Is it normal: i feel the need to tell my friends about my sexual life?

I began fooling around with a boy. Fooling around as in third-base stuff. This is my first experience doing this stuff, and we are not telling anybody because there are no strings attached. We are just friends with benefits. Or I am just his mistress. We never called ourselves anything, really. I want more, but I am also happy with this alone. I have my doubts, but I don't regret what I am doing. It can bring my mood up, and then down, to the point where I feel like I need to tell someone.

I told one, you know, showing off, and it didn't help. Told a second, more about how I was feeling, and I immediately regret it. Ever since this began, though, I have felt the need to tell my best friend ever. But he is the one who discouraged this sexual relationship with this boy and told me there are guys who don't want just fooling around and "that someone is out there waiting for you." Pfft, how pathetic. But I listened at first then I couldn't take it any-more. I just feel like if I told him he would be so disappointed, and would try convincing me to not see this boy any-more. He knows something is bringing me down when it does, but doesn't specifically know what, and when I tell him why I'm afraid to tell him, he says that's fine and says he would never be disappointed.

I don't want opinions on what I should do with this boy. But is it normal that I feel the need to tell my best friend, though I'm afraid of his reaction? And if so should I tell him, even though I have a bad feeling I will regret it?

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  • If he's a boy and you want to tell him he would probably just feel awkward, especially if he discouraged you in the first place.

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  • Sounds like you already have doubts about the guy your seeing, and I'd be very surprised if "that someone is out there waiting for you." isn't a hint that your friend likes you or knows someone who does.

    I'm guessing that everyone is a consenting adult but don't tell your friend, that'd be flaunting your lack of respect for him and his opinions. Keep it to yourself and if your having doubts just stop seeing the other guy, because your friends right. There are people out there who would love to have a relationship with you. But if you're okay with the FwB thing that's fine too :)

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  • I liked having girls like that around. Always willing to put out for mutual satisfaction. Me and my friends had a few like that, that we could count on. And we never got mad if it was no our turn for the night.
    Why settle for just 1 friend. Alot to be said for variety

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  • My wife told a frend about are sex life. Now we have 1 less frend. I would watch who you tell.

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  • Some of the best relationships are casual in this way.
    When together you share closeness and openess, when apart you just live life.
    The steady commited day in day out isnt always best.
    Some people just are not compatable full time.
    But part time it works.
    So enjoy
    As for the judgemental friend who wants you to live to their standard.
    Why tell him?
    Save yourself a lecture and guilt trip.

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  • I know people like this. So yes I think it is normal.

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  • it's natural in my opinion...

    why not get a "penfriend" in the internet and online message them ... i have quite a few friends that i can have talks about anything, from everyday life to strangest sex fetishes.
    talking is normal thing that humans do , you shouldnt be afraid of it

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