I agree, you had to have wanted it, or you wouldn't have gone through with it. I've been on both ends, doing the drunk sex thing, and can confirm..Not once was it not something I or the woman wanted. Office party boozing is a nice, easy excuse for what you yourself wanted anyway.
I've been in this situation, and the thing is, your co-worker is not going to be satisfied with having sex just one more time in exchange for his silence.
I'd talk to him, and get him to agree on a set number of times up front, like 5 or 10 more times and that is it, in exchange for him forgetting anything ever happened in the first place. Chances are he will be done with you by then anyways.
How the fuck is 5 or 10 more times going to satisfy him any more than one? If anything it's going to make him think that he could easily get a few more once those 5 or 10 are up, and then he'll keep pressing his luck after that. The only way he's going to realise that this won't work is to be denied even one, and to be told to go fuck himself.
I know I messed up, but trying to minimize damage.
If I agree to have sex with him again, 5 or 10 times, how do I know it will end there? Perhaps if I hold firm and tell him, he made a deal and has this many times left?
The number of times you agree on is not important, it can be 3, 5, 10, 20, 50. What's important, that he agrees to whatever limit you set in exchange for his silence. It's a verbal contractual agreement, and yes, you need to hold firm to the number you both agree on.
I just asked my co-worker what it would take, and he says 100 times. Is that reasonable? It seems high to me... He says once a business day for 1 year. I want to cry...
Tell your husband the truth. You made a mistake and you’re likely to get over this together. Then you can tell your husband how your co-worker is pressuring you into doing it again. It will take time for trust to be built but if you love him it’ll be fine at the end of it. Do the right thing or whatever you want maybe you even lust for this co-worker and don’t really love your husband. Shame on you if you continue this in my opinion. Honesty is the best policy
IIN I got drunk and accidently cheated on my husband?
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I agree, you had to have wanted it, or you wouldn't have gone through with it. I've been on both ends, doing the drunk sex thing, and can confirm..Not once was it not something I or the woman wanted. Office party boozing is a nice, easy excuse for what you yourself wanted anyway.
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I've been in this situation, and the thing is, your co-worker is not going to be satisfied with having sex just one more time in exchange for his silence.
I'd talk to him, and get him to agree on a set number of times up front, like 5 or 10 more times and that is it, in exchange for him forgetting anything ever happened in the first place. Chances are he will be done with you by then anyways.
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How many times did you have to fuck the guy to get out from under him?
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I'm not sure, but guessing one more time isn't enough. If I'm lucky maybe 10 or 20. He says 100 times, but to me that is too much.
How the fuck is 5 or 10 more times going to satisfy him any more than one? If anything it's going to make him think that he could easily get a few more once those 5 or 10 are up, and then he'll keep pressing his luck after that. The only way he's going to realise that this won't work is to be denied even one, and to be told to go fuck himself.
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If I agree to have sex with him again, 5 or 10 times, how do I know it will end there? Perhaps if I hold firm and tell him, he made a deal and has this many times left?
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The number of times you agree on is not important, it can be 3, 5, 10, 20, 50. What's important, that he agrees to whatever limit you set in exchange for his silence. It's a verbal contractual agreement, and yes, you need to hold firm to the number you both agree on.
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I just asked my co-worker what it would take, and he says 100 times. Is that reasonable? It seems high to me... He says once a business day for 1 year. I want to cry...
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Your co-worker doesn't know math does he? Once a business day, assuming 5 days a week, would be 100/5 = 20 weeks, so by May you would be free...
I hope you don't work at an accounting office.
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Tell him 20 max... Take it or leave it and see what he says...
a woman work year is not the same as a mans. obviously you get sick days , and no fucking on your period , three weeks vacation. it adds up.
Tell your husband the truth. You made a mistake and you’re likely to get over this together. Then you can tell your husband how your co-worker is pressuring you into doing it again. It will take time for trust to be built but if you love him it’ll be fine at the end of it. Do the right thing or whatever you want maybe you even lust for this co-worker and don’t really love your husband. Shame on you if you continue this in my opinion. Honesty is the best policy
Tell your husband the truth. Your coworker won't stop and eventually your husband will know, minimise the damage and tell the truth.