Or you only knowhat he hasn't been hiding From you for obvious reasons. What you'd most likely be willing to accept and/or put up with.
What I was sayin is: there are things about him and yourself you tend to forget in order to keep a positive opinion of each other and regard your situation as the best there is or alternatively, the best you could do. But when something makes you start doubting this, you go back to: there is something wrong about it.. so you start considering the old solutions.
Example: your husband or boyfriend has always showered regularly and kept himself snug.
Something happens, he starts behaving weird and neglecting himself.
Or just starts skipping too many showers=you start finding him unattractive and disgusting.
Practically, you set yourself to accept a certain number and degree of defects, and a certain number and degree of positive attributes.. which tend to fade faster leaving more and more defects for you to notice. So he grows unattractive and even disgusting to your eyes.
Especially when he starts doing things you see as negative or stops doing things to hide his own defects or make them seem as virtues. You can only stop liking him by using a comparative approach with either the memory of somebody seemingly fitting your picture of "perfect guy" or with someone you just saw or heard about... that's why I mentioned another guy getting in the picture. You just have to accept the fact that whoever you chose as a lifetime companion or boyfriend or whatever, can't meet the standards you set for yourself for an unlimited time. Also because your standards might change. That's all.
Ok, here's something to know about me... I can read faces... now, probably everybody is gonna bash me for that and say I can't, but I know I can.. I studied it for a year, and have now been reading faces for 2 years.. So when I talk to him about his past, I know he's being truthful and I know there's nothing else, because he's told me all of it.. We're very open and honest with each other..
And I don't have any "standards" Literally, my liking of guys has been all over the map... I like muscular guys, skinny guys, chubby guys, blonde, brunettes, dark hair, short guys, tall guys, in-the-middle guys..... there's no "perfect guy" to me... just someone who can talk to me like a real human being and someone who can make me laugh without even trying.. and that would be my boyfriend now..
I noticed you have also been working on your rethoric and persuavive/dissuasive skills. Good for you. This little speech you gave almost made me think of you as something different from a mere hypocrit.
um.......okay? I don't know if that's a compliment or an insult...? I think it's an insult... cuz I see hypocrite and immediately see that as insult.. O_o am I wrong?
Is it normal I find my bf unattractive sometimes?
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Or you only knowhat he hasn't been hiding From you for obvious reasons. What you'd most likely be willing to accept and/or put up with.
What I was sayin is: there are things about him and yourself you tend to forget in order to keep a positive opinion of each other and regard your situation as the best there is or alternatively, the best you could do. But when something makes you start doubting this, you go back to: there is something wrong about it.. so you start considering the old solutions.
Example: your husband or boyfriend has always showered regularly and kept himself snug.
Something happens, he starts behaving weird and neglecting himself.
Or just starts skipping too many showers=you start finding him unattractive and disgusting.
Practically, you set yourself to accept a certain number and degree of defects, and a certain number and degree of positive attributes.. which tend to fade faster leaving more and more defects for you to notice. So he grows unattractive and even disgusting to your eyes.
Especially when he starts doing things you see as negative or stops doing things to hide his own defects or make them seem as virtues. You can only stop liking him by using a comparative approach with either the memory of somebody seemingly fitting your picture of "perfect guy" or with someone you just saw or heard about... that's why I mentioned another guy getting in the picture. You just have to accept the fact that whoever you chose as a lifetime companion or boyfriend or whatever, can't meet the standards you set for yourself for an unlimited time. Also because your standards might change. That's all.
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Ok, here's something to know about me... I can read faces... now, probably everybody is gonna bash me for that and say I can't, but I know I can.. I studied it for a year, and have now been reading faces for 2 years.. So when I talk to him about his past, I know he's being truthful and I know there's nothing else, because he's told me all of it.. We're very open and honest with each other..
And I don't have any "standards" Literally, my liking of guys has been all over the map... I like muscular guys, skinny guys, chubby guys, blonde, brunettes, dark hair, short guys, tall guys, in-the-middle guys..... there's no "perfect guy" to me... just someone who can talk to me like a real human being and someone who can make me laugh without even trying.. and that would be my boyfriend now..
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I noticed you have also been working on your rethoric and persuavive/dissuasive skills. Good for you. This little speech you gave almost made me think of you as something different from a mere hypocrit.
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um.......okay? I don't know if that's a compliment or an insult...? I think it's an insult... cuz I see hypocrite and immediately see that as insult.. O_o am I wrong?