One of the criteria therapists use to determine whether or not a behavior is maladaptive is if it is negatively impacting your life. I know you say you're okay with not having an intimate relationship (which is totally fine, there are lots of other folks for whom an intimate relationship is not a priority for them), but it sounds like these feelings and behaviors are negatively impacting family & friendships that you care about and that, as you said, you don't want to hate them. It seems like that aspect at least is causing you some concerns or anxiety, so I would highly recommend seeking a counselor or therapist to discuss these concerns with. They will be able to help you manage these anxieties and help you figure out ways to change or cope with these feelings so you can have more satisfying relationships with less anxiety or improve your quality of life. :) Good luck!
Is it normal I HATE it when people get close to me?
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One of the criteria therapists use to determine whether or not a behavior is maladaptive is if it is negatively impacting your life. I know you say you're okay with not having an intimate relationship (which is totally fine, there are lots of other folks for whom an intimate relationship is not a priority for them), but it sounds like these feelings and behaviors are negatively impacting family & friendships that you care about and that, as you said, you don't want to hate them. It seems like that aspect at least is causing you some concerns or anxiety, so I would highly recommend seeking a counselor or therapist to discuss these concerns with. They will be able to help you manage these anxieties and help you figure out ways to change or cope with these feelings so you can have more satisfying relationships with less anxiety or improve your quality of life. :) Good luck!