I understand because I strongly dislike most of my family (the one I was born into), HOWEVER...growing up, growing older and making your own family is different. I married someone I loved and we had kids and I try my hardest to not make the same mistakes my parents did. My husband's family is so different from mine and for the longest time I HATED them because of it, even though my family sucked...I resisted them because I was so used to the shitty ways of my family that I was actually brainwashed. I was so used to being treated like shit that I found decent treatment wierd and wrong. I don't really know where I am going with this except to say I get what you're saying and I felt a similar way but that changed and it's really so much better. It's also nice to find people you want to share your life with...it's comforting. You never know what may happen and you will definitely need help from time to time. Building a strong family is great, IMHO.
I had a pretty shitty family too, but I dont feel this way because I necessarily resent people who grew up in a better living situation, its just like the overkill in terms of the only relationships that matter are family ones. or somehow you have the closest people to you should be related to you no matter how shitty they are you have to love them. Basically the kind of family structure built by friendless people who had a kid and now their social circle doesn't exist outside of home.
It's not resentment, it's actually thinking you deserve to be treated like crap and when someone finally treats you decently or overlooks your minor flaws but still loves you, at first you resist...it seems so stupid! You can even still think it's a bit stupid and just accept it and it's nice to have people who have your back.
IIN I hate all family related stuff?
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I understand because I strongly dislike most of my family (the one I was born into), HOWEVER...growing up, growing older and making your own family is different. I married someone I loved and we had kids and I try my hardest to not make the same mistakes my parents did. My husband's family is so different from mine and for the longest time I HATED them because of it, even though my family sucked...I resisted them because I was so used to the shitty ways of my family that I was actually brainwashed. I was so used to being treated like shit that I found decent treatment wierd and wrong. I don't really know where I am going with this except to say I get what you're saying and I felt a similar way but that changed and it's really so much better. It's also nice to find people you want to share your life with...it's comforting. You never know what may happen and you will definitely need help from time to time. Building a strong family is great, IMHO.
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I had a pretty shitty family too, but I dont feel this way because I necessarily resent people who grew up in a better living situation, its just like the overkill in terms of the only relationships that matter are family ones. or somehow you have the closest people to you should be related to you no matter how shitty they are you have to love them. Basically the kind of family structure built by friendless people who had a kid and now their social circle doesn't exist outside of home.
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It's not resentment, it's actually thinking you deserve to be treated like crap and when someone finally treats you decently or overlooks your minor flaws but still loves you, at first you resist...it seems so stupid! You can even still think it's a bit stupid and just accept it and it's nice to have people who have your back.