That is definitely normal, yes, but I wouldn't say "get used to it."
There are ways to minimize the nerves. First, make sure it's something you really want to do. Are you nervous because of the unknowns, or because you're not really ready? If it's the latter, it's okay to wait. Don't feel pressured to do anything you don't want to do...that's just going to make you more nervous, and more importantly, you won't be able to relax and enjoy it as much.
Second, you don't have to go from zero to full on sex immediately. There are other activities you can start with, that will help you get to know them and their bodies. Again, go at the pace you're comfortable with. It's okay to just make up and touch each other, or give each other oral, or anything you want before going all the way. That'll help you know what to expect when you are ready to go all the way.
Third, communication! You didn't specifically say this, but if you're nervous that they'll do something you don't like, tell them! You can tell them you don't like it too rough or too gentle, either before or while you're doing it. You're allowed to express your desires, and you should get comfortable doing so. You won't feel as nervous about not knowing what's going to happen if you know that you're in equal control of what happens.
IIN I get nervous when I have sex with a new guy?
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That is definitely normal, yes, but I wouldn't say "get used to it."
There are ways to minimize the nerves. First, make sure it's something you really want to do. Are you nervous because of the unknowns, or because you're not really ready? If it's the latter, it's okay to wait. Don't feel pressured to do anything you don't want to do...that's just going to make you more nervous, and more importantly, you won't be able to relax and enjoy it as much.
Second, you don't have to go from zero to full on sex immediately. There are other activities you can start with, that will help you get to know them and their bodies. Again, go at the pace you're comfortable with. It's okay to just make up and touch each other, or give each other oral, or anything you want before going all the way. That'll help you know what to expect when you are ready to go all the way.
Third, communication! You didn't specifically say this, but if you're nervous that they'll do something you don't like, tell them! You can tell them you don't like it too rough or too gentle, either before or while you're doing it. You're allowed to express your desires, and you should get comfortable doing so. You won't feel as nervous about not knowing what's going to happen if you know that you're in equal control of what happens.