I'm not sure whether or not you are still a teenager, but you do come across that way in this post. It sounds partly like you're being a typical, sulky teenager for reasons it is difficult for your mom to divine, and partly like your mom has Narcissistic Personality Disorder, which is difficult for you to deal with, and hence the sulky teenager act from you.
If you're old enough to have a job, you're old enough to get yourself up on time for work. Of course, as you've already indicated, you know that. And you might just have to answer to "that kind of bullshit" when your boss fires you for missing work. Answering to "that kind of bullshit" when you're the one who screwed up is part of growing up. Welcome to adulthood.
I'm not really clear on why your mom thought it was your fault that she knocked over the pasta glass. It sounds like she was looking for someone to blame for something she did that she really wished hadn't happened, and maybe there was something she felt you should have done that you didn't do, so that made it easy for her to blame you for it. You know, kind of like the way you're blaming your mom because you didn't get up for work on time?
Talking to her child about how many guys are checking her out is definitely an NPD move. You should tell her in a more adult manner how that makes you feel. If she doesn't get that already (and really, as a mother, she certainly should), then you playing the sulky teenager isn't going to help her to understand your position any better.
Really, it sounds like the two of you could definitely benefit from professional counseling.
Is it Normal I Get Sick of My Mom?
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I'm not sure whether or not you are still a teenager, but you do come across that way in this post. It sounds partly like you're being a typical, sulky teenager for reasons it is difficult for your mom to divine, and partly like your mom has Narcissistic Personality Disorder, which is difficult for you to deal with, and hence the sulky teenager act from you.
If you're old enough to have a job, you're old enough to get yourself up on time for work. Of course, as you've already indicated, you know that. And you might just have to answer to "that kind of bullshit" when your boss fires you for missing work. Answering to "that kind of bullshit" when you're the one who screwed up is part of growing up. Welcome to adulthood.
I'm not really clear on why your mom thought it was your fault that she knocked over the pasta glass. It sounds like she was looking for someone to blame for something she did that she really wished hadn't happened, and maybe there was something she felt you should have done that you didn't do, so that made it easy for her to blame you for it. You know, kind of like the way you're blaming your mom because you didn't get up for work on time?
Talking to her child about how many guys are checking her out is definitely an NPD move. You should tell her in a more adult manner how that makes you feel. If she doesn't get that already (and really, as a mother, she certainly should), then you playing the sulky teenager isn't going to help her to understand your position any better.
Really, it sounds like the two of you could definitely benefit from professional counseling.