I understand this must be very difficult and somehow suffocating..like too much pressure and anxiety..Sometimes, our parents put too much pressure on us..and believe me, most of the times they don't mean to! I'm not saying you should not question your mom's attitude and simply tolerate it..it will make things worse probably..I'm only saying, try to understand why is she doing this. For example, you mentioned that your dad passed away like a year ago, so has she ever been like this or changed into his pattern lately? Which one of them was closer to you? Which one took care of things more, or assumed more responsibility?..Maybe she's having hard time coping..or maybe she feels kinda alone..of course she has you, but she's the adult..she's the one who should take care of you..so maybe she's afraid she wouldn't be able to handle things right, so she's being tough on you..maybe this is her way of trying to help you be a better person (with her "don't lie! don't lie") but of course she's doing it the wrong way..
Anyway, this is just reading into the whole situation..I'm just trying to imagine why she's doing this..you can think about that too, of course you know better..
Now my idea, I'm sure your mom loves you, and like you said you don't really hate her..you just can't tolerate her behaviour..Make her trust you..so if she accuse you again of lying, don't yell, don't shout..just insist that you're not while being calm. Don't challenge her or go into arguments with her..but try to prove her assumptions or I may call it "fears" wrong by being responsible..you can also confide in someone who is close to both of you, like a family member..tell them about the grades situation and how this reflects negatively and not positively on you..ask them to talk to her and tell her to ease up a bit (but as if you haven't ask them so she won't get defensive)..
I really hope this has helped..my sister and mom have always had many troubles when we were young and I couldn't help but notice how things would have been a lot easier if they had only tried to step into each other's shoes
Is it normal I hate my mom?
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I understand this must be very difficult and somehow suffocating..like too much pressure and anxiety..Sometimes, our parents put too much pressure on us..and believe me, most of the times they don't mean to! I'm not saying you should not question your mom's attitude and simply tolerate it..it will make things worse probably..I'm only saying, try to understand why is she doing this. For example, you mentioned that your dad passed away like a year ago, so has she ever been like this or changed into his pattern lately? Which one of them was closer to you? Which one took care of things more, or assumed more responsibility?..Maybe she's having hard time coping..or maybe she feels kinda alone..of course she has you, but she's the adult..she's the one who should take care of you..so maybe she's afraid she wouldn't be able to handle things right, so she's being tough on you..maybe this is her way of trying to help you be a better person (with her "don't lie! don't lie") but of course she's doing it the wrong way..
Anyway, this is just reading into the whole situation..I'm just trying to imagine why she's doing this..you can think about that too, of course you know better..
Now my idea, I'm sure your mom loves you, and like you said you don't really hate her..you just can't tolerate her behaviour..Make her trust you..so if she accuse you again of lying, don't yell, don't shout..just insist that you're not while being calm. Don't challenge her or go into arguments with her..but try to prove her assumptions or I may call it "fears" wrong by being responsible..you can also confide in someone who is close to both of you, like a family member..tell them about the grades situation and how this reflects negatively and not positively on you..ask them to talk to her and tell her to ease up a bit (but as if you haven't ask them so she won't get defensive)..
I really hope this has helped..my sister and mom have always had many troubles when we were young and I couldn't help but notice how things would have been a lot easier if they had only tried to step into each other's shoes