Is it normal i hate kissing with tongue?

I can't stand kissing with tongue. I don't know what it is, but I find it extremely gross. You're basically just spitting into each others mouths, tongues are slimy as well. Ung, just gross. I've tried in the past and actually almost puked. Guys I've dated hated the fact that I never would kiss them deeply. I mostly just enjoy soft kisses, biting or even neck kisses. Honestly just anything but french kissing.
Is it normal that I hate it so much? or have I just not been kissed properly before?

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  • yeah sexual stuff would be gross if it wasnt so awesome

    and somehow the grossness makes it even more awesome

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  • I agree, you are much better sucking a cock

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  • Mmmmmm. Slimey is exciting. So are the pheromones in your partners sweat. Kissing is a way to help you feel good about being a bad girl. It's kind of an acceptance thing.

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  • You're right that kissing with tongues is unhygienic, and it's possible that something in your past (maybe something you've completely forgotten since it happened so early in your childhood) makes you phobic about saliva and tongues. But I suspect this could be mainly an intimacy issue.

    Kissing with tongues is more emotionally intimate than sex. You can have sex with someone without feelings for them. If they're competent and focused on you, then you can focus on the physical sensations you're experiencing, keep your eyes closed and imagine you're with Chris Evans or whoever. If you're kissing someone, it's very difficult to maintain emotional distance. You're literally in each other's faces, breathing into each other's mouths, smelling and tasting them, and the other person is looking at you far more closely than the norm. You're at your most vulnerable when you're kissing.

    I would never have invested much of my time on a woman who didn't enjoy long sessions of deep kissing, since I would have taken that as a signal that she had emotional barriers up that she wasn't willing to drop for me.

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    • I don't have intimacy issues though, I'm totally down for having sex. I've never had anything traumatic happen either. I also love making out, you still can even without tongue I do belive. I honestly am just not a fan of a bacteria ridden muscle swirling inside of my mouth.

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  • Youre probably not alone in feeling that way but i do hope that you just havent been kissed properly before. Maybe if you really love thE person it would be different? The way you describe it does sound gross though.

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    • I'm a currently in love with my boyfriend. He understands I'm not a huge fan of it and never tries to force me. It really is though, just imagine how much bacteria the tongue actually has on it.

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  • i’m sure that many people agree with you. kissing in itself is already gross and unhealthy, but to involve tongues too just makes it even more unhealthy.

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    • I once heard bad French kissing described as “washing machine syndrome”. My experiences with it have been mostly awkward, one girl was pretty good but the rest were ramming it in like a battering ram or just swirling pointlessly around. It’s been a few years and I honestly don’t miss it.

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      • That sounds exactly how it feels. Most I've kissed don't even know what do with it, makes me feel uncomfortable as fuck.

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    • I actually enjoy kissing though. I think I like it more than the sex, just cause its a lot more intimate. I'm just not a huge fan of tongue action lol.

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      • oh yeah, i like kissing too, i was just pointing out the fact that kissing is unhealthy enough without tongue.

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  • I feel the same, I have always felt tongue kissing was gross and the thought of it made me feel sick. I always envisioned it being really mood-killing and gross if one or both people happened to have stale or unpleasant breath at the time (and I doubt most people think to brush their teeth before things start to get hot, lol). I've never even tried it, though my last ex did this weird thing where he would practically lunge at my face like he was going to eat it and then proceed to suck on one of my lips and drool on my face. It was gross!

    To be honest though, I've never liked any form of kissing, especially when the guy would try to draw it out. Made me feel claustrophobic and like I couldn't breathe. I really have never liked anything intimate, really.

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  • So I guess sucking cock or eating a little pussy is really off limits, and doing a little rimming is out of the question.

    You sound very young or very inexperienced.

    Your right taken on the surface and just saying or talking about most sexual activities sounds pretty gross and disgusting, but it feels so good.

    With the right person most people want to and willingly do or enjoy them.

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    • Nope theyre not. I'm not a prude, I like sucking dick and getting eaten out. Its kinda weird I know. I think I just don't like the fact that most shove it down my throat. My current boyfriend and I have kissed a bit with tongues but for the most part its just lips.

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      • Well then that said I personally would say you just haven't been kissed by that person that makes you feel like your clothes are going to fall off or make your knees week, and the hair on your legs grow.
        Most guys seem to think they need to lick your tonsils or as previously mentioned play wash machine.

        I'm sure though if you let the guy know, No, I don't French kiss but I'll give you a bj. He most likely won't have a problem with that.

        Or if you happen to be bi, tell them I don't kiss with tongues but I know where you can use yours or I can use mine for better things. Again I don't see a lot of disappointed partners.

        I will admit I think I would miss it some, but disappointment would be short lived once the alternative started.

        It may be hard to start a relationship this way though. A good French kiss with a person is a gauge for me to know whether or not I'm interested in going any further.

        Good luck with the bf.

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  • You do you, but making out us such an important part of foreplaye.

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