in my head that I know I could never be, as no one could ever be, to be truthful. I almost find myself gross or disturbing, my mannerisms or slight movements. I'm not out being crude or impolite, but say if I itch my shoulder, I feel as though I've just insulted and disgusted everybody in the room by letting them know my skin crawled.
I was raised around women,and you get to know the way a woman thinks.Also I was married for 25years and helped with my wifes studies in nursing,and read the books she kept from college over the years.I didn't know I absorbed so much.The aspbergers synd. was a shot in the dark,as I still don't know a lot about it,but I know some of the signs that some one has the disorder.I have a family member with it,and I had a neighbor with it also.They are really mellow and kind people.I hope I helped you out,as well as made you feel good about yourself.We all need reassurance,and if you are single or don't have a significant other,you are probably unintentionally deprived of this basic need.
Is it normal I have a problem with people seeing my skin?
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Your real problem is that your alone.You have adopted a narcicists view point.Is no man good enough for you?Deep down you think you are ugly,and are in denial,
using this as a distraction thereby lying to your self.None of us think we are what we think we should be,and sometimes lie to ourselves,not really knowing that we are unique and beautiful in our own way.Once we accept ourselves as we are,we find others accepting us as well .Loseing all doubts we may of had in the past.Quit being so insecure,be that brave beautiful woman I and everyone else see before us.
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I disagree. The eye contact symptom is the clue. Narcissism is not the problem at all. Subliminal shame is culprit, and it can be really insidious. There are videos on YouTube about how to feel comfortable In your skin. They would be a good start.
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Shame I have. Shame for action, reaction, or instinctual movement I make happen. A sneeze, a cough, itching, tapping my finger or foot, if I look at a noise, I all see these as behavioral flaws. It brings me constant discomfort to have my mind running fifty different things at once, while also cracking down on just a shiver or shift of my foot if it isn't beneficial to me or the situation. The dark clothing may help not bring too much attention to my behavioral upsets.
I haven't studied my skin recently, as it turns me off drastically, and as I always shower in the dark. But I have ingrained in my mind that any freckle, two hairs coming from one pore, simple scar, or temporary red mark from pressure or a scratch,will disgust those around me and upset an entire room. So I prevent that, in an odd way.
I feel shame towards any mannerism I have, any time I tap my fingers from anxiousness, or itch my arm, fix a wringle in my clothing. All of that brings me embarrassment. But all of my actions feel subliminal, I don't know why I wear all blacks and greys, it may be that I don't bring attention to myself when I have to adjust my behavior, I'm not sure. I haven't really studied my skin in a while, I shower in the dark, but I know it's impossible for it to be perfect. I may have a scar, a freckle, an ingrown hair, those white or pink marks after you scratch or put pressure on your skin. All of that makes me sick.
Self acceptance I know I have problems with, I've created such an ideal, though impossible, person in my head that I know I could never be, as no one could ever be, to be truthful. I almost find myself gross or disturbing, my mannerisms or slight movements. I'm not out being crude or impolite, but say if I itch my shoulder, I feel as though I've just insulted and disgusted everybody in the room by letting them know my skin crawled.
I must ask, what hinted to you that I am a woman?
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I was raised around women,and you get to know the way a woman thinks.Also I was married for 25years and helped with my wifes studies in nursing,and read the books she kept from college over the years.I didn't know I absorbed so much.The aspbergers synd. was a shot in the dark,as I still don't know a lot about it,but I know some of the signs that some one has the disorder.I have a family member with it,and I had a neighbor with it also.They are really mellow and kind people.I hope I helped you out,as well as made you feel good about yourself.We all need reassurance,and if you are single or don't have a significant other,you are probably unintentionally deprived of this basic need.